The ancients often said: "When you go out with your wife, you don't go out to visit your father-in-law's grave." This phrase made a lot of sense in ancient times, whileModern manYou may not fully understand the intent. Why did the ancients say this? First of all, we must start with the ancient people's concept of husband and wife life and mother's family. InFeudal eraThe ancient people were more conservative in their thinking and attached importance to the continuation of the family and their children and grandchildren. It was a very intimate act for the ancients, and it wasAncient societies** is considered an unlucky thing and will bring bad luck to the family. In addition, the social status of women in ancient times was relatively low, and once a woman got married, she belonged to a foreign surname, so she was not qualified to worship the ancestral tomb. In ancient times, men were more important than women, and the ancestors were passed on to the next generation, and only male members were involved in ancestor worship, and if the son-in-law went to worship the ancestral tomb of his mother, he would be considered to have no successor to the family, and the incense would be broken, so he would be looked down upon. This is why the ancients said that "when you go out with your wife, you don't go out to worship your father-in-law's grave".
Thousands of years agoAncient societies, people's lifestyles are completely different from modern times, especially in theMarriageThere is a clear difference between the concept and the family concept. In ancient times,Men and women do not kiss each otherIt is a common belief that intimacy between husband and wife is seen as an act of filth. Therefore, in the lives of the ancients, ** was very private and unpromotable. In ancient times, women had a relatively low status, and once they got married, they had to follow their husbands' families, and they did not have the freedom to return to their parents' homes. Therefore, the daughter who marries out should stay at her husband's house instead of returning to her mother's house. Even if the husband and wife are out to visit relatives or other affairs, they should stay separately so as not to cause strange comments from others. In addition, the ancients believed that ** would bring bad luck to the family, so it was very taboo for couples to share the same bed. This notion was very common at the time, and not ** became a norm.
The reason why the ancients emphasized that going out with their wives is actually reflectedAncient societiesRightMarriageand the importance of the family. The ancients believed that the intimate relationship between husband and wife was very private and should not be made public to the outside world; At the same time, they are also convinced that ** will bring bad luck to their families, so it is especially taboo for couples to share the same bed in front of outsiders. Ancient societiesFeudal etiquette was very strict, and people paid great attention to social image and family reputation. Therefore, in order to maintain their own reputation and that of their families, the ancients put more emphasis on not being with their wives when they go out. This behavior also reflects the moral and family values of the ancients, who believed that husband and wife should maintain a dignified and modest image to add glory to the family.
Ancient societiesRightMarriageand the importance of the family can be seen. Due to the patriarchal oneConventional wisdomWomen in ancient times had a relatively low status, and their status in the family was not as important as that of male members. Therefore, the son-in-law participates in the mother's familySacrificeThe activity is not in accordance with etiquette and tradition. The ancients believed that a son-in-law's visit to the ancestral grave of his father-in-law's family was disrespectful to the ancestors of the family, disrespectful to the father-in-law's family, and would bring shame to the mother's family and be regarded as a blasphemy against the ancestors. Ancient societiesFeudal etiquette is very strict, and people's respect for ancestors is very strong, so sons-in-law do not participate in the mother's familySacrificeIt is in line with the etiquette and customs of the time.
Summary: Although the saying of the ancients "go out with your wife and don't go out to worship your father-in-law's grave" is no longer applicable in modern times, the ancient thoughts and concepts behind it are worth pondering. The reason why ancient people emphasized going out with their wives was because they believed that ** would bring bad luck to their families, and at the same time, it was also to maintain their own and their family's social image and reputation. In ancient times, people did not worship the tomb of their father-in-law, which reflected their respect for the family and their ancestors, and the son-in-law did not worship the ancestral tomb of his father-in-lawSacrificeis not in line with etiquette and tradition. Although these sayings may seem too conservative and trite in modern times, they are the result of thousands of years of wisdom and experience that we should respect and understand. In contemporary society, we can retain the essence of it, remove the outdated concepts, carry forward the good traditional customs, and adapt to the development and needs of modern society. After all,Cultural practicesThe inheritance and development of our history and civilization is an important part of our history.