After reading a lot of online reports about middle school students self-harming due to depression, the mother of a high school student was very scared and asked me how to tell if her child is really depressed or has a temper tantrum.
I told her that to see if a person is truly depressed, there are three aspects to distinguish: eyes, attitude, and whether there is a desire to be understood.
The first one is the eyes
People with depression have no look in their eyes, they always have a dull feeling, and when they talk to people, they either bow their heads or their eyes are shifted, and they are rarely willing to make direct eye contact with people.
Sometimes you see that he is looking at a certain place, but in fact, there is no focus in his eyes, which is different from our usual daze, as if the soul has been taken away.
The second is attitude
People who are depressed have a negative attitude towards everything. There will always be a person who is inexplicably sad. I don't have an interest in the things I used to like or the food. Sometimes when you are chatting, you will suddenly cry uncontrollably or hide your face and cry.
Sometimes, when you are doing well, you will suddenly feel uncomfortable, and you may also have a headache, and you will especially want to sleep.
Finally, let's talk about the desire to be understood!
People with depression have a very rich inner world, they want to be understood, but they are very fragile and sensitive, a look and a move from their parents and friends will cause changes in their emotions, they want to express themselves, but they can't say it clearly, which will lead to emotional breakdown.
Many people misunderstand that depression is caused by too "hypocrisy", and such people not only lack common sense, but also hurt depressed patients in another crude way.
In fact, depression belongs to the scope of "depression" in traditional Chinese medicine, which is biochemical from the unhealthy five internal organs. "The Yellow Emperor's Neijing" says: "People have five internal organs, which are transformed into five qi, and the five qi can produce joy, anger, sorrow, sorrow and fear." ”
Therefore, Chinese medicine divides depression into five symptoms, namely liver qi stagnation, qi depression and fire, mind and mind confusion, heart yin deficiency and heart and spleen deficiency.
It can be seen that depression is a problem with the internal organs, and regulating the internal organs is the key, rather than a simple sentence of "hypocrisy" to cover up the pain of their bodies.