My name is Li Xiaofang, I am 41 years old and I have been married for 12 years. My husband, Zhang Li, is a college classmate of mine and is 3 years older than me. We got married after 2 years of long-distance relationship. It wasn't until 3 years ago, by chance, that I met Ma Teng, an employee of Zhang Li. On that day, the company organized a spring outing, and Zhang Zhang asked me to participate in it. Zhang Zhang coaxed me: "The company's spring outing is attended by the whole family, and only when you go to the employees can they have a sense of belonging, which is very important to improve team cohesion." I looked at Zhang Li's expectant look, and I was embarrassed to refuse, so I had to agree. Zhang Zhang was very happy, and said repeatedly: "Wife, you are the best!" ”。
On the day of the spring outing, Zhang Li excitedly introduced me to every employee, and his wife came to participate in the company's activities, and he was obviously very happy. Ma Teng smiled and shook hands with me and said, "Hello Manager Li, Mr. Zhang often mentions you, and I can finally meet you today." I was a little embarrassed, and hurriedly said, "Oh, I don't dare to be Mr. Zhang's wife, I'm just here to have a good time." Please advise, Manager Ma! ”。Manager Li is too modest! Ma Teng said with a smile. 
Zhang Zhang smiled on the side and said, "Okay, okay, I'll go to the group with Manager Li first, and you can be busy with the spring outing." "I followed the tension and went to play. I had a few chats with Ma Teng that day, and he gave me a very good impression and politeness. After the spring outing, Ma Teng often sent me some work information, asking about tension preferences and so on. Slowly, we started talking about topics outside of work, like books, movies, etc. Once Ma Teng sent a message: "Manager Li, I heard that the western restaurant you like has opened, and the address is here. I'm sorry, but I really shouldn't recommend a restaurant casually, and please don't be surprised. 
I thought to myself that it was nothing, so I replied to him: "It's okay, thank you for recommending the restaurant, I'll try it." "That's great. I feel like we're chatting quite closely, I wonder if you mind going out for dinner once in a while? Ma Teng sent a message. When I saw this message, my first reaction was a little surprised. But when I think about it, it's normal for colleagues and friends to have a meal together. On the day I made an appointment for dinner, I started to get a little nervous. I found a reason to say to Zhang Zhang that the company had a temporary entertainment, so I went to the meeting with Ma Teng. 
When he saw Ma Teng, he wore a sophisticated casual outfit and bought a bouquet. I was a little uncomfortable and said, "Manager Ma, let's just have a meal with ordinary friends, you are too polite." Ma Teng smiled and said, "Manager Li, you are laughing, I am very honored to invite you." During the meal, Ma Teng thoughtfully selected a lot of food for me, and chatted with me enthusiastically and told me interesting work anecdotes. After eating, Ma Teng insisted on sending me home. I excused myself and said, "No need Manager Ma, I'll just call a car back by myself." 
Let me take you home, I'm really happy to meet you today. Marten insisted. I saw that he was so sincere, and I couldn't shirk it anymore, so I got into his car. On the way home, Ma Teng suddenly said, "Manager Li, I know it may be a bit presumptuous to say this. But I really like you, you make me feel at home. I looked at him in surprise and stammered, "Manager Ma, what are you kidding, I'm already married, and you know my husband." 
I'm not kidding," said Maarten seriously, "and I know it's suddenly a little hard to accept. But I really, really like you. My brain was a little messed up and I said, "I, I need time to think about it... Okay, you've thought it over and decided to contact me. Ma Teng said softly after stopping. I went home nervously. Before the tension returned, I sat alone on the couch and thought. 
A few days later, Ma Teng messaged me again and asked how I was thinking about it. I said, it's okay for us to chat as friends. So, Ma Teng and I started to keep in touch regularly. We will share our work, life and feelings. Ma Teng was very gentle and noble to me, and I gradually became dependent on him. "With you, I only feel happiness. Ma Teng said. "Me too. "I replied by the devil. 
Then let's be together, and I'll be good to you. Ma Teng said. I was lost in thought, which was beyond the boundaries of a friend. But Maarten understood me so well that I felt comfortable with him. Eventually, I agreed to give it a try with Ma Teng. We started dating secretly, and I would come up with all sorts of excuses to tell Zhang Li that I was socializing or something. With Ma Teng, I feel that he understands everything about me and I rely on him a lot. 
