On Thursday, February 1, my father was scheduled for surgery, and all three patients in his ward also had to be operated on, and it is said that a total of nine units were scheduled throughout the day. And the old man of the 76th bed, this is the third time to do this kind of surgery, he has experience, tell everyone, it is very simple, don't be nervous, it will be done in half an hour, the operation is semi-anesthetic, the person is very awake, the doctor will talk to you in the process of doing it, that is, it is best to close your eyes when you go out of the operating room, otherwise it will make people feel dizzy and want to vomit.
This is the interventional department of the Provincial Hospital of Traditional Chinese Medicine, which is to intervene in the tumor**, simply put, it is to embolize the arterial blood flowing to the lesion, and at the same time place chemotherapy drugs to inhibit or kill cancer cells. 77 beds of lung cancer, 76 beds of gastric cancer, and his father has metastatic liver cancer from gastric cancer.
This is a minimally invasive surgery performed with the help of imaging, leaving only a pinhole less than two millimeters in size on the surface of the body, and a very thin thread penetrates from the arterial canal at the base of the thigh to the blood supply site at the lesion for embolization.
The doctor said that this kind of surgery is usually done 2 or 3 times before seeing the effect - no wonder the old man in bed 76 is already a veteran athlete, and it usually takes 4 or 6 times to come for a re-examination and re-operation within a month after the operation. The patient cannot move for eight hours after the operation is completed, which is to prevent the wound of the arterial canal from being unsealed, and it will take time for even the smallest needle to heal.
For example, in addition to telling us in detail about the principle and process of this surgery, the doctor also informed us of the many possible risks and the possibility of accidents during the operation, and also carried out in a specific conversation room, with ** monitoring and recording the whole process, and if we agree to the operation, we will sign and confirm, which is the basic procedure.
The 76-bed old man is five years younger than his father, his home is in Luochuan, I heard that he was a teacher at the beginning, and later entered the ** department and was a civil servant. He is a regular visitor to the hospital and has been taking care of his eldest daughter these days (last time it was the younger one). When I first arrived, I wondered why there were rice cookers, kettles and other kitchen utensils in the bathroom, and it turned out that sometimes my daughter would cook porridge for her old father. I heard that the items she used were stored nearby after she was discharged from the hospital, including the simple bed and quilt she used to accompany her at night.
Because I only saw my daughter for a few days, I thought that the old man had no son, in fact, I heard that he was a year older than me, but according to the old man, he was here, and he would only look at the door, without saying a word, and this is the old man's biggest heart disease, so seeing me and my brother take turns taking care of my father here, he is envious. I joked, it seems that you are patriarchal, and daughters are not the same.
Of course I know, in fact, it is normal for the old man to think like this, in the traditional consciousness of the Chinese people, there is still a difference between a son and a daughter, this is not strange, it seems that no one is exempt from vulgarity, the son is not around, I always feel that I am not angry, and my daughter is married, just like someone else's family. The son is not good, and the daughter has to take the place, and the father will feel unhappy in his heart, as if he owes the child.
But having said that, in the specific process of raising children, parents are rarely divided by men and women, after all, the palms and backs of the hands are meat. Even if you have a daughter, you are allowed to have another son, or you want a son, who can inherit the family business and pass on the family lineage, etc., several children are not equally loved and valued. And when I grow up, society is rigidly divided into internal and external differences.
For the elderly, there is a saying that there is no perfection in the world, there is a good, there is no two, whether it is a son or a daughter, as long as someone is around, you should be content and happy, there is no need to envy others, regrets and shortcomings in life are inevitable. Besides, my daughter is here to wash and cook for him, and she takes care of him carefully, so why do we have to be sons.
As for today's surgery, we don't have to worry too much, the risks and dangers of those accidents should be smaller than the chance of cancer in life, depending on the postoperative situation, whether the condition will be effectively controlled and improved, even if it does not worsen and become more serious, it can also be enough to prolong the life of the person, so that the father can last a few more days.
We all understand that many times, medicine may be powerless, it can only help, improve or delay the effect, and this is actually the value and mission of its existence. That's enough, so that we can live a little longer, and on that basis, live more comfortably and happily.
2024.2.1 first draft.