In modern society, countless parents and children are "drifting apart" because of lack of communication, and many parents also take the initiative to complain that they feel that the older their children are, the more they can't find common topics. Sometimes I want to sit down with my child and chat, and there is only an awkward atmosphere between them. 
Lack of gratitude
When I was a child, my parents tried their best to meet their children's various requirements, and even if the children wanted stars in the sky, they might be willing to try to pick them up with a ladder. They think that if they give enough love, they will be treated the same as their children when they are old, but this kind of doting is taken for granted in the eyes of children, and children not only will not be grateful to their parents, but they may also become a gnawing family at the age when they should be earning money to support their families.
When parents and children get along, it is important to retain a sense of boundaries and give children personal space and opportunities to think independently, so that children feel respected as an independent individual.
Pleasing type, this kind of communication causes children to be arrogant and inferior
In the process of educating children, as soon as the child has emotions, the parents immediately soften and please the child. Immediately said, it's all Mom and Dad who are not good, Mom and Dad are not doing it right, and Mom and Dad don't understand you. Completely lost principles and positions as parents. Such parents educate children to be extremely arrogant at home and extremely inferior outside. Arrogance is because his parents make him feel that he is right about everything. Low self-esteem is because in the outside world, no one will spoil her like her parents, and her behavior will be frustrated, and she will have self-doubt, which will lead to low self-esteem.
Change the contrasting tone
Some parents can't help but compare their children to other people.
Originally, parents hope that their children can find a role model to learn and find a target object, so that their children can know that they have shortcomings, so as to correct them.
However, if parents never see the advantages of their children, nor can they see the children's longitudinal progress and efforts, and blindly belittle their children through comparison, then the children are easy to become inferior and will be very depressed.
Understand empathy and empathy
When encountering a problem, parents should learn to empathize, stand in the child's perspective and position, and truly think about the child. Know how to empathize, so that children can feel the care and love of their parents.
Educating children is like raising flowers, careful watering, fertilization, and care can be successful, but in fact, not everyone can raise flowers well, and if you don't understand, you have to ask others for advice and learn the experience and art of raising flowers.
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While letting children learn to respect and be grateful, parents can also learn how to communicate with their children calmly and truly enter their children's hearts.
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