In this way, Ma Teng and I began an underground relationship. We'll meet at a café or movie theater where no one is around, and then drive to a more secluded place to make out in love. I was also apprehensive, but I felt extremely happy and satisfied when I saw him. One day, Zhang Zhang said that the family would hold a small party on the weekend, and asked me to call a few colleagues to enhance the relationship. My first instinct was to call Ma Teng, but suddenly I realized that it was not appropriate. I smiled and said, "No, I just informed my colleagues at short notice, I don't know if they have any arrangements for the weekend." I'll try to call Ma Teng over, he has a good relationship with the staff. 
Good idea! Zhang Li agreed. I sent a message to Ma Teng and asked him to come home on the weekend. Ma Teng was surprised that I would call him home, but he readily agreed. On the weekend, Marten arrived at my house on time in a formal suit. Zhang Zhang greeted him warmly, and the two chatted happily. While the tension was not paying attention, I secretly looked at Ma Teng, who was also looking at me and smiling.
After it was over, Zhang Zhang drank too much and got a little drunk. I quickly helped him to his bedroom to sleep. Ma Teng also politely said goodbye to Zhang Li and left. Early the next morning, Ma Teng sent a message: "I was so happy last night! Although there are not many opportunities to meet, I feel extremely happy and satisfied to be able to stand side by side with you in your home. "Me too. I replied, "I'm glad you're here." "In the future, I want to be more involved in your life and become an important part of your life. Ma Teng said.
When I saw this message, I had mixed feelings. I also relied on Maarten, but it was the wrong way to go. At this moment, Zhang Zhang woke up and said to me with a smile: "Wife, the guest you called for me last night was really good, Ma Teng seems to have strong work ability and is also modest and polite." Also, I drank too much, you worked hard to take care of me last night, you are really a virtuous wife! ”。Zhang Li's compliment made me feel guilty. I replied with a smile on my face, thinking that I had to find a way to end this.
After careful consideration, I decided to explain to Ma Teng face to face that I could not continue like this. But just when I was about to find a chance to meet Ma Teng, Zhang Zhang suddenly said that the company's annual meeting was coming, and asked him to prepare a speech. "Wife, you must come to the company's annual meeting. This annual meeting is very important, not only for employees, but also for important partners. Zhang Li said, holding my hand. I immediately thought that Ma Teng would definitely come to the annual meeting, and hesitated and said, "But I don't like these social gatherings very much, you can go by yourself."
This time, my dear, is really important, so you can accompany me this time. Zhang Li pleaded earnestly. Seeing his expectant look, I couldn't bear to refuse, so I had to agree. On the day of the annual meeting, Zhang Li and I, dressed in evening dresses, came to the banquet hall. Zhang Li happily introduced me to everyone as his wife. Ma Teng looked a little surprised, and I also felt extremely embarrassed.
After the banquet began, I was always by Zhang Li's side. When the host Ma Teng was speaking on the stage, I didn't dare to look at him, and I bowed my head and drank wine. I forced a smile. After the meal, everyone got up to dance and chat. I let Zhang Li go to socialize and found a secluded corner to hide. At this time, Ma Teng came over and whispered, "I didn't expect you to come." Let's get over it all.
I said in a panic: "Manager Ma, it's inconvenient to say this here... I'll contact you later. Ma Teng nodded and turned to leave. At this time, Zhang Zhang staggered over and seemed to have drunk too much. I helped him back home. "Wife, I've worked hard for you tonight. I'm so happy that you're here with me for such an important occasion. You must have also seen how well the company is developing! I feel blessed to have you by my side. Zhang Zhang said and soon fell asleep.
Looking at the sleeping tension, I burst into tears. I knew I couldn't cheat anymore. The next morning, I decided to explain to Ma Teng in person. I plucked up the courage to say to Maarten that we couldn't go on any longer, and I decided to get back into my family. Marten cried and begged me not to leave him, but I firmly refused. Surprisingly, after a while, tension suddenly became cold to me. I sensitively sensed the seriousness of the problem and took the initiative to ask him if he had anything on his mind. Zhang Zhang was silent for a long time, and finally said, "I know everything." Ma Teng came to the door and told me about you. I didn't believe it at first, but Ma Teng showed you the ** of your chat logs.
