As the saying goes, "a good man doesn't marry a tiger thorn plum, and a good woman doesn't marry a streamer hammer", and tiger thorn plum is a very beautiful plant, everyone loves it, but it is with hard thorns, and a careless person will be stabbed and injured.
"Streamer hammer" is a kind of hammer that is very smooth in the hand, which looks good from the outside, but it is very slippery and impractical to use in real work, and it is something that looks good and is not easy to use. The "streamer hammer" in "Good Women Don't Marry Streamer Hammer" is a metaphor for those flamboyant men in daily life, who like to brag and talk big, and give others some unrealistic promises all day long, and none of them are reliable.
In terms of marriage, although those beautiful women who like to go out there are good-looking, when they marry home, they will only make you wear a "big green hat", which will make the man very painful.
For marriage, we all feel that this is a very serious matter, and we all need to treat each other wholeheartedly, and we can't follow our partners now, but we are still disconnected and entangled with others outside.
You can't follow the current one now, and have children with others outside. For such feelings, how painful it should be for the parties.
In a small village, there is a man "pseudonym Zhang Ming" and his girlfriend "pseudonym Xiaomin" run a restaurant, business is very good, his girlfriend is three months pregnant at this time, and he is getting happier and happier as the days go by, just when Zhang Ming is full of happiness, Xiaomin does not want children at this time, and leaves their home.
What did Zhang Ming do wrong to let Xiaomin treat him like this?
When the two first opened the store, they were not a couple at that time, but ran the restaurant as partners. Zhang Ming is mainly responsible for the back kitchen, and Xiaomin is in charge of the front desk. The two worked together every day, and soon fell in love and became a couple. Later, Zhang Ming felt that this business was good, so he thought about opening a new store with others, so he handed over all the previous stores to Xiaomin.
But it was at this time that Xiaomin found out that she was pregnant, and Zhang Ming was very happy when she learned about it. But Xiaomin went to beat it alone.
Since then, Xiaomin's health has not been very good, and she is very weak. She decided to break up and take her luggage back to her parents' house.
But Zhang Ming couldn't figure out what he did wrong, he usually did the housework by himself, he never fooled around outside, and he never did anything to be sorry for her, why is this?
Xiaomin said that she admitted that Zhang Ming was good to her, but now that she is both the proprietress of the store and his girlfriend, she has no experience in the back kitchen, and Zhang Ming also arranged for those relatives who also have no experience in the back kitchen to come over to help. also suspected that Xiaomin secretly took the money from the store, but he was the shopkeeper of this store, Xiaomin was very cold.
The reason why she is reluctant to have children, Xiaomin said that because of her poor health, the burden of daily work in the store is so heavy, she is busy every day, and she is severely anemic, once she fainted directly when she walked on the street. So she chose not to, and there was a breakup.
Faced with Xiaomin's decision, Zhang Ming begged bitterly, in order to beg Xiaomin to give him a qualification to love him, he did not hesitate to kneel down to Xiaomin, begging her to give herself a chance and not give up the feelings of both parties, but Xiaomin still refused to forgive, Zhang Ming felt that he was sincere enough, and he was thinking in his heart, does Xiaomin have any ulterior secrets?
It turned out that before the two of them were together, both of them had a history of marriage, and Zhang Ming had been divorced for two years. Xiaomin has never gone through divorce procedures with her ex-husband, and she has a child who is a few years old.
Zhang Ming didn't say this to Xiao Minming, but he has always cared about it in his heart, his love for Xiao Min is very sincere and very careful, but every time Xiao Min has a friend who gets married and needs her to attend the wedding, Xiao Min never takes Zhang Ming to participate, Zhang Ming can only contribute money, for this matter, Zhang Min has always felt very aggrieved and sad in his heart.
How much Zhang Ming hopes that Xiaomin and her ex-husband will complete the divorce procedures as soon as possible, only in this way can he appear openly in front of Xiaomin's relatives and friends, unlike now feeling like a third party.
But no matter how hard Zhang Ming begged Xiaomin, Xiaomin just replied to him with sorry words, out of love for Xiaomin, he wanted to find out what was going on between Xiaomin and her ex-husband, so the man directly dialed Xiaomin's ex-husband's **, and the other party said that their fate had been broken, and they would not disturb his life in the future, so he hung up directly**.
After Zhang Ming put down the **, the question in his heart became even greater, since their fate was over, why did Xiaomin still choose not to be with him? Could it be that there are more things he is not known about?
Because Zhang Ming knows that both of them have a disgraceful side, since they have chosen to be together, they must accept each other's past, choose to spend their lives with her, and go to their happiness together!
But Xiaomin always had a very painful expression, unwilling to tell him what else was hidden from him. Until one day, another strange man came to find Xiaomin, and he realized that Xiaomin had another family outside. The strange man claimed to be Xiaomin's husband and that they also had a daughter.
