Wu Xie Yu's Death Penalty Psychological Process Parents Reflect on the Education of Their Children
I was struck by the news of Wu Xieyu's eventual execution, not so much as the execution, but the failure of education in the country and the possibility of a repeat of the tragedy.
On August 26, 2021, Wu Xieyu, a top student at Beijing University of Aeronautics and Astronautics, was sentenced to death in the first instance of the mother-killing case, and after more than two years of waiting, the Supreme Court finally decided to approve Wu Xieyu's death sentence, which will be executed on January 31, 2024.
However, the news sparked mixed comments from netizens. Most netizens expressed relief at Mr. Wu's execution, believing it to be a well-deserved crime. But there are also some netizens who have expressed different opinions.
Wu Jieyu, a person with a ** soul, isn't it the product of the tragedy of his original family?
No one is born with the idea of killing, let alone the extreme act of killing mothers. In particular, Wu Sheyu's mother is a teacher, and he himself is a promising scholar.
It can be said without hesitation that her death was unjustified! There is no justification for killing mothers! But if we delve into the underlying family education issues, his tragedy is repeated every day in many families in China. Why did Wu Xie Yu kill his mother? Parents should be warned!
Wu Xie Yu explained that his motive was to end his mother's suffering. The facts found in the court proved this point: the defendant Wu Xie Yu suffered from depression and had suicidal thoughts. After his father's death, he thought that his mother's life was meaningless, so he came up with the idea of killing his mother and put it into practice.
Wu Xie Yu said"Daddy is home"The early death of his father left him psychologically traumatized. For him, his father was a symbol of the family, and now that his father is gone, the family is no longer complete. Like his grandfather, his father died of liver cancer, which made him doubt his health, bored with life, and had suicidal thoughts. He had thought about leaving this world with his mother and reuniting with his father. However, after the murder of his mother, when he saw the tragic situation at the scene of the crime, he felt fear and gave up the idea of suicide.
Wu Jieyu's character is like this, on the one hand, he shows excellent academics, enthusiastic and cheerful, and sunny side, on the other hand, he shows a cold and selfish, ** mother-killing side. There are many questions about the reason for this **.
Analyzing Wu Sheyu's growth experience, many parents can't be calm, but feel ashamed.
The details of Wu Jieyu's psychological evolution from adolescence to being sentenced to death step by step towards mother-killing are dizzying.
Evil dragons are not refined in a day, and demons are not made in one day. Behind Wu Xieyu's growth as a top student at Peking University is his mother's excessive educational pressure and education methods. According to **, the details are deeply disturbing.
Wu Xie Yu has been arranged to participate in various training courses since he was a child, and his mother has adopted a high-pressure education method for him, arranging heavy study tasks for him, except for a little rest on Sunday afternoon to enjoy his life.
Wu Xieyu's final exam results came out, and he scored 85 points in mathematics. There was a question he filled in incorrectly, and he went home and asked his mother to check the test paper for him. After seeing the wrong question, my mother's face turned from white to blue, and her eyes were as sharp as knives when she looked at Wu Xieyu.
At the same time, Wu Xieyu's father was hospitalized due to illness, and the atmosphere in the family was not good. My mother, who teaches at the school, has recently been criticized by the leadership and is in a bad mood. When she saw Wu Xieyu's mistakes in the exam, she couldn't control her anger.
Wu Xie Yu, what is 79 times 28? "However, when he whispered the results displayed by the computer"2212 ", but his mother's applause unexpectedly fell on his face. Later in his academic life, such a scenario would recur whenever he did not do well in exams.
One day, Wu Xie Yu accompanied his mother to the shopping mall, and the high school entrance examination was imminent, so he cautiously asked his mother:"Mom, what can I do to make you happy forever? Mom replied with a blank face"If you get the first place in the school, I'm happy. "In the 2009 high school entrance examination, he took the first place in the school, and his mother showed his father's first smile after illness.
Unfortunately, his father died in 2010. For a 16-year-old child, his father was his reliance and pillar, and the death of his father left Wu Xie Yu without his last spiritual support, and he felt lonely and lost.
Since then, mothers who have been unable to escape the pain of widowhood have passed on their repression and expectations to their children. Although life is difficult, strong mothers spare no effort to devote themselves to their children's education. No matter what Wu Xieyu's results are, she always believes that he will definitely be able to go to the next level. Whenever his mother anxiously waited for the test results on the sofa after the exam, Wu Xie Yu would feel a kind of depression that made him stop breathing.
The summer vacation is approaching, and after the midterm exams, Wu Xie Yu proposed to his mother to travel, hoping to relax. However, his mother's answer was unexpected: let him review the course of his first year of high school in advance and ask him to take the initiative to do his homework. This made Wu Xie Yu very disappointed in his mother's incomprehension, and his resentment towards his mother gradually deepened, as if a cold, murderous heart was slowly growing, laying the groundwork for future tragedies.
After entering high school, his mother's requirements for Wu Xie Yu became stricter, as if adding a mountain to his shoulders. She keeps emphasizing"The college entrance examination determines a lifetime", which only the son obtained"Jackie Chan"results, she can rest assured. Her distant, noble, and strong personality brought extremely great pressure to Wu Xie Yu.
According to reports, Wu Xieyu's high school classmates revealed that since their sophomore year of high school, they have often heard Wu Xie Yu say that he feels tired and confide in them about his bad mood and depression.