Is all this true? ”。I broke down and cried, and I fell to my knees and confessed everything to Zhang Li. I begged him to give me a chance to make amends, and vowed never to touch Maten again. Zhang Li calmly said that he needed time to think about it. For many months afterward, he was extremely cold to me. I cry every day and beg Zhang Li not to leave me, and I will spend my life to make up for him. Just when I was almost in despair, Zhang Zhang finally said that he had forgiven me. He needs time to calm down and accept and is now willing to give our marriage a chance at a new beginning.
Since then, I have been a good wife and mother again. I quit my job and stayed home full-time with my husband and children. I am grateful for Tension's forbearance every day and devote my heart and soul to this marriage. After all this, I won't make the same mistake again. I know that marriage requires both parties to manage it with care. It's not fragile, and it's worth my life's work. After Zhang Li forgave me, I made up my mind to make amends to him and my family with all my might.
First of all, I took the initiative to ask Ying to quit her job and change to a full-time stay-at-home husband and children. At first, Zhang Li persuaded me not to quit, but I insisted that my family was my top priority. When Zhang Li comes home in the evening, I will first make him a cup of hot tea and give him a massage to relax. After that, we played with the children and talked about the current situation. After that, we prepared dinner together and chatted happily while eating. Zhang Zhang smiled and told me a lot of interesting things at work, and we talked and laughed like we did when we were in love. On weekends I take my whole family out on an outing. We would go to the park for a picnic and play in the playground; I also go to the playground to see exhibitions and go to bookstores to buy books.
Seeing Zhang Zhang and the child laughing, I felt satisfaction and happiness that I had not seen in a long time. Day after day, in this calm and warm life, I feel that the knot of tension in my heart is slowly dissolving. He never spoke of my faults again, but trusted and relied on me again. I am grateful from the bottom of my heart that tension has given me this opportunity to make amends, and I will spend the rest of my life repaying the love of my family. After I returned to family life for a while, Tension's attitude towards me also softened significantly.
One night, our family of three sat on the couch after dinner and watched TV. A heartwarming family movie is being made on TV. Watching TV, Zhang Zhang suddenly took my hand and said softly: "Wife, when I watched that couple just now, I suddenly thought of us." I nervously squeezed my tense hand and listened with bated breath as he continued. "I was deliberately cold to you during that time, also to see how you would react. I need a process to accept all of this and confirm that you are truly remorseful and self-remorseful.
I said excitedly, "I really know that I was wrong, and I will spend the rest of my life to make up for you and my children." "Well, I believe you. Zhang Zhang nodded and said, "The original pain has slowly dissipated. What I care about most now is the overflowing happiness you have brought to our family. You fill your home with warmth, laughter, and good memories. It's important for me and my kids. "That's as it should be. With tears in my eyes, I said, "I will always be with you and make up for it with my life."
Okay, then it's a word. Zhang Zhang said with a smile. We looked at each other and smiled and hugged affectionately. The child ran up to us and hugged our legs and said, "I like Mommy and Daddy the most!" ”。I felt like the boulder in my heart had finally landed. Zhang Li not only forgave me, but also accepted me again. It means a lot to me. From that day on, the tension was so good to me. He would secretly help me with some of the chores while I was busy with the housework; He began to take the initiative to reduce overtime and try to go home for dinner; From time to time, he would give me flowers or small gifts as a token of his appreciation.
And I'm getting more and more involved in my family. I regained the joy and satisfaction of being a wife and mother. After Zhang Li readmitted me, I was so attentive to him. During the day, I will always pay attention to his daily life and diet, and in the evening, I will give him a massage and ask him if his work is going well and what he needs help with. In the evening, if I need to work overtime or go on a business trip, I will pack some supper and clothes for later.
Once, Zhang Li worked overtime until late, and I was worried that he was too tired, so I drove to the company to pick him up. Zhang Zhang was very pleasantly surprised to see me coming after work. Zhang Zhang slept soundly and smiled. I am very relieved that he works so hard, and I should care more about him. Another time, Zhang Li was rarely at home during the holiday, so I took him and the children to the playground for a day, and prepared a sumptuous dinner in the evening. My child and I are very happy! I just smiled back softly, but I was very relieved.
In addition to caring about tension, I also spend more time with my children. When my child comes home from school, I accompany him to do his homework and listen to him talk about interesting things that happened at school. We also do some fun crafts together, and the children are always smiling. At night, I sing to my child and put him to sleep. Now I live a very fulfilling life. The smile of my family is my biggest motivation, and I will always cherish this happiness around me. I believe that as long as our mountains and rivers continue to be broken, this happiness will last.
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