In April 1928, the secretary of the Guangdong Provincial Military Commission, ***, proposed to Zhang Ruihua, but Zhang Ruihua hesitated. She told *** I needed to think about it. ”
Ask her if it's because of superstitious notions like auspicious days of the zodiac. Zhang Ruihua replied: "No, it's not a matter of days, it's my sister Long Shengxian, I don't want to disappoint her." ”
Hearing this, he also fell into deep thought, he needed more time to think about it.
In China, ruled by feudal dynasties, arranged marriages were prevalent in the past two hundred years, and people's thinking was conservative and feudal, especially in the love between men and women, almost all of them were based on the principle of "the order of the parents and the words of the matchmaker".
Even famous writers like Lu Xun are no exception. In 1901, Lu Xun's mother said a family affair for Lu Xun after communicating with the matchmaker. Hearing the news, Lu Xun didn't even see the other party's face, so he asked his mother to help him push off the marriage.
Lu Xun, who has been undisciplined since he was a child, will certainly not accept this kind of arranged marriage, no matter who the other party is, Lu Xun will not change his attitude.
Mother's life is like a mountain that cannot be moved. Filial piety to Lu Xun, helpless to obey his mother's orders. The person in front of him was three years old and had a feudal education. Although he treated his mother and son very well, Lu Xun was helpless.
went to Japan to study in order to get out of this marriage.
During his study abroad, Lu Xun had high hopes for Zhu An and hoped that she would receive an education. However, Zhu An's parents were worried that reading would make Zhu An become like Lu Xun, so they stopped her.
As time passed, Lu Xun went home less and less, and his communication with Zhu An became scarce. Even in their thirties, they still had not fulfilled their marriage contract. In this regard, Lu Xun's mother was very anxious, so she lied that she was critically ill and forced Lu Xun and Zhu An to marry.
Although this marriage was not consensual, Lu Xun was still full of love for Zhu An.
Lu Xun's marriage was a tragedy, but when it came to the night of candles in the cave room, he chose to flee and spent many days in the study. After that, he set out on another journey to Japan.
In the following years, Lu Xun ran for his career, hardly returning home to marry a wife, until 1927, when he lived with his student Xu Guangping. Zhu An took on the responsibility of taking care of Lu Xun's mother alone, and she did not change until Lu Xun passed away.
Lu Xun wanted to divorce Zhu An many times, but gave up because he was worried about her reputation. Their marriage was a victim of feudal society, in which both suffered endless misfortunes.
Even in modern times, a marriage is not eternal, let alone a marriage built on lovelessness. In the era of Lu Xun and Zhu An, there were not a few unfortunate couples like them.
** Originally planned to join the revolution when he grew up and work for the welfare of the people, but an accident at the age of 12 could change the trajectory of his life. His mother was bedridden in early 1912 due to illness, and no matter how famous doctors** or huge sums of money were spent to no avail.
So, his father decided to try it with "Chongxi", and the most common way was to let the male of the family marry a wife. Due to his father's advanced age, this task fell to ***, who was only 12 years old.
**, a talented man from ten miles and eight towns, there are many girls who fall in love with him. However, his parents decided to let him marry her for the sake of Long Shengxian, a relative of the Long family. For this decision, ** resolutely opposed, because he has been exposed to advanced ideas since he was a child, he knows that marriage cannot be without love.
What's more, Long Seung-hyun is his cousin, and even for the sake of his mother, he is resolutely uncompromising. However, his father forced him to go home and get married on the grounds that "everything had already been discussed".
13-year-old *** is adamantly reluctant to go home, even on her wedding day. Although his father urged him many times, *** insisted on staying outside. In desperation, **'s uncle Tang Fuhua married Long Shengxian instead of him.
Although the groom himself was not present, under the arrangement of relatives and friends, the couple who had never met before successfully entered the palace of marriage. In the years that followed, although he would occasionally go home to visit his parents, he would always stay for a few days and then leave to devote himself to his studies.
Despite this, he has never had much communication with his wife, Long Shengxian, let alone such a thing as Yuanfang. Although *** is not very involved in his family, his dedication to learning and love for his country is admirable.
His story reminds us that everyone has their own choices and pursuits, and that we should respect and support their decisions, whether or not they align with our expectations or understanding.
Since 1919, when he participated in the study abroad activities in France, his life trajectory began to drift away from his hometown. Although he occasionally went home to write letters to his parents to report his safety, there was no mention of Long Shengxian in his letters.
Does this mean that he has a deep hatred for Long Shengxian? The answer is no. He just couldn't accept the loveless marriage and feudal customs. Long Shengxian also always remembered her existence, and he treated her coldly, just hoping that she would realize this and marry him else.
Although this marriage is painful for *** Li Shuo, for Long Shengxian, it is the way out for her feudal society. Long Shengxian was born in a family in Jiangjin, Sichuan, and although the family was well-off, her parents did not have high hopes for her future, only hoping that she would become a good wife and mother.
