In recent years, with the development of society and changes in family structure, more and more elderly people are involved in the education and raising of children. However, in the process of the elderly taking care of the baby, some inappropriate behaviors can have a negative impact on the child's growth. This article will ** must stop the six behaviors of the elderly with babies to promote the healthy growth of children.
First of all, it is inappropriate for the elderly to immediately satisfy the child's desires when the child is crying.
The elderly often meet all the needs of their children because they feel sorry for them, and this behavior will make the children become willful, unable to establish a sense of rules, and difficult to control their emotions. Therefore, when a child is crying, the elderly should take appropriate measures to soothe the child instead of blindly meeting all his needs.
Secondly, it is also an inappropriate behavior for the elderly to force their children to eat.
Elderly people often worry that their children will not have enough to eat, even if the children say they are full, they have to keep chasing and feeding. This behavior can cause children to lose interest in eating, become picky eaters when they grow up, and can also affect children's hand dexterity and hand-mouth coordination. Therefore, the elderly should respect the child's wishes and let the child decide whether to eat or not for himself, rather than forcing the child to eat.
Third, passing the buck when something goes wrong is another inappropriate act.
When children bump into tables or compete with other children for toys, the elderly often shift the blame to other people. This kind of behavior will make children form a habit of thinking of shirking responsibility and develop an irresponsible and selfish character. Therefore, the elderly should encourage their children to take responsibility for themselves, learn to reflect on their own behavior, and accept setbacks on the road to growth.
Fourth, it is also inappropriate to overprotect your child's safety.
Elderly people often restrict their children's movements and do not allow them to try new things for fear of injury. This behavior will kill the child's curiosity, risk-taking, and innovative spirit, and lead to a child's lack of independence. Therefore, the elderly should moderately let their children try new things and exercise their children's autonomy.
Fifth, interrupting a child's attention is also an inappropriate behavior.
When the child is intently playing or reading, the elderly interacts with the child or disturbs the child from time to time. This behavior can disrupt the child's concentration and affect the child's ability to concentrate and think. Therefore, the elderly should respect the child's attention and not interrupt the child's train of thought or activities at will.
Sixth, when parents criticize their children, it is also an inappropriate behavior for the elderly to protect them.
When parents criticize their children, the elderly immediately protect the children out of feeling sorry for them, so that the children think that someone will protect them and not listen to their parents' teachings. This kind of behavior will make children unable to face up to their mistakes, have a weak sense of right and wrong, and become self-centered and lack the ability to resist frustration. Therefore, the elderly should encourage their children to face up to their mistakes and have the courage to take responsibility.