Zhang Ming thought to himself, is this the reason why Xiaomin doesn't want children? With mixed questions, Zhang Ming plucked up his courage, and in order to understand the truth of the whole matter, Zhang Ming came to this strange man's house.
At this time, the two men were very lost, for the same woman they gathered in this house in the countryside, the strange man said that Xiaomin left their home more than a year ago, the child was born soon after the illness, in order to have money to treat the child, Xiaomin chose to work outside to make money. I never thought that Xiaomin had been gone for more than a year, and she had never come back to see the child and him, and what was even more unexpected was that Xiaomin got along with Zhang Ming again outside.
Zhang Ming only learned at this time that Xiaomin had a family with her ex-husband who registered her marriage, and she actually had another child with this strange man without obtaining a license. In order to show the authenticity of his words, the strange man also deliberately took Zhang Ming around his and Xiaomin's room, and also looked at Xiaomin's personal belongings.
This Zhang Ming couldn't figure out how a woman could go around like this between three men, and still live without the three of them knowing.
With questions, Zhang Ming followed this strange man to the man's hometown, and saw this strange man and Xiaomin's daughter, and the pitiful appearance of the little girl, even Zhang Ming was very distressed when he saw it, the child has a mother is equal to no mother, and anyone who sees it will be moved with compassion.
At this time, the child's grandmother said that from the beginning, the two of them were particularly disgusted with Xiaomin and were very opposed to Xiaomin being her daughter-in-law. However, their son insisted on going his own way, and if Xiaomin didn't marry, he let them go.
During the period when Xiaomin disappeared, the little girl has been living with two old people. For this matter, the two elderly people are often used as jokes by the villagers after dinner, saying that the two old men are "old and girly".
After listening to the old man's words, Zhang Ming's heart was very heavy, and when he left, he gave the child some money, which was regarded as Xiaomin's atonement, because there was only so much he could do.
After more than a year of living together, thinking of Xiaomin's usually busy figure, Zhang Ming couldn't figure out how Xiaomin was such an irresponsible person.
He expects Xiaomin to explain everything clearly, saying that everything in the world will have a way to deal with problems. Seeing that things have reached such a point, Xiaomin can only tell all the things about the previous two relationships.
Xiaomin said that her first relationship was because her ex-husband and his family went to Guangdong to work, and she was left with only a pregnant woman living at home, and after she gave birth to the child with great difficulty, her ex-husband often beat and scolded her, and she couldn't see any hope for life, so she could only choose to divorce her ex-husband. It's just that both parties are unwilling to compromise when they encounter disagreements, so the divorce procedures have not been completed.
And the second relationship is because she lives with this man, and after having a child, she thinks that the two of them will work hard together, and slowly through the efforts of the two of them, they will eventually be able to live a good life one day. But I never thought that this man was a lazy man who didn't seek to be motivated and only knew how to be raised by the elderly. He simply couldn't afford to take care of a family of three. So she couldn't see the hope of life, so she could only choose to run away again!
Then now that she met Zhang Ming, she was very afraid that Zhang Ming would dislike her and give up on her if she knew about her past, so she chose not to tell Zhang Ming all the time.
When Zhang Ming knew all the ins and outs of the matter, he chose to accept Xiaomin again, and chose to forgive Xiaomin, who gave birth to two children to others and couldn't explain it to the other two men. Zhang Ming loves Xiaomin far more than we know.
It is difficult for a Qing official to decide family affairs, and we are not the parties to Zhang Ming, so we can only say that we respect his choice. I also hope that Xiaomin can see clearly this man's deep love for her, since he has chosen to forgive, he will live a good life in the future, and don't encounter some difficulties in the future, or choose to walk away from the daily noise between husband and wife.
There will definitely be difficulties of one kind or another in life, and I hope that she can choose to face the difficulties in her later life, and the couple will work together to face all the difficulties and hardships of life together. Instead of choosing to deal with problems in an evasive way as soon as you encounter some big difficulties. Only everyone will be hurt in this way.
I hope that she can handle the previous two relationships well, communicate well with her ex-husband, and solve the problem well, since there is no emotion, the procedures that should be handled should be handled, and the child support should be given, so that she can be with Zhang Ming openly, which is also the best solution to deal with the problem responsibly for everyone!
Marriage is not child's play, you must think clearly, since you have chosen to enter the palace of marriage, especially after having children, you must not divorce easily. Because when you have a child, divorce is not just a matter for husband and wife.
It is a matter of two families, especially young children, the children are innocent, they have not done anything wrong, but because of the divorce of adults, the children lose the right not to be together as a family, which is very harmful to them.
is like the two children in the story, the most innocent is them, they have no chance to choose their parents, but because of their choice, they are equivalent to having no mother.
I hope that there are lovers in the world who will eventually become married, and I hope that there are no divorced couples in the world, and I hope that every child can have their parents by their side to grow up!