Chinese New Year, for many people, is not only the most important festival of the year, but also a time for family reunion. However,This time of laughter and laughter often becomes tense and unpleasant for various reasons. From small to large, we may encounter different challenges and pressures at each stage, and these seem to be infinitely magnified during the Chinese New Year.
For those of us who are still students, holiday homework has become a lingering shadow. In elementary and junior high school, the holidays meant that you had to complete your homework every day or face scolding from your parents. “What do you do without homework for you to read? Such words have become the daily routine of many families. After entering the university, although I got rid of the tense learning atmosphere of middle school, parents still ask: ".College students are also students, why don't they have homework? "This focus on academics makes it difficult for many students to relax even during the holidays.
The pace of life after work is even more breathless. The pressure of working for a long time accumulated, and many people expected some relief during the Spring Festival holiday. However, this expectation is often shattered by a different scene at home.
For example, I want to sleep in, but I am criticized by my family."I know how to sleep all day long, and I really raise a pig”。Trying to relax by playing with your phone will also be reprimanded".I know how to play with my phone all day long, so it's better to go directly into my phone”。These small daily things have become the fuse of family conflicts during the