February** Dynamic Incentive Program
Go home for the Chinese New Year. In addition to reuniting with my family, I think everyone should be the same, and I have heard a lot of gossip. And the most gossip must be a matter of men and women. People, that's it, money and men and women are always traffic passwords. I also listened to it a lot. For example, there is a woman, because she was mistreated by her mother-in-law, she was planning to divorce, but then she didn't leave, and the seven aunts and eight aunts were there to discuss, what to leave, whose life is not like this (I am most disgusted by this sentence), left, can she live alone with her children? There is also a woman whose husband has cheated many times, and the most outrageous one is that she was directly bumped into by her. The husband and wife have been in trouble for many years, and they thought they would not be able to live anymore, but this year the relationship suddenly eased again, the biggest reason is that the man seems to have changed, and the woman feels that it is very troublesome to divide the property after divorce, and the money has become less, so it is better to make her feel more secure now that the financial power is in her hands. The discussion of my mother's generation is to say, this is okay, live a good life, that's it, no matter what, if two people can live a better life together, they will have a head. The young girls were more confused when they discussed: Is this okay? Can you bear this? Can this be forgiven? My sister talked about a similar gossip a long time ago and asked me the same question: "Can this be forgiven?" What the hell do you think? "I wasn't even 30 years old myself. I don't know much about marriage, so I can't give any answer. But now I'm 35 years old. My answer to this question is: "Maybe it's not forgiveness, it's just a compromise after losing all kinds of struggles." ”
I told her, it's better to look at this problem from a different angle and think about why the sober Ma Yili divorced five years after the article was derailed? A few men heard us talk about celebrities, and they were also excited. asked: "Yes, so many years have passed, why did Ma Yili suddenly remember to divorce?" thought that since they hadn't left at the beginning, they would have kept that marriage. I, and the women who have been married for five years,+ sighed in unison: "What do you men know? For women, some injuries are for a lifetime, she didn't leave at the beginning, she thought she could forget it, so she said okay and cherished it, and now she leaves, is she finally admitting that she still can't. Therefore, I especially believe in Ma Yili's statement that she "has worked hard". 
I believe that in the five years that were questioned and ridiculed, Ma Yili really wanted to start over with the article. As a female star who has been around Vanity Fair for a long time and has always had a strong personality, how could she be willing to be attributed to "forgiveness", and how could she not know that as long as she divorced immediately, she could eat all the dividends and use the derailment of the article as a springboard for her career to set sail. However, Ma Yili retreated for five years. Why, you ask? I think there is only one answer:Marriage can be calculated, but no matter how shrewd we plan, we can't calculate our own heart after all; Marriage has intertwined interests, but marriage also has unpredictable love. Turning around and walking away is the willfulness of children, and adults always live in the helplessness of "not leaving, not staying". When a woman faces a man's cheating, is there only one emotion of "shaking her hair, striding away, and the old lady will be a woman with a wide sky from now on"? Isn't it possible to have such a woman? "I knew it was best to leave, but I loved him. There will be. I think Ma Yili was such a woman at that time. Of course, love is only part of the story, and it will take time to sort out what kind of situation will arise after divorce and how to face that situation. The action of divorce is not difficult, but the difficult thing is divorce. And those who happened to take a different path from Ma Yili - the woman who originally planned to divorce, but in the end did not leave, is nothing more than because she tried countless times to leave the marriage, but finally found that it still didn't work, so she had to compromise with herself like this.
I think marriage is – everybody is responding to time. **In "A Woman's Epic", the heroine Tian Sophie has been sad countless times because of her husband Ouyang Yu's ambiguity with other women, the most serious one, she planned to divorce, packed her clothes and suitcases and slept alone in the living room for a night, but decided not to leave, never to leave. Because no matter how much that man is, Tian Sophie finds that she still loves him. Tian Sophie was determined, and then used all the tricks that a woman could use to maintain her marriage with Ouyang Yu. I used to read this ** and thought the heroine was really a wreck. Looking at it now, I feel that it is not the man that Tian Sophie forgives, she just finally understood herself completely in the long river of years, so she chose to forgive herself and be loyal to herself. There is no inseparable marriage, only the fate that you are reluctant to leave. 
found that Ma Yili's long hair is actually very good-looking).What's more, marriage is indeed complicated, marriage is very much like a river, no matter how calm the surface is, the deeper bottom is full of ravines. A stone, a ditch, can change the direction in which it flows. There are too many branches and branches in marriage, and no woman can accurately calculate its final coordinates. So we are all just, at the moment of change, choose the choice that is most in line with the mood at that time, the most beneficial to ourselves, or even the only choice. Retreating for 5 years and choosing to "do and cherish" is the choice that Ma Yili can give in 2014. There is a regret in this situation, but there is no right or wrong. In the future, everyone will be happy", is the choice that Ma Yili can give in 2019. Now, five years later, I am not surprised that Ma Yili has made any choice, and I fully understand. Just like the women in the gossip at the beginning, if one day, they suddenly divorce again, I also think that it is a normal thing. Because marriage is part of fate, everyone is crossing the river by feeling the stones - marriage or not, divorce or not, it is not so important, the important thing is that you still wade through the torrent of fate after all.