In real life, we often come across people with whom we try to build a deep relationship, but end up not fitting into the circle at all.
At first we may be attracted to their appearance and words, but over time, we begin to realize that we are not as similar to them as we think.
Their words can feel sarcastic at times, but when they need our help, they suddenly become warm and friendly and make us happy.
They only contact us when necessary, and often speak without considering each other's feelings and mannerisms.
For us, there are no special conditions. I only want to talk to someone once in a while, and go for a walk together. However, they always act condescending and may even speak to us in an arrogant and hostile manner.
When they need our company, they suddenly become enthusiastic and willing to say nice things and even do small things to please us.
They treat us like emotional trash cans when they're in a bad mood and constantly complain to us about the people around them. Even after complaining, you can still remain friends. Sometimes they become mean when they talk to us and seem to irritate us.
Such people do not need to force themselves to fit into this circle. Even if you feel lonely, don't force yourself.
It's hard to imagine how they can keep complaining about people behind their backs and then turn around and continue to be friends with them. What will they say about us in front of others?
If you have different ideas, don't try to force yourself to get along. If your circles are different, don't overdo it either. If you have different aspirations, don't go into the discussion. If your personalities don't match, don't go into it. Don't try to force yourself into a heart-to-heart relationship because it's not for you.
In this stressful society, we're tired enough, but we don't need to be tired from relationships. Emotionally, it's best when you get along, and forget when you don't get along.
When interacting with people, we need to learn to choose. You can have in-depth conversations with people who share your interests, but you don't have to force yourself to fit in with someone who doesn't fit in.
Stay away from people with negative energy, away from people who complain, away from circles that you can't fit into, and let yourself be surrounded by people who are positive and understand you. After all, life is short, and we want to be surrounded by people who can make us better.