In the old villages, there is a saying from the old man: "When you are poor, go to your relatives' house less, for fear that your relatives will think that you are taking advantage." Although this sentence is short, it contains a rich philosophy of life and profound social insight. It reminds us to learn to maintain self-esteem and self-reliance in difficult situations, and to avoid misunderstanding or suspicion from others because of sensitive situations.
1. Self-esteem in times of poverty.
When a person is in financial trouble, his self-esteem tends to become extraordinarily sensitive. He may worry about being looked down upon by others, worry about being a burden to others, or even worry that his plight will become a topic of conversation after dinner. In this state of mind, he will be particularly concerned about the eyes and attitudes of the outside world, especially when facing relatives.
Relatives should have had a closer and warmer relationship. However, in the real world, the relationship between relatives can also be complicated by the entanglement of economic interests. When a person is destitute, he may find that his originally enthusiastic relatives suddenly become cold or even distant. This change will undoubtedly bring a greater blow to his already fragile self-esteem.
2. Avoid misunderstandings.
It is precisely because of the sensitivity of self-esteem and the complexity of kinship that the elderly will give advice to "when you are poor, go to your relatives' house less". This is not to say that our relatives are snobs, but it reminds us to learn to protect ourselves in difficult situations and avoid misunderstandings by others because of our sensitive situation.
When we are poor, even if we do not have the idea of taking advantage of our relatives, frequent visits to our relatives' homes will inevitably make our relatives wonder: Is he here to ask for help? Will he be a burden to us? Once this kind of doubt arises, it is likely to affect the relationship between relatives and even lead to conflicts and conflicts.
3. Self-reliance and self-improvement.
In the face of adversity, we should learn to be self-reliant and self-reliant. This is not to say that we should completely cut off contact with our relatives, but that we should maintain our self-esteem and independence in difficult situations, and try to avoid being a burden to others. Through our own efforts, we can find solutions to problems and improve our living conditions. When we get out of the situation through our own efforts, we will win more respect and recognition, and it will also make the relationship between relatives more harmonious.
Fourth, take a correct view of kinship.
Of course, we can't generalize that all relatives are snobs. In real life, there are many relatives who are willing to lend a helping hand to help us. However, even so, we should put kinship in perspective and not take it for granted.
Help between relatives should be based on equality, respect, and mutual benefit. When we need help, we can ask our relatives for support, but at the same time we must respect our relatives' wishes and choices. If relatives are willing to help us, we should be grateful; If relatives can't help us for various reasons, we should also understand and respect their decision.
V. Conclusion. The old man's advice "When you are poor, go to your relatives' house less, for fear that your relatives will think that you are taking advantage" is a bit harsh, but it is based on a deep understanding of life and a keen insight into social reality. It reminds us to learn to maintain self-esteem and self-reliance in difficult situations, and to avoid misunderstanding or suspicion from others because of sensitive situations. At the same time, it also teaches us to put kinship in perspective, not as a matter of course, but to build and maintain it on the basis of equality, respect and mutual benefit.
In short, we should keep in mind the advice of the elderly, learn to maintain self-esteem and self-reliance in difficult situations, and correctly view and handle kinship relationships. Only in this way can we walk more firmly and calmly in life, and can we win more respect and recognition.
In the days to come, may we all face the challenges and difficulties in life with a self-reliant attitude, and write our own wonderful chapters with wisdom and courage. At the same time, I also hope that we can all cherish and maintain the relationship with our relatives, so that this special emotion can become a warm light on our life path.