The winter break that the kids have been waiting for has arrived! The children finally got rid of the burden of schoolwork of waking up early and staying late at night, and stopped to take a good rest, and the school day was very busy and stressful. The holidays are particularly relaxing, leisure and entertainment occupy most of the time, and the conflict between these two arrangements makes the children inevitably seem a little lazy.
Many parents want their children to move during the holidays, which is a difficult thing, but we can't let our children "lie on their stomachs" all day long, holding their mobile phones. Why is this happening, and as parents, how can we mobilize the motivation of our children during the holidays and let them move too?
I went to a friend's house as a guest, and at noon, my grandfather called my grandson, who was in the house, to come out for dinner, but was rejected by my grandson, who was playing games in bed. Grandpa seemed a little absent-minded when eating, and sure enough, after a while, grandpa brought a plate and loaded some food for his grandson and brought it to his grandson's house. Through the door, I could clearly hear the child's impatient voice and the grandfather's helpless sigh.
According to friends, the child has been on vacation for a while, sleeps until late every morning, does not eat actively, and knows to stay in the house all day long, playing games with his mobile phone, and ignoring anyone's call. "But the children are also very diligent when they go to school, and they don't even need to wake up in the morning, and it seems that they have changed all of a sudden during the holidays. The friend complained.
Is it true that many children are in this state after the holidays? Why is this happening?
1. The more diligent the parents, the lazier the children.
We often say that as children grow up, they must learn to let go, and this kind of letting go is to give children a chance to exercise and let them grow up quickly. If parents take care of their children's food, clothing, housing and transportation, they should pack up their children's clothes, organize their schoolbags, and clean their rooms every day, ......So how can a child grow?
If parents do too much, children's self-care skills will become worse and worse. Relying on the child in everything, protecting the child everywhere, putting the child at the core of the home, all kinds of practices, resulting in the slow development of children's limb movements, poor independent living ability, and dependence on parents everywhere.
When he encounters difficulties or requests are not met, he will get angry and lose his temper. The more diligent parents are, the more thoughtful they are in everything for their children, it is inevitable that children will develop the bad habit of laziness.
2. The elderly take care of their children, and the children may also be lazy.
A nationwide survey shows that nearly half of China's children grow up with their grandparents and grandparents.
In the garden of the community, I often see a few elderly people standing there chatting with children in their arms, chatting for several hours, while the children in their hands are stupid, and they don't move or make trouble. In fact, such a child is not very "normal", it should not be so quiet, the normal manifestation is crying, making noise to leave, etc.
Because the elderly are old, like quiet, do not like to exercise, so the way for the elderly to bring children to contact the society is generally to go to the street or play in the community, on the one hand, the amount of exercise is small, the body lacks exercise, on the other hand, the lack of knowledge at home, contact with new things is also less, may lead to the lack of vitality of children, dare not face the living, will not handle their own affairs, etc.
What should we do in this situation?
1. Make a proper plan.
Laziness is not just in the nature of children, but in human nature. To get rid of the problem of laziness, you can only follow the good path, you can let the child make his own learning plan, as long as he completes a quantitative learning task in one day, he will be rewarded, so that he can taste the sweetness, and over time, he will become diligent.
2. Personally participate and drive children.
Children's laziness is sometimes caused by the objective environment, if you want your child to get rid of the habit of laziness, you need to be patient, in this process, as much as possible to accompany the child to do one thing and then do another thing, cultivate his sense of accomplishment in doing things, and promised things must be done, build trust.
3. Let your child help with housework.
Exercising children's ability to do housework, especially children's own rooms and clothes, and doing their own things can greatly help children change their lazy behaviors and make children better spend this holiday.
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