In the two ** years, what do men value the most?
Is it the woman's beautiful appearance, or is her posture graceful? Or is it her profound knowledge, or is it her inner cultivation?
These traits are undoubtedly attractive, but they are not the ultimate ** that can make a man completely worship.
So, what do men really care about? Actually, it is these three qualities of a woman.
A woman's sincerity
It is often said that women are more emotional in the emotional world, and they affectionately crave the sincerity of their partner, the pursuit of a solid sense of security, and a firm commitment for a lifetime. But what about men?
When men are in deep love, they can also become fragile and sensitive, and need constant emotional feedback to confirm that they are being loved. The sense of security that women crave also occupies a pivotal position in men's inner world.
He longs to glimpse your care for him in the bits and pieces of life; He expects you to feel that you value him in your words and deeds. If you show the slightest perfunctory, it may pierce his heart deeply.
As Mu Xiyan depicted in "The Man Who Met Love": "Perfunctory is like a buffer step, a means to maintain face, you let the other party **, because you still have a trace of care for him, but this care is not enough to make you willing to change yourself for him." So you weave an untenable lie, and you are not willing to give even the patience that you have carefully weaved. ”
He is able to perceive keenly whether your attitude is perfunctory or serious, and whether your emotions are sincere or hypocritical. A man who loves you deeply will inevitably crave your sincere response and hope that his efforts can be exchanged for your cherishment.
The true meaning of love lies in the fact that it is as pure and tender as life, and that two hearts make promises to each other and become soulmates with each other. Sincerity and true affection are intertwined, you are willing to give him an inch of sincere heart, and he will surely repay your affectionate kindness for a lifetime.
Inclusion of women
Eileen Chang once depicted life as a gorgeous robe, but it was inevitably accompanied by minor flaws. The road of life is full of challenges, and everyone does everything they can to survive, so it is inevitable that there will be negligence and mistakes in emotions. If you don't return home on time and forget to report, it's not that he doesn't care about you, but that he is busy and has no time to take care of him; If you can't share the housework and go home and fall asleep, it's not that he doesn't love you, but that the weight of work makes it difficult for him to support it. Men often choose to remain silent in the face of suffering, but that doesn't mean they don't need care. Deep in their hearts, what they crave most is a warm embrace, a silent tolerance.
The Bible says, "Love is long-suffering and kind; Love, not jealous, not boastful, not arrogant; Love is believing in all things, hoping in all things, being patient in all things, and bearing all things. "Emotional touches are short-lived, but true understanding lasts a lifetime. In the storms of life, your understanding is like a beacon, illuminating his way forward; In the ups and downs of the world, your tolerance is like a boat, carrying him through the sea of suffering.
Your understanding, tolerance, and gentleness and protection are like a spring breeze, warming his heart and giving him endless strength.
Praise for women
Men, sometimes like a child, need to be cared for and understood.
When you reproach and deny him, he may feel deeply frustrated, as if he has not done anything well, and may even lose his self-confidence and collapse as a result. However, when you praise and affirm him, he will feel extremely inspired, as if his whole body is full of strength, and in order to live up to your expectations, he will work harder and do better.
Therefore, it is said that good men are praised. When he carefully chooses a gift for you, even if it is not exactly what you want, you should see His intentions and give him praise. That way, next time, he might have an even bigger surprise in store for you. When he occasionally cooks for you, even if the taste is not satisfactory, or even the kitchen is a mess, you should thank him for his efforts, not blame. Because he will transform your understanding and acceptance into deeper love and care.
Good words are warm in three winters, and bad words are hurtful and cold in June. "He cares about you, so every word you say will affect him deeply. Your praise will make him happy, and your reproach will make him feel miserable. Because he loves you, he will care about how he looks in your eyes and will rejoice or lose because of your reaction.
As Yishu said: "What dizziness is upside down, vows, and no encouragement, it will disappear, who will love whom for free for a lifetime?" So, don't skimp on your compliments, give him more affirmation and encouragement. Your support is the driving force for him to move forward, and it is also the source of his deep love for you.
The joy of the first encounter is easy to get, but long-term relationships require patience and perseverance. True emotion is not simply verbal, but comes from the depths of the heart; A strong relationship is not cherished unilaterally, but needs to be guarded by both parties.
If you truly love him, respond to his emotions with sincerity, give him warmth with a broad heart, and inspire his self-confidence with words of praise.
May your affection be answered, that all those you meet are good, that all your wishes will be granted, and that your path will be smooth. May you spend your life hand in hand with your loved ones, sharing the good times of poetry, wine and piano music, until your hair is gray, and you can spend the rest of your life together.