When the vows of marriage are broken in the face of reality, the heart of a middle-aged woman is full of questions and contradictions. A mother's illness turned out to be the time when she saw the things in the marriage clearly. When did the promise of marriage become so fragile? When did your partner's support become so lacking? And how will we make choices when family and marriage are in conflict?
Yesterday, Ah Ping borrowed money from a few of our good friends in the group. She said that her mother was sick and was lying in the hospital, and it took hundreds of thousands of yuan to be treated. After hearing the news, friends in the group sent red envelopes to Ah Ping, but this was far from enough to pay for Ah Ping's mother's hospitalization.
One of the friends asked, "Is your husband borrowing money from a friend too?" ”
Ah Ping replied: "Don't mention it, I told my husband about my mother's situation, and he actually felt that the amount was too big, so let me solve it myself." Now that my mom is sick, I can see how difficult it is for a housewife. ”
There is a good saying: "Husband and wife are originally birds of the same forest, and they fly separately when disaster comes." This seems to be exactly what Ping's husband did.
Ah Ping recalled for a moment the vow her husband had made to her when she got married, promising to take care of her no matter how sick or old she was. It turned out that it was all fake.
And she has not saved a sum of money since she got married, and even if she has money, she will use it to pay for family expenses, but she did not expect that her selfless dedication to the family eventually caused her mother to be unable to afford the hospitalization expenses.
The best way to judge a person's character is to ask for help when you are in trouble, if the other person does not dislike you and is willing to lend a hand, that is the real affection. On the contrary, you also happen to see the other person's true face.
2.Things in marriage are people
In the TV series "Ode to Joy", Fan Shengmei's father was also sick and hospitalized. At that time, Fan Shengmei's family was powerless and hoped to find her, but Fan Shengmei was also unable to provide funds, and her boyfriend stayed away from her after learning about her family situation. And no matter how Fan Shengmei called her former partner, no one was willing to lend her money.
At that time, Fan Shengmei cried helplessly in the hospital: "It's all some ruthless people!" ”
For a woman, financial independence is more important than anything at all times. Your gentleness, kindness, loveliness, and generosity are really worthless when you have no money and need to turn to others for help.
3.Hypocrisy and self-sacrifice in marriage
In this middle-aged woman's life, marriage used to be her safe haven, a home for her to find safety and happiness. However, when the news of her mother's illness and urgent medical treatment arrived, her world collapsed in an instant.
She turned to her partner in the hope of his support and help. However, it is unexpected to find the indifference and detachment of the partner. Not only did he refuse to provide financial assistance, but he also left her to solve the situation on her own. All this made her doubt the promise and authenticity of her marriage.
This middle-aged woman began to look back on the bits and pieces of her marriage, recalling the sweet words and vows at the beginning. She once believed that marriage was a solid support for two people to support each other and face difficulties together. However, the reality made her feel the coldness and hypocrisy in her marriage.
This experience made her think deeply about whether a marriage should only show true warmth and care when it is going well. When difficulties come, should we choose to escape and abandon them? She came to understand that marriage needs to be based on mutual trust and support, not just a formality.
Her mother's illness became a critical moment for her to see clearly what was wrong in her marriage. This middle-aged woman decides to take a fresh look at her life and values in order to find a path to redefine herself.
She understands that the importance of financial independence and personal status cannot be overlooked, whether it is marriage or personal. She was determined to re-establish herself.