On the weekend, I swiped the circle of friends, and saw a dynamic that was a group of photos of rural life, taking pictures of adobe houses, small earth dogs and old cattle in the fields, with the text "I am so happy to live in my grandmother's house".
I suddenly remembered my childhood, and I felt very kind, but looking at the unfamiliar avatar and ID, I couldn't remember who this friend in the circle of friends in front of me was, and I couldn't remember how I added her.
I clicked on her profile picture and entered her Moments interface, trying to find some clues. But I didn't expect that when I flipped it down, it would be endless. Her circle of friends can be seen all, starting from 2024 to turn forward, and the earliest one can be traced back to 2013.
I slowly flipped through the stills of "Home with a Yard", looking at it carefully, like a visitor who sneaked into her "Life Museum", her life in the past ten years was unobstructed in front of my eyes. She graduated from a key university in the south, she left her hometown to drift deeply, she moved from Shenzhen to Shanghai, she settled in Suzhou, and gave birth to twin ......
In the end, I even forgot the purpose of clicking on her circle of friends at the beginning, and I was amazed at her serious attitude of life, and at the same time surprised by the joy and brightness with which she opened up all her circle of friends.
After all, in a circle of friends that are "visible in the past three days", "visible in the past six months", and invisible to me, "all visible" is too rare.
I can't do this kind of thing by making the circle of friends all visible. I'm an emotionally unstable, tangled person. The circle of friends that I posted a second ago, I turned my head and felt stupid, and then deleted it secretly. There are also those life insights sent by emo late at night, the bitter love songs of reminiscing about the ex**, and the ambiguous temptations sent by hinting at crush, and it is shameless to look at it the next day.
Not to mention the updates I posted three or five years ago, or even ten years ago. Whether the position is WeChat or QQ, I will completely destroy them, or hide them, so that they will not see the light of day again. The only one I was reluctant to delete in the QQ space was that I traveled to Shanghai with my family after the high school entrance examination, and I took a bunch of scissorhands**, but after I went to college, I made this one visible only to myself.
Fall in love with special forces" stills.
The dynamics of the past now seem too stupid and stupid, and they are all some unsightly "black history". For example, when I was a freshman and my classmates traveled to the Northwest and drank a glass of sea buckthorn juice, I actually wrote a small essay in the circle of friends to praise his unique taste. Reading between the lines, I was so excited about tasting sea buckthorn juice for the first time that I almost didn't put "I have never seen the world" on my face. It was deleted.
For example, before graduating from college, I was still an aspiring young man with lofty ideals, and I occasionally expressed my ambitions in the circle of friends, looked forward to the future, and wrote something like "No matter whether my dream can be realized in the end, I will make unremitting efforts for it, come on girl!" Something like that. Later, when I turned to this story, I was simply shocked by myself. Was I ever so inspirational? It's incompatible with me who is now eating and waiting to die, touching fish and lying flat, if this circle of friends is seen by colleagues and friends, I will definitely be laughed to death. It was deleted.
For example, in the past, I loved to post some daily life, study and star chasing, and from time to time I would use a few of the hottest Internet words of the year, such as "xxx, I am so porridge for you!" My roommate silently helped me bring food, it was so powerful! ""The final exam is coming soon, it's really big Yali Mountain", "The in the living room, this product is really enough for 2", "Cups, high numbers are hanging again" ......
I used to be really young, naïve, and simple, and I didn't know it when I sent it at that time, and then the star I liked collapsed, and the puppy I liked was sent to my grandmother's house by my parents, and I almost finished my college because I missed too many courses, but in the end, I graduated smoothly without danger, and my roommates who used to be good have long since stopped contacting ......
Stills from Twenty Don't Confuse 2.
The past dynamics are full of memories, and I can see that my thoughts are myriad, warm and sentimental. I was reluctant to delete them one by one, not to mention that there were too many of them. At that time, the "only visible for three days" function of the circle of friends didn't seem to have been launched, so I simply ignored it and let them hang out like this in the circle of friends.
But later, more and more people were added to the circle of friends, and they became more and more miscellaneous, such as micro-business, ** insurance sales, bank tellers, and Tony teachers in the barber shop, and ...... the owner of the fruit shop downstairsI don't feel comfortable exposing my privacy, and I forget what day it is, so I close the "All Visible" of Moments.
After I was beaten by the workplace after leaving society, I didn't dare to show my true side in the circle of friends. For a long time, I even suffered from a phobia of posting on social media. I'm afraid that which paragraph I inadvertently posted, which point of view I expressed, and which information I revealed would be maliciously misinterpreted, framed, and slandered by someone with a heart. In this way, each of my circle of friends will become a sharp blade that I take the initiative to offer to the enemy, and the tip of the knife is facing myself.
Pretending to be a Revelation" stills Fortunately, later, my fear slowly eased, and I "made a comeback" in the circle of friends. However, with the lessons of the past, the frequency of my hair circle is stable at three or four a month, and the style of the hair circle tends to be "quiet and good wind", not the kind of exquisite life and beautiful ** years, but the kind of simple and positive years.
For example, patting the sun in front of the window, a cloud on the way to work, as for the copy, I usually choose a sun, breeze, leaves, night expression according to the content of the hair circle, or just post a smiley face emoji. The amount of information is about equal to nothing, no one can see my true character, and the main focus is a stable, safe, and I call it an invalid circle of friends that "just shows everyone that I'm still alive".
However, I sometimes regret that as a sensitive and sentimental person, my strong desire to express myself cannot be fully released in the circle of friends. I closed the window of Moments, which showed myselfAlthough this greatly reduced my risk of being manipulated and hurt by others, it also invisibly deprived me of the opportunity to resonate with like-minded people.
Good Things Come in Pairs" stills I can only be like most people, using other platforms as my main position of "going crazy". A "momo" ID, I don't even bother to change my avatar, and then I let myself go unscrupulously on it.
As for the circle of friends, I finally decided to take a middle-of-the-road approach. Allow yourself to confide in it, but only post emotionally positive content. I must also grasp the degree of "upwardness" well, and I must not let others feel that I am showing off. Negative remarks are absolutely forbidden, and complaining, complaining, and complaining are all prohibited.
I set a set of strict hair circle standards for myself, and in order to remind myself to keep it in mind, I also deliberately wrote them into memos, and made them ** as a mobile phone screensaver. But it wasn't long before I felt incredible about my behavior and thought I was hilarious.
Am I going to such a lot of trouble and good intentions? How many people read those well-thought-out and well-edited dynamics? Who really cares? Take 10,000 steps back and say, even if someone secretly observes and studies word by word with a magnifying glass, what can they do? Is it really worth it for me to do this?
After thinking about it for a long time, I decided to post it as before, and post it as I wanted in the circle of friends, focusing on a casual and comfortable person.