Promise is a common educational method used by parents when their children are young, especially when their children's academic performance is not good, parents often use promises and rewards to stimulate their children's learning motivation. However, parents should remember that promises are like seeds, once planted, they have the potential to take root and sprout, and improper promises may stifle children's motivation. 
Let's dive deeper through a real-life case. There is a little boy named Yangyang, when he was in the first grade of primary school, his father promised him that as long as he could take the double hundred exam, he would take him to Dalian to play. When Yangyang really took the double hundred exam and went home full of joy, expecting his father to fulfill it, his father was unable to fulfill his promise because of his busy work. Yangyang was disappointed, and began to question his father's words, and even during the summer vacation, when his father proposed that he participate in a calligraphy class, Yangyang retorted: "You don't do what you promised, why do I have to do what you say?" ”
This shocked us and made us realize that a parent's untrustworthiness can have a profound impact on a child. Therefore, parents must carefully consider and act according to their abilities when making promises to their children. If you are unable to fulfill your promise due to special circumstances, you should explain the reason to your child in time and apologize. In family education, an atmosphere of integrity is particularly important. Parents should lead by example and be an example of integrity for their children. For example, when playing a game of pull and pull with your child, teach your child to talk and count; When telling children the story of integrity, analyze the rights and wrongs of the characters in the story together, and use the plot of integrity to motivate the children. When a child lies, you should guide him to admit and correct his mistakes and encourage him in time. 
In addition, parents should teach their children to think carefully and evaluate their own abilities before making promises to others. If you don't have the ability to do it, don't say yes easily; If you have the ability to do it, you should also leave room for it, and don't boast about Haikou easily. In this way, the child will have rules to follow when promising others, which will play a certain role in regulation. The education of integrity and quality must be cultivated from an early age and persevered. Parents should use the form of real stories to make their children understand that integrity is very important to a person. What are the consequences of dishonesty? What do you gain from integrity? Honesty has its own reward. If your child is honest, he will gain trust; If your child pays hypocrisy, he will be deceived. Of course, the education of integrity and quality must be cultivated from a young age and perseverance. 
Parents should also teach their children to be honest people from an early age and to be consistent in demanding of their children. Teach children that when they have shortcomings and mistakes, they should have the courage to admit them, accept criticism, and never hide them. Parents can read books that emphasize the importance of honesty and tell their children stories about the integrity of celebrities to guide their children.