The Spring Festival does not lie flat
The semester is over, the winter vacation is over, and the children's final grades are also out, which is really a few joys and a few sorrows.
Children who do well in the exam are relaxed and have a comfortable time; Children who do poorly in the exams will not have such a smooth life, maybe it is all kinds of tutoring, maybe it is all kinds of brushing questions.
There are a few children around me, and their parents are quite open-minded and don't pay much attention to their children's test scores.
But under the pressure of competition, the child himself "rolls" himself.
They exceptSitting at home to brush up on questions, there is also running around various cram schools, and at the same time eliminating all irrelevant activities one by one.
When friends meet and chat, the first thing they say is, "Have you rolled up today?" ”
Most of the exchanges are always inseparable from "how many points did you score in the exam this time", "what awards did my classmates win", "this teacher's class is really wonderful", etc.
All of their sense of accomplishment stems from their academic performance.
This makes us wonder if these children can master other life skills in addition to book knowledge when they grow up.
They lack survival skills – according to news reports, some of the top students admitted to Tsinghua University are actually like giant babies who don't even have the basic ability to take care of themselves.
They have a narrow circle, introverted personality, serious social fear, are not good at communicating with others, and chat directly and bluntly;
When it comes to entertainment, they also seem powerless, they don't look for fun, and they just blindly follow their parents' arrangements.
Whether it's tourism or leisure activities, they are like marionettes, acting exactly according to the wishes of others.
Aside from mobile games and short**, they can't seem to find any other more meaningful and valuable form of entertainment.
Maybe it's just part of the kids, and what about the other part?
They may be the victims of the "roll", the defective products, rebellious, disgusted with learning, and completely self-defeating.
Purely from the perspective of children's "teaching", involution actually has a positive effect on children's learning.
Everyone has a competitive mentality, which naturally coerces us to compare ourselves with the people around us, and it puts pressure on parents and children to a certain extent, and there is motivation when there is pressure.
But this kind of pressure should be measured, and it is too much.
A student once said to me, "Teacher, I'm really tired, I study at school from Monday to Friday, and I have to attend various tutorial classes on weekends, plus homework, and I am busier than usual during the holidays."
And the content is so difficult that it makes me miserable!
This "roll" is too much!
Quality education emphasizes the all-round development of "morality, intelligence, physical fitness, art and labor", and we attach importance to grades because it affects the schools we receive education;
However, we should not use grades as the only criterion for evaluating children's excellence, and the child's all-round development is the key to his future development.
Therefore, we need to "roll" moderately, and "roll" must have a direction.
"Roll" within the acceptable and tolerable range of the child and give them pressure;
"Volume" in the direction that children are interested in and good at, and use internal drive to drive progress.
Actually,"Education""Teach"with"Breeding", like night and day, cold and heat, seem to be similar, but in fact they are very different.
"Teach"It is knowledge, concepts, skills, and conclusions that are imparted, the seeds of wisdom, the spark of thinking.
While"Breeding"It is more like warm sunshine, which cultivates values, worldviews, cognitive systems and mental models; They are the soil of the soul and the food of the spirit.
"Teach"It is clear lines and rigorous logic, which allows us to understand the face of the world and master the skills of life.
While"Breeding"It is the hazy color and deep emotion, which allows us to understand the meaning of life and find the direction of life.
Teach"It is like a solid bridge, connecting the past and the present, carrying the transmission of knowledge.
While"Breeding"It is like a bright lamp, illuminating the future and hope, leading us to move forward.
Teach"with"Breeding"Although each has its own focus, they complement each other.
Only when knowledge and values, worldview, cognitive system and mental model are integrated with each other can we truly become intelligent, thoughtful and emotional people.
Juan Psychology: I am a psychological counselor, and the column has methods for healing trauma and personality growth.