Hello, my name is Zhu Dabao!
Yu Feihong's 53-year-old state is on the hot search again! Every time she comes out, everyone will be attracted by her relaxed and self-consistent, independent heroine state. She has never entered into marriage and has always been considered a model of human sobriety.
Feng Tang asked her, then do you feel annoyed when you are alone? Do you need to eat and chat with someone?
Yu Feihong replied that if your spiritual world is rich enough, you don't need to release loneliness through chatting.
She has been to Antarctica to see glaciers, and she said that when she got closer to Antarctica and noticed the changes in the sea surface, the sun happened to appear at that time, and the sun shone on the snow, and it seemed to shine on her heart.
She experiences life in the way she likes, and she is very satisfied. She calls love a chemical reaction, like putting an effervescent tablet down, and it is hot for a while, but it doesn't last forever.
She said that too many girls take love and marriage too seriously and make themselves bruised. So she has always encouraged married and unmarried women to always remember the word "independent".
This reminds me of what Mr. Wu Zhihong once said in "Why Does Home Hurt People".The main meaning of love is not for us to find a partner who can get along for a lifetime, but for us to truly understand that we are an independent person, and our partner is another person who is as independent as ourselves, and we also deeply understand that these two independent people can get along very closely
"Ode to Joy" and "It's All Good" I have chased, many people compare Su Mingyu and Fan Shengmei, why is it also out of a patriarchal family, Su Mingyu can heal herself, get out of the pain and live as the envy of everyone Ming, and Fan Shengmei is still fighting with her boyfriend Wang Baichuan in the last few episodes because of whose name is written on the real estate certificate?
I think the biggest difference between them is that Su Mingyu has already seen clearly that the mountains will fall, the water will flow, the temples will collapse, and the gods will run. So she has been working part-time since college to earn money to support herself, and when she enters the workplace, she tries her best to climb up, completely pinning all her hopes on herself.
And Fan Shengmei woke up too late, and at the age of 30, she has been mixed in various so-called high-end occasions, pinching the tip, eager to find a man to rely on through her appearance.
So for Fan Shengmei, every day is depreciated, because she will be older one day after one day. For Su Mingyu, every day is appreciated, because she grows up one day after another.
The recently discussed Silicon Valley wife murder case, from a certain point of view, I think it is also related to mental independence. It is said that Chen suspected that his wife Yu was unfaithful and was afraid that she would leave, so the two often had conflicts and beat each other several times.
Chen didn't shoot out of control of his emotions for a while, and he didn't find any sharp **, but beat his wife to death with his fist. He beat his hands until they were drenched in blood, and the process was relatively long, which showed that Chen's heart was full of holes and completely collapsed.
Hayao Miyazaki once said, don't rely on one person easily, it will become your habit, and when separation comes, you will lose not someone, but the pillar of your spirit.
Chen is like this, his wife wants to divorce, it is unacceptable for him, he may not have learned, no matter how close his wife is, she is another person, and she is as important and independent as us.
If you think of marriage as a result, that is, to possess and control your partner, then you will inevitably suffer a bruise.
Of course, the complexity of this case is far more than what I said, but from this case, we cannot deny that when the expectations of the lover are too high, it is easy to magnify the shortcomings of the other party, ignore the other party's contributions, and then hurt each other's feelings.
Being born as a human being, financially and spiritually independent, not only makes people respected, but more importantly, allows people not to get hurt in this noisy and impetuous world.
Teacher Luo Xiang once said,We should never invest unrealistic expectations in the things we value, and attach no marginal value, because the only thing that life is certain of is an uncertain life, and limited people and things can never carry our infinite expectations
Earn your own money, love yourself, be happy to discover yourself, expect less from others, the better your mood, and encourage you!
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