Muerforte said, "Wishful thinking in love is like groping in the dark, and you can't find an exit after all".
It's good to be in love with each other, but there are also many wishful thinking, and this kind of person is always too tired and bitter to love.
"Parents' Love" was once a classic in the minds of many people.
The relationship between Jiang Defu and An Jie in the play has been envied by many people, but there are also unfortunate feelings in this play, and Dehua is even one of the poor people.
After turning forty, she finally married the person she liked.
After many years of hard work,In her later years, she faced the problem of not being able to be buried with her husband, and it was not her daughter but her niece who did her filial piety under her knees.
In the drama "Parents Love", Dehua is actually a very distressing character.
In the first marriage, I only met my husband a few times, and after that, my husband's whereabouts are unknown.
She stayed at her in-law's house as a nanny, but her in-laws' family still poured the anger of her son's disappearance on her.
The reason why she was able to get out of this state later was due to Jiang Defu and An Jie, who was called by her brother to take care of the child.
Although it is not very comfortable to talk about the life of my brother and sister-in-law's house, I am still taking care of a large family, but the treatment is really different.
Jiang Defu and An Jie gave birth to 5 children, each of whom was raised by Dehua's aunt.
From his twenties to his forties, he spent more than 20 years at his brother's house.
It is because of Dehua's dedication that Jiang Defu and An Jie have stable logistics support.
At the age of 43, Dehua finally had her own life, and with the help of her brother and sister-in-law, she finally got her wish to marry the long-admired Lao Ding.
But this marriage was unequal from the beginningIt is destined that one party will definitely be sad.
After the two walked hand in hand for more than 30 years, Lao Ding died suddenly, which was a heavy blow to Dehua, but more serious was yet to come.
The stepsons she treated with her heart and soul did not treat her as a mother at all, and the four sons unanimously decided to let their father and their mother be buried together, and she became an outsider.
What's even more chilling is that no one has discussed this matter with Dehua at allDehua only received a notice, and she didn't seem to have the weight of an elder.
Whether it is out of love for Lao Ding or kindness in his bones, Dehua treats his stepsons as his own, treats them well with his heart and lungs, and not only raises the third and fourth children.
After the stepchildren got married and had children, they took care of the children's next generationI was afraid that my arm would be wrapped in bandages, so I took good care of the child.
It can be said that as a stepmother, Teckwah has a clear conscience, but sadly sincerity does not come in exchange for sincerity.
Even so, the kind-hearted Dehua didn't make a big fuss, just went to his brother's house to complain, but his brother also sided with his stepsons and supported the original partner.
Later, after her niece Yafei found out, she decided to go out for her aunt, and she specially invited Lao Ding's sons to have dinner together.
At the dinner table, Yafei confessed that her aunt had worked hard in the Ding family for 30 years, but in the end she was still an outsider.
Under Yafei's emotional and reasonable statement, Lao Ding's sons realized that what they had done was indeed inappropriate, and they returned home and knelt down to apologize to Dehua.
Dehua's heart softened suddenly, and with tears in her eyes, she said that it was natural for their mother to be buried with Lao Ding, and Wang Xiu'e was also very good to her at the beginning, she couldn't compete for this, she just had to be next to them.
As a result, the joint burial of the three is considered a relatively happy ending, but it is a pity that some people will inevitably feel unworthy for Dehua.
In addition, many people are puzzled by the fact that in this struggle for rightsDehua's biological daughter Ding Xiaoyan never stood up.
It is said that the daughter is her mother's intimate little padded jacket, but in this matter, Ding Xiaoyan did not reflect the intimacy.
After Lao Ding's death, Dehua returned to his brother and sister-in-law's house, and the filial piety by her side was also her niece Yafei, who was not her biological daughter Ding Xiaoxiang.
It stands to reason that even if she is an old woman and a young woman in the family, Ding Xiaoyan can be said to be a collection of thousands of favors, so why is she so indifferent to family affection.
From the very beginning, Dehua shaved his head and picked his head hot, and he only cared about his own efforts and never asked for anything in return.
An Jie persuaded her that her feelings could not be wishful thinking, and that blind self-sacrifice in exchange for love was not necessarily love, but she couldn't listen to it at all.
On the contrary, he also made an excuse for himself, saying that he paid so much just to repay Lao Ding's original partner Wang Xiu'e.
