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Recently, readDr. Hailan's "Imperfect, Beautiful".There are many points in the book that have touched me, and I will share them with you in different topics
Sharing theme: In addition to life and death, everything else in the world is trivial.
In the book, Dr. Hailan shares: ".In the world, only life and death are big things, and everything else is really a small thing.
This means that people live in the world, except for life and death, everything else is trivial.
This point shared by Dr. Hailan in the book, although it is rather heavyBut for me, who has experienced the separation of a loved one, there is a deep resonance.
In 2018, my beloved grandfather left me, and I will never forget the last time I saw him in the hospital.
It took me almost three years to calm my mind.
Of all the children in our family, my grandfather and I had the closest relationship, and I could almost say that I grew up with my grandparents.
I have been with my grandfather since I was a child and learned "Three Hundred Tang Poems", and my "export chapter" was taught to me by my grandfather.
Grandpa was a member of the older generation of party members, and was an outstanding graduate of Sun Yat-sen University that year, and was a national economist.
In my heart, in those days,Grandpa is a very powerful figure, and it is also the initial entrance and link for me to deeply understand the motherland and the country's current affairs and politics.
It was my grandfather who helped me build a complete world view, outlook on life and values, and allowed me to firmly establish my ideals, beliefs and cultural self-confidence.
Grandpa's sudden departure caused a serious impact on my spiritual world in an instant. In that moment, I wished that time could be turned back so that I could do more, whether it was to keep or struggle, I would do everything in my power to protect the people I loved.
But when all this has become a realityI found that life is so fragile and fragile. There are some things, no matter how powerful we are, we can't control them.
Since then,Aside from life and death, other things for me are really not worth your life and time. It was also since then that I paid special attention to my physical health.
In this regard, I also sincerely admire my mother. My mom would often put a sentence on her lips, and she would say:Now that I have the ability, I have to take care of my body and don't want to burden my children in the future.
Mother's words,I listened to it with admiration and a little sadness in my heart.
I admire her because she is my role model, and she is also a mother to my children, and I will choose not to burden my children, and having a healthy body is my responsibility and commitment to myself.
I was sad because I was also very worried and scared, and if there was any problem with my mother's health, she would hide it from me.
So, in order to prevent this from happening, the best way is to visit your parents often, understand their situation, and do what you can.
Only by experiencing life and death can we truly understand the preciousness of life and the preciousness of our loved ones. Taking care of ourselves and our families is our bounden duty and commitment to each other.
Therefore, when there is a conflict between family and work, I will resolutely choose family.
It's not about gender. Some friends may say that girls should put family first, while boys should focus on career.
Not exactly. Temporary changes or loss of work, as long as your ability is still there and your thoughts are still there, I believe that you can "make a comeback" with just one breath. And the family, loved ones, lost, really lost.
If you can think like that, there are actually a lot of things that you can quickly relieve, because they are temporary and you have the power to be able to change it.
I hope that everyone around you can be suddenly enlightenedIn addition to life and death, stop "making a big fuss" about "trivial" things, and stop "bothering your mind" for "unworthy" people and things.
To borrow a phrase from Dr. Hailan:Life is long and short. Everything happens in this moment, and this moment makes up the whole of life.
Cherish your loved ones and cherish what you have in the moment. Strive to be a person who can "shelter yourself from the wind and rain" for yourself and othersIt's not that you have to take all the blame on yourself, butWhen there is a need, you have enough power to protect yourself and the people you love and cherish.
To cherish yourself and everyone you love around you, start by changing your thinking:
1.[Good at "removing the false and retaining the true"]:Mark out a lot of things that "confuse" your thoughts and behaviors, always remind yourself that "unworthy" and "unnecessary", and put the people and things you really need to "care about" and "care about" in an important position in your life manual. Tell yourself that when you have the time and ability, try to do as much as possible what is worth doing, and don't let yourself regret it, and don't let yourself have regrets.
2.[Have a "good body"]:It was once said that the body is the capital of the revolution. No matter what kind of goals or ideals a person pursues, they need to have a healthy body as the foundation. Without a healthy body, a strong body, nothing else will be possible. Set yourself a plan for exercising, and implement it, and it's best to form a "supervision group" with your friends. Take the initiative to be "responsible" for your own health, and also "responsible" for your future self.
3.[Do "shelter from the wind and rain"]:Each of us has the ability to hold up for ourselves and others, and don't doubt ourselves, because we don't "believe in ourselves" enough, or you don't "love with all your might". If you think it's worth giving and loving, you'll work hard for the people you love and the things you cherish. If each of us can work hard for the people and things we cherish, we can form a positive and virtuous cycle of growth ecology. We must insist on continuous learning, continuous transmission of energy, self-improvement, self-improvement, and jointly support a blue sky of dreams.
Have you ever been "struggling" about the "little things" in your life? Let's talk about how to better cherish yourself and cherish the people you love around you