At dinner, when you face the wine glasses and expectant eyes of your colleagues, have you ever had the helplessness of having to drink but not wanting to? The way to deal with high emotional intelligence is not to simply compromise or refuse outright, but to find a solution that is both decent and not wronged on the basis of taking care of each other's feelings. Here are some ways to deal with high emotional intelligence that are worth learning from.
Imagine a scene in a luxuriously decorated Chinese restaurant with a large round table filled with all kinds of delicacies, all the colors and aromas. You sit between the guests of honour with a view of the bustling night view of the city outside the window, and a staggered cup of glass and whispering conversation indoors. At this point, a colleague raises his glass and says to you:"If you don't drink, you look down on me. ”
In such challenging moments, an emotionally intelligent answer can gracefully defuse the awkwardness without losing respect. First of all, you need to understand the psychology of the other person, colleagues may say this to show their status, or want to fit in with the group, not necessarily feel that you look down on him.
Next, you can deal with it in a few ways:
Humorous self-deprecating response:"I wish I hadn't drunk because I looked down on you, so I could have a little more time to exercise, and I dare to drink it again because of my beer belly. ”
Refusal on health grounds"You know, recently I was trying to get pregnant, and the doctor made a point that you can't drink alcohol, otherwise it will affect the health of the next generation. I don't want my kids to point at me and say, 'This is the person who won't make me a genius.'" ”
Shift focus resolution"Have you forgotten the last time you were drunk?" I don't want to be a supporting character in your story. ”
Emotionally touching shirk"I know it's not the wine you care about, it's the camaraderie between us. You see, I replace wine with tea, what do you think of this sincerity? ”
Ask for help from foreign aid to solve the siege"I'll have to ask my wife, she seems to be there today. Hey, wife, my colleague asked you to help me block the wine. ”
These words will not only alleviate the embarrassment of the moment, but also show your high emotional intelligence and wisdom in dealing with the world. Of course, the most important thing is to be sincere, and only sincere expression can move people's hearts.
In the workplace, culture at the wine table is a complex interweaving, which contains multiple meanings such as the display of power, the integration of teams, and the charm of individuals. Responding with high emotional intelligence is both a reflection of your wisdom and a demonstration of your understanding and respect for these complexities. At a dinner, your words may become the focus of discussion, your mannerisms may become the object of imitation by others, and your wisdom and emotional intelligence may become a booster for your career promotion.
Therefore, when you encounter a similar situation at a dinner, don't panic, use your high emotional intelligence, overcome rigidity with softness, and win with intelligence, and you will definitely be able to become the person who does not wronged yourself and can be respected by others. After all, a true master of emotional intelligence does not blindly cater to it, but finds that elegant balance between self-assertion and social etiquette.
Have you learned these five tricks? Tell Pea, what else do you have to do?