When there is a conflict between lovers, sometimes they will say something nasty to express their dissatisfaction. Recently, my girlfriend said to me, "You are connotating me", and although I didn't think I meant it, I was still anxious, for fear that she would misunderstand me and resent. So I thought about how to reply to my girlfriend's words, so that she could feel my care and understanding, and prevent a rift in the relationship.
In fact, whether it is a boyfriend or a girlfriend, when facing the reproach of our lover, we should not easily refute it directly, but put ourselves in the other person's shoes. Because there is a misunderstanding, it is often not a one-sided problem, but a deviation in communication between the two parties. So when faced with the girlfriend's sentence "You are connotating me", what we have to do is not to deny it outright, but to take the following way of replying:
First, with a sincere attitude, ** the reason for her words. We can say, "Honey, you say I'm connotating you, what makes you feel that way?" Let's sit down and talk. "Don't deny it outright, but give your girlfriend a chance to tell and listen patiently to her about her feelings.
Second, admit that you may be inappropriate in some details. We can say, "My dear, I apologize for the harm I may have caused you by using inappropriate words. "Even if we think we don't have a connotation, we have to put ourselves in our girlfriend's shoes and think about whether we are too direct in the communication and whether our words are ambiguous.
Third, express your concern and understanding. We can say, "I understand that you may have been under pressure at work or in your life lately, and you have developed some sensitivities. As your boyfriend, I will always be there for you, please trust my kindness and we will get through this together. "Make your girlfriend feel that you are not blaming her for being vulnerable, but that you are understanding her heart and supporting her.
Fourth, solve problems for her. We can say, "If there's something you're worried about lately, just let me know." If there's anything I need help with at work, I'll do my best. Express your willingness to share her worries, talk to her and let her feel your reliability.
Fifth, express your attention and affection for her. We can say, "You are my most important girlfriend and I will definitely cherish every day with you." Your happiness is my happiness, and your sadness is also my sadness. "Let her deeply feel that your love for her has never changed, and you have always put her in the most important place in your heart.
Of course, in addition to words, we also need to take care of the relationship through actions. You can prepare a surprise date, take her to a concert, experience beautiful artistic moments together, and relieve her stress; can cook an exquisite dinner for her, bringing her care and relaxation; You can walk and climb the mountains with her and find inner peace in nature.
Love is like a flower, it needs to be watered with tolerance, understanding and patience. When a lover is angry, we should not quarrel with him. What we have to do is to put ourselves in her shoes and think about the problem, resolve misunderstandings with sincerity and tolerance, and take care of the flowers of love with actions.
When your girlfriend says to you, "You are connotating me", don't rush to deny it, but listen, understand, and be tolerant. Treat every misunderstanding with sincerity and nourish every relationship with dedication. In the name of love, resolve all the unpleasantness in life. If we can all do this, the flower of love will be able to bloom in the wind and rain, grow in time, and write two indelible legends of true hearts.