Rui Xiaodan and Ouyang Xue came to Beijing, and after having dinner with Han Chufeng and Xiao Yawen, the two of them came to Xiao Yawen's residence with Xiao Yawen and had a "secret conversation in the boudoir".
When the three women were together, they naturally started chatting with their singleness, and expressed their views on love and sex.
1, Xiao Yawen who "doesn't sell himself".
When Ouyang Xue asked Xiao Yawen why he didn't stay in Germany, Xiao Yawen said: "Maybe marrying a man with German nationality is the way."I had to sell myself for a residency statusDoes it still make sense? Since it's all part-time work, it's better to work early and save money earlyWhen you have the conditions, you can open a company by yourself and liberate yourself
In this reply, there are two messages: the first is that Xiao Yawen will not "sell" himself in order to have German citizenship and stay in Germany for himselfShe herself is an independent person, not for what can be exchanged for an item.
The second detail is that she is buried here to become the head of the company in the future, anyone's success is not accidental, some people have long been silently planning their future, Xiao Yawen is such a person.
When Ouyang Xue asked why she hadn't married yet, Xiao Yawen said, "I'm waiting for the person who can fool me." “
She explained: "Only people who are interested in me will come and fool me, and people who can't fool me will not be fooled." “
seems to be joking, but it is also very straightforward, that is, a man will only come to fool you if he is moved by you, if he is not really fooled, Xiao Yawen will see through it at a glance, and naturally he will not be fooled; or can't get into Xiao Yawen's heart if he is fooled, Xiao Yawen naturally can't look down on it.
2, Ouyang Xue who "doesn't raise men".
Ouyang Xue talked about her feelings and began to say very directly: "Marrying a man and marrying a man, dressing and eating, I can earn my own clothes and food, so I don't have to sell myself." ”
Ouyang Xue believes that if a woman is looking for a man to dress and eat, then she can completely solve the problem by herself, and she doesn't have to sell herself.
Xiao Yawen said that there are also emotional problems.
Ouyang Xue spoke in depth about her views:
"A little affection is basically fake. Although I don't have much education, I still figure out the matter of marriage. Parents and mothers are unreliable, why should men support women? It's because women can make men that.Then, she added: "I can't stand the thought of marrying a man and rolling around on me, and having to eat and drink me." ”I've seen that kind of **, men are hard, women are calling, and it's really not easy for women to beg men for food and clothing.
Why are women afraid of third party involvement? It's because her thing is invalid, and other people's things are effective, and that thing has to be effective to be eaten and drunk. What is the use of marriage? It's useless to be able to get a divorce, what is useful is to divide the man's property. ”
In Ouyang Xue's concept, she thinks that marrying someone is just to dress and eat, and she herself has the ability to be independent, so she doesn't need to find a man to marry.
At the same time, as a woman, she is scornful of the point that "marrying is just for clothes and eating", and she is different from the one-sided scolding of third parties in today's society, she believes that if a woman is afraid of the third party's involvement, it is a sign of inferiority.
It's straightforward, it's simple, it's heartfelt, but it's not without reason.
Ouyang Xue's parents divorced when she was a child, and it is likely that before her parents divorced, their relationship was also very bad, so Ouyang Xue has seen a bad marriage relationship, so she rejects marriage in her heart.
Since you are married, you are afraid that one day someone else will interfere, why bother to get married, it is good to live alone.
3, Rui Xiaodan, who gave everything for love
Rui Xiaodan and the two people have different views. Of the three people, she is the only one in love.
When Ouyang Xue said that she couldn't accept a man rolling around on her body and had to eat her and drink her, Xiao Yawen asked Rui Xiaodan how she felt, after all, Rui Xiaodan had experience.
Rui Xiaodan said: "You still have the concept of marrying a man to eat, you think that men are unreliable, and you don't want to risk survival for loneliness, eating is more important than ** after all." When women don't need to pay for sex in exchange for means of subsistence, when men don't need to pay for means of subsistence to conquer women, then you are willing to **.
Therefore, in Rui Xiaodan's world, she believes that women do not need to exchange their bodies for means of living, and men do not need to pay for means of living to conquer women. That is, in love and sex, men and women are equal, and it is not possible to talk about who pays for whom.
I calculated according to the information in the book, Rui Xiaodan and the three of them are post-60s, and women born in the 60s can say such a point of view in 1995, I think it is quite trendy.
Therefore, I don't know if this part was not acted in the TV series directly, or if it was deleted after acting. In short, the content of this part of the original work is not available in the current TV series.
Regardless of whether they choose to be single or in love, the three of them advocate spiritual and financial independence, do not depend on men, and do not objectify themselves. Their thinking, even now, is worth learning from all women.
In addition, China is generally sexually repressive, but the three of them can talk about such a straightforward sexual topic together, and if there is reality, they are a banner of female sexual openness. If it's just **, at least it can be used as a sexually open textbook for everyone to learn.
A good drama that has been watched n times