Ryong Seung-hyun's name also reflects the expectations of his parents. Therefore, she did not receive an education, but only followed her mother to learn the "three obedience and four virtues" of women and engaged in housework.
Although such a life may be unbearable in the eyes of modern people, for Long Shengxian at that time, it was her daily life. Due to the education of feudal ideology, Long Shengxian began to look forward to the day when he got married since he was a child, and looked forward to the scene of wearing a red hijab and visiting the groom's official church.
It wasn't until he was 15 years old that Long Shengxian finally ushered in an important moment in his life - someone came to the door to propose. And the person who proposed the marriage was ***'s father, who found Long Shengxian in order to "rush" his wife.
Long Shengxian has long heard of his distant cousin***, he is a famous talent in ten miles and eight towns.
When Long Shengxian learned the news that he was going to marry ***, his heart was full of mixed emotions. She was glad that *** was a self-motivated young man, but at the same time she was nervous and worried about whether she would be able to get his approval.
Although this marriage was organized by ***'s father for "Chongxi", Long Shengxian didn't care, she just wanted to spend a good time with *** after marriage. However, when she finished worshipping the church with a red hijab, she found that *** had not come back at all, and the people who worshiped with her would not uncover her red hijab.
On the wedding night, Long Seung-hyun spent the whole night alone in his new house, wearing a red hijab. Her parents once told her that ** is a person who likes to read, and sometimes his thoughts are a little strange, which is very normal.
Despite this, Long Shengxian tossed and turned that night, and it was difficult to sleep. The next morning, although she didn't sleep well, she got up early, started taking care of her mother-in-law, and prepared breakfast for her parents-in-law.
**'s parents were very satisfied with Long Shengxian's performance, they helped Long Shengxian urge *** to go home every day, and even used serious illness as an excuse to trick *** into going home.
This is the only chance that Long Shengxian can meet ***.
**Although he often goes home, he only stays for a few days at a time, and he insists on sleeping alone in the study, and never takes the initiative to communicate with Long Shengxian. However, Long Seung-hyun found that whenever he talked to ***, ** would always answer gently.
In order to be able to hug his grandson as soon as possible, **'s parents always forced him to live in the same room with Long Shengxian, but he always insisted on sleeping separately from Long Shengxian without any transgressive behavior.
Later, ** went to France to study and participated in the Communist Party of China, and did not return home for many years.
Although she receives a letter from *** every month, she is never mentioned in the letter, which makes her feel a little lost. But she always remembered her parents' teachings and believed that as long as she worked hard enough, ** would eventually come back to her.
However, in 1928, Long Shengxian learned that *** had married a woman named Zhang Ruihua. Although this news surprised her a little, according to her education since childhood, it is very common for men to marry multiple times, especially someone as good as ***.
After learning the truth of the matter, the attitude of **'s parents towards Long Shengxian has changed dramatically. They no longer regard Ryong Seung-hyun as their daughter-in-law, but as their own daughter-in-law, with deep sympathy.
It turned out that **'s parents, like Long Shengxian, had always believed that *** would change his mind one day. However, when they learned that *** had married another wife outside, they completely understood that *** would never turn back, so they decided to persuade Long Shengxian to remarry according to ***'s wishes, and also said that they would treat her as their own and do their best to find a good in-law for her.
At any time, I am a member of the Nie family, marrying a chicken and a dog is a dog, he doesn't want me, I want to be a member of the Nie family. Although she wrote countless letters to ***, she never received a response from him.
After the founding of New China, **'s parents and sister have left, and only Long Shengxian is left in the family. But she still sticks firmly to the Nie family and handles housework seriously every day.
Long Shengxian's strength made his sister Nie Rongchang feel deeply distressed, and found *** many times to report to him about Long Shengxian's recent situation. Hearing my sister's words, ** couldn't help but sigh.
Over the years, he had read every letter Long Shengxian had sent him, and he knew deeply what an excellent daughter-in-law she was.
Although he didn't see Ryong Seung-hyun as his wife, he still gave her care and help. In order to avoid Long Shengxian's troubles, he chose not to reply to the letter, but to send her money every month, and help her find a job so that she could become a member of the local women's federation.
Colleagues are also concerned about Long Shengxian's situation and often visit her home, which brings a touch of warmth to her lonely life. However, Long Shengxian never waited for ***'s return, and although she lived to be 91 years old, ** was unfortunately never able to return to her.
The marriage between Long Shengxian and *** does not have romantic love, but there is deep pity and sympathy. From the time she married *** at the age of 15 to her death at the age of 91, she has been taking care of ***'s parents and family for 76 years, even if she has been alone in the empty house for 76 years, she has no regrets.
The attitude towards this marriage is correct, they are the victims of that era, and the wrong is the era that numbs people's minds. After Long Shengxian died, ** wrote a seven-word elegiac couplet for her, "Comrade Long Shengxian through the ages", expressing his admiration and guilt for her.
Their stories tell us that true love is not necessarily built on romance and passion, but on understanding and love.