After entering the university, Wu Xie Yu expressed to his friends his unhappiness with college life, and said that he had thought about suicide, apparently dissatisfied with the current state of life.
In 2012, Wu Xie Yu was admitted to the School of Economics of Peking University with excellent academic performance, and obtained Peking University in his first year"Triple Merit Students"He was awarded the title of Peking University in his second year"Liao Kaiyuan"Scholarship. In his second year, he was admitted to Peking University"Liao Kaiyuan"Scholarship.
In 2014, with the dream of studying abroad, Wu Xie Yu successfully passed the GRE test (ranked in the top 5% in the world) with a high score. However, when he told his mother about this intention, everyone around him praised her for raising an amazing son who could enjoy a good life. However, the mother said coldly to the people:"Enjoy life? I think he wants me to die sooner! "。This sentence made the people present very embarrassed.
In the end, unfortunately, the tragedy of this mother and son happened...
The genius boy Wu Xie Yu destroyed himself in the insults of his mother. The background of the story tells us that without parental violence, there is none"Evil dragons"。
Words hurt", Mother's cold words were like a dagger, stabbing into the depths of Wu Xie Yu's heart from time to time. Is this motherly love the call of the guardian angel or the curse of the devil?
For a child, it was too hard and cruel, and living in this high-pressure environment for a long time caused Wu Xie Yu to fall into psychological distortion, and finally went to the extreme, triggering a mother murder case that shocked the whole country.
The deeper the pent-up resentment, the more terrible the tragedy that occurs. Scholar Li Meijin points out that Wu Jieyu is a cunning egoist and a criminal with superior intelligence, and his intelligence enables him to deal with reality and interpersonal relationships calmly. However, his heart was empty, so empty that he had no soul to speak of. Perhaps his mother could not understand for the rest of her life: why did her son kill her?
Li Meijin's claims are not unfounded, but who caused a child's emptiness and soullessness? There is no such person in his family, and there is no gene for sin! Who made Wu Jieyu fall to this?
Wu Xie Yu's case in a shocking way**!
However, is it really fair to judge Wu Xie Yu based on the results of the mother-killing case alone?
Don't forget that Wu Xie Yu was still a child at that time. He longs for motherly love and does everything he can to please his mother. He won the first place in the school in the midterm exam, but even so, he could not change his mother's cold, arrogant, and strong character, and could not free his mother from pessimistic and painful emotions. He also couldn't live up to his mother's high expectations. On the contrary, what he gets is still maternal love, but it is more suffocated and distorted.
This fact is often overlooked! How much of Wu She's mother-killing behavior stemmed from his original intention in life at the beginning?
Mom, what can I do to make you happy every day? "
These words reveal Wu Xieyu's despair at that time, which makes people think deeply! Instead, he was met with his mother's indifference"I'm happy when you get the top spot. "
The pain is real for a small child to be under tremendous pressure beyond his or her years. He had tried! He is full of hope and beautiful visions for life and his mother, but unfortunately, he is defeated by his strong mother in the end and disappoints his mother.
According to Oh Shee Woo's ex-girlfriend, he is a very kind person. She had been in the United States for a while. Every morning, Wu Xie Yu would send her a welcome text message on time, detailing his actions and going. This act sweetens her, but it also burdens her. Wu Xie Yu reported his actions to her in detail every day, which not only wasted time, but also seriously interfered with the normal life of both parties. All this shows that his mother's paranoid personality had an impact on Wu Xie Yu, causing him to become paranoid as well.
As the old saying goes:"The son is not filial, the father is at fault! "
Aren't parents responsible? Is this claim valid? Let's think about who is selfish? Do parents love their children, or do they love the children on their report cards? Many parents are like this, they don't love their children, they love their own self-esteem.
I still remember one time, he took the second place in the whole grade, and his parents were very happy, saying that I had satisfied their self-esteem. "This is what Wu Xie Yu said at the trial, and he believes that he only studied to please his mother, not from the heart.
What her parents love is not her essence, but that she can be in the top ten of her class, that she can rank first in her grade, and that she can get perfect marks"。These are the words written in the suicide note of a 14-year-old girl who committed suicide by throwing herself into the river.
In fact, the happiness of the child is simple, and the happiness of ** benefits from various pros and cons.
Wu Jieyu left a profound warning to the original family. Today's teenagers are full of problems, and it is worth every parent to ponder: why is our parent-child relationship becoming more and more distant, cold, hostile, and even violent?
Spoken"Family of origin", some are willing to look back, some are emotional, some are even hysterical...
A mother revealed when talking to someone,"After her daughter goes to college, she rarely takes the initiative to share her thoughts, and it is usually her daughter who takes the initiative to contact"。
More and more young people are not only spatially away from their parents, but also mentally fleeing from their parents' influence. Isn't this also a human tragedy?
I don't want to exonerate Wu Xie Yu's crimes, nor do I want to discredit a deceased mother. It is impossible for us to know the whole truth, I just hope to look at the murder of Wu Xie Yu from another angle, because love and hatred have roots in this world.
What are the responsibilities of parents in the midst of cutthroat competition in education? It is to resist the impact of the times and cultivate a child who loves life and parents, rather than blindly pursuing children who are 100% excellent and have outstanding grades.
Please don't confuse your selfishness with kindness to your children!