What should I do if someone else doesn t return the gift when I get married

Mondo Social Updated on 2024-02-02

Indeed, I had a similar experience and in the end I opted for the reverse operation and the results were pleasant.

Before that, I had been troubled for two months.

Actually, when I got married myself, I always thought she was a good friend of mine.

Before getting married, I called her **, and as soon as she opened her mouth, she asked me if I was going to get married.

I was surprised and asked her how she knew.

I've never been a big fan of communicating socially, both with family and friends.

Of course, this is not that I treat them differently, but I think face-to-face communication is more natural, without the barrier of screens.

When we meet, we can eat, drink and have fun together, and it won't be embarrassing.

Now, that's probably the case for most people.

Then I told her that I was about to get married in my hometown and asked her if she was free to come over for the National Day.

If I have time, I can take care of her food and housing.

Maybe she thought that I didn't contact her for a long time, and when I did, I asked for money.

There were a few minutes in between where the atmosphere was awkward, and I began to question whether I was doing a bad job and even felt a little guilty.

Although I don't contact her often, she got married when she was about 18 years old, and I said at the time that I would pay for her wedding dress.

She said she wanted money, not wedding dresses, because wedding dresses were not practical.

So I transferred five hundred yuan to her and asked her to buy what she wanted.

After getting married, she became infertile in a hospital not far from me**.

She told me that she felt sad, that she couldn't eat or sleep well, and that the rented hotel was too noisy.

The doctor advised her to take supplements, so I brought 500 yuan in cash when I went to see her and invited her to dinner.

I asked her to choose the restaurant and the dishes, and with his husband, the three of us had a sumptuous dinner that cost more than four hundred.

At the end of the year, she came to my city again to continue to be infertility.

She said she didn't want to stay in a hotel and asked me if I could stay at my house.

I was renting a house at the time, it was a small duplex, there was a room upstairs but no door, it was open plan.

I would have liked to book a hotel for her, but considering that she might have to stay for a week, the cost would be higher.

So I let her stay in my house and hung a curtain at the place of the door.

After they came, I was responsible for most of the expenses, including taking them out to dinner.

I hope she can eat better and stay in good physical condition so that she can get pregnant as soon as possible.

Overall, the process went quite smoothly, and the next year their child was born, and I transferred two hundred to her.

Although I have always given one-sidedly, I don't mind.

I don't think I need to be too careful as a friend, even though I'm not rich myself.

However, just when I was getting ready to get married, I called her ** because I didn't post a wedding invitation on my circle of friends.

Even though I've done some of them before, I don't want to contact them again.

Actually, I'm reluctant to ask anyone for a gift, I don't think there's any point in doing so.

For the friends who have a good relationship with me, I will invite them one by one.

On the one hand, I think it is more natural and not embarrassing, and on the other hand, I also take this opportunity to connect with feelings.

I'm not very good at socializing and chatting, and a lot of times after being ridiculed, I reflect on my social habits and feel like I need to change.

But I never thought she would be reluctant to give me a gift in return, I always thought she was a good friend of mine.

In addition, I was very busy before and after the wedding, and I had to deal with work matters.

I would pick up my friends on the day they arrived and arrange the hotel and restaurant in advance.

The hotel I chose was the second best hotel in the local area because I felt that I couldn't disappoint my friends who had come from afar.

Before the National Day, I had already visited the hotel to see the environment and booked it a month ago.

I feel like my friends are able to come to my wedding because of their camaraderie and I can't let them down.

Therefore, I didn't call her during the wedding because I was too busy.

But she didn't hit ** or message me about anything.

After the wedding, I even felt guilty for not hitting ** to ask her if she had time to attend my wedding.

But then, after another two months, I kept thinking about it.

I gradually understood the truth of the matter, and I thought that I should spend money to see a person clearly.

But I still don't give up, I want to know if I misunderstood her.

Maybe she just forgot, so I picked up my phone and sent a message asking what she was doing.

Originally, I just wanted to test her, but she immediately responded to me.

I could feel her voice saying, "Did you come to me for the money?"

So, I decided not to hide myself anymore and sent her the previous wedding invitation.

However, after waiting for an hour, she didn't reply to me, which was obviously because she didn't want to give me a gift in return.

I felt a little embarrassed and didn't know how to continue the topic.

In order not to spoil our relationship, I said, "I'm giving you face, I don't want to embarrass things too much." ”

In fact, I thought about it for a long time and wanted to find a way to express my thoughts without making her feel uncomfortable.

I said, "It's been two months, haven't you prepared a red envelope for me?" ”

I remember you said before that if you are free, you will come, and if you are not free, you will send more red envelopes. ”

I didn't expect you to give me more red envelopes, I just hoped that you would bless me because I felt that this was my important moment. ”

But I have never received your blessing or even heard a kind word. ”

Therefore, I began to wonder if if if you are not willing to give me red envelopes, it means that you are not going to continue to be friends with me. ”

As a result, she asked rhetorically, will you make up the wedding? If you don't redo it, there's no way to do it.

At this time, I understood her attitude and thoughts, and it turned out that she didn't want to give me a red envelope.

So, I decided to face the problem head-on and stop going around in circles with her.

But in the end, I still lost because she mentioned that she had transferred 300 yuan to me when she was staying at my house before.

It's just that I have no impression at all, not to mention that I changed my phone later.

If I hadn't changed my phone, I would have found out the relevant records to show her.

Since she made this reason, and I can't come up with evidence to refute it, I can only accept the reality.

I didn't argue with her about it at all, but she acted as if I was a greedy person, and gave me only two hundred dollars, regardless of our friendship.

I told her, didn't you say you didn't have any money? Why do I immediately have money as soon as I refute you, and also deny the fact that I used to have children for you.

In the end, she just removed me from my friends list, and I didn't want to say anything more, so let's just end it.

But because I was talking to her, I was late for work that day, and the more I thought about it, the more angry I became.

Even if it's already been deleted by her***, I can still send her a message through the dialog box.

Now that I know that the money is irrecoverable, and that we no longer have any emotional foundation, I attack her verbally, at least to help me vent my anger.

Unexpectedly, she actually added me again and continued to abuse me, which only inspired my fighting spirit.

I'm not afraid of her, I'm right, and whoever I talk to, I'll have the upper hand.

Surprisingly, her skin was not thick enough to withstand my wrath, and she transferred me another three hundred dollars.

I immediately took the money, afraid she would withdraw it.

After receiving the money, I lost interest in arguing with her, and I thought it was all very ridiculous, so I deleted her.

While I can't change what happened, I'm not going to let her spend the money that is rightfully mine.

The money she sent me allowed me to buy new clothes for my parents to celebrate the New Year, which also allowed me to regain five hundred dollars of lost funds.

In retrospect, it seems like she has been making excuses to bully me and use my kindness to her own ends.

Therefore, there is no need to be ashamed if you no longer intend to form a friendship with such a person.

Wouldn't it be better to get the money back and buy a gift for a real friend?

I've seen people on the internet send invitations to get their gifts back.

If the other party chooses to remain silent, they will send a record of the transfer, and the other party will usually return the funds immediately.

Therefore, there is no need to waste money on such people, isn't it more pleasant to get the money back and use it to buy new clothes for your parents, or to buy cosmetics and health products?

The only thing I get angry about is that I need to spend time and energy dealing with this kind of triviality.

So let's go of the past, let go of the garbage and move on.

Love life, release negative emotions, maybe my experience can be used as a reference for you.

For those who are embarrassed to collect debts, you can learn from my practice.

I don't think there's anything wrong with that, and I'm willing to be an example to you.

And now I feel more comfortable living than before.

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