But it is estimated that even she doesn't believe in such a lie, and after finally marrying Lao Ding, she is more willing to pay, taking care of the family affairs inside and out like an old mother.
It's a pity that this kind of effort is not only not exchanged for the same return, but also does not even have the respect it deservesShe is a free nanny in the eyes of the Ding family.
It is said that the best way for the child is to love the child's mother, the child is just small, not stupid, the parents do not love each other, whether they want to live a good life or not, the child can see at a glance.
But as long as a man is sincere to his wife, he takes care of his wife with all his heart, and anyone who knows that he thinks about his wife from his wife's standpoint, let alone children, even his in-laws dare not treat his wife harshly.
is like Jiang Guoqing, she is a little resentful of her mother because of her girlfriend, but he only dares to complain to her father.
In the Jiang family, as long as An Jie is angry, the whole family is afraid to come out, on the other hand, Jiang Defu Key is angry, and An Jie will be fine with a little coaxing.
Therefore, the relationship between husband and wife has a very big impact on children.
Only when the husband respects his wife will the children learn the sameI also have a lot of respect for my mother, especially for halfway couples.
On the contrary, if the husband does not take his wife seriously, not only does he not pity his wife, but he also coldly and violently even derogatory.
Coupled with his wife's blind forbearance, the child slowly seems to have acquiesced to the fact that the mother is really as the father said, so how can the relationship between the mother and the son be so good?
Back in the play, are the four stepsons and biological daughters really so cold-blooded?Actually, no, otherwise Yafei's rhetoric wouldn't have worked.
Why Dehua ended up so miserably with alcohol is actually caused by the family atmosphere, and Dehua has never won the respect she deserves in the Ding family.
Everyone is accustomed to Dehua's unrequited or even selfless dedication, plus Lao Ding doesn't love her, the children feel this, and slowly don't take Dehua seriously.
When Dehua was very busy, Lao Ding was able to practice calligraphy with peace of mind and practice calligraphy, allowing his grandson's crying to resound throughout the family.
Look, it seems that the work in this family is all done by Dehua alone, just ask how much the children can learn in such a family atmosphere?
In addition to this factor, Teckwah herself does not educate her children is also a reason, and her influence on children as a mother is neither profound nor "profound".
In terms of educating children, Dehua and An Jie are obviously a big difference, which also affects the children's behavior in the world.
For example, when someone intercepted someone else's firewood on National Day and asked for it, An Jie's first reaction was to return it to others.
Dehua's reaction is "do something bad and be discovered", as if she didn't think her nephew had made a mistake.
And when Jun Qing lost his temper because he couldn't shootDehua will only blindly blame his brother for being eccentric and adding fuel to the fire.
And An Jie will reason with his son, saying that his father has been talked about violating discipline because he took his brother to beat, and he can't continue to make mistakes.
And what can the sample learn from his mother? Blind forbearance, pay without asking for returns.
The mother in the eyes of the sample must be hard-working, she is like a spinning top, she has been working non-stop, busy with housework and taking care of the children is her job.
Presumably she also wondered why her mother was so tired, why couldn't she live a more chic and happy life like her aunt?
Under the long-term influence of his mother, he was unable to become a man who lived in the houseNaturally, there is no way to fight for my mother.
The influence of parents on their children is far-reaching, and the children taught by confident mothers are certainly not bad, while the children taught by cowardly mothers will still carry the influence of their original family after all, no matter how hard she works the day after tomorrow.
In addition, the sample is a collection of thousands of people around the love of the people to grow up, naturally pampered a lot,Lacking responsibility and assertiveness, it is difficult to count on such a child.
Therefore, it is not so difficult to understand that it is not Ding Xiaoyan who stands out for Dehua and accompanies Dehua in old age, but Yafei.
Looking back at Dehua's life, she is actually a very poor woman, she has been paying all her life, and her efforts in Lao Ding's family are even more distressing.
But all this is actually Dehua's own choice, because from the beginning she put herself in a very low position.
And then with this enthusiasm to give, thinking about exchanging sincerity for sincerity, but in the end it was a bit ridiculous self-touching.
In fact, there are many "virtues" in our livesTrying to gain love by genuinely playing the role of a good wife and mother.
But they don't know that you have already lost from the moment you decide to give selflessly in exchange for love, not to mention that you may not be able to exchange it for love.
Therefore, come to your senses as soon as possible, don't exchange yourself for an unknown relationship by letting yourself fall in price, you must know that good love is never blindly paid.
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