I saw a very interesting question in Zhihu today, my girlfriend 985 female college student is **, what should I do?
In fact, smart people don't try to persuade others or anything, not even those who are related by blood.
Even if your personal cultivation is already very high, you must not easily cross people, including your parents in this life, what you have to do is to let them be themselves, and they will not be influenced and consumed.
Everyone has their own cause and effect, and when you say that your correct view is beyond the cognition of others, he will instinctively reject it, even if he doesn't want to refuse, it is pointless to say it.
Because the invisible beings in him do not allow you to pass on your righteous knowledge and righteous thoughts, unless he takes the initiative to ask you for advice, that is, fate has arrived, otherwise don't try to be a savior.
What's more, friends don't need you to carry it, and they shouldn't be you.
You are walking a road, you have a destination, you find that there is a person who has the same end as you, you go on the road together, then that person is a friend.
If her way of doing things and thinking are not recognized by you, then the core of this friend has actually collapsed.
What if you grow up together?
There is only an empty shell called "Friend", which is practically no longer there.
People need to go on in the value of mutual recognition and create more "emotional foundations", which is the true destination of friendship.
And when most of us gradually have their own outlook on life, values, principles and opinions, the more they insist on following their own path, the more they insist on their own choices, the more lonely they will become, and the distance between them and their former friends will become more and more distant.
This kind of "far" is not so much the "far" of physical distance as the "far" of psychological distance, and this is precisely because: disagreement.
In my opinion, I have always advocated that enduring solitude and enjoying solitude is a necessary path to maturity.
A true friend must have the same resources, status, and knowledge. Even if some friendships seem to transcend class, the water level of concepts must be similar.
And people will have a sense of rejection of friends and their lifestyles that gradually disagree, and will have rational judgments to silently remind themselves that this friendship is no longer worth investing in, and this friendship has no future.
People don't always live in the past, on the "emotional basis";
Even expression is redundant, people only need to go their own way, others come and walk together, and whoever leaves will get together and disperse.
People need to go on in the value of mutual recognition and create more "emotional foundation", which is the real friendship.
When you blacklist a friend, you will inevitably also "apply through a friend" of another person.
You are "good to go, not send" by a circle of friends, which also means that you are "welcomed" by another circle of friends.
And Uncle Wolf's advice is not to pull friends on the road, but to find friends on the road.
What is a bodhisattva mind?The bodhisattva mind is self-cultivation without saying a word.
As the saying goes, although the rain is heavy, it does not moisten the grass without roots, and although the Tao is wide, it only crosses the people who are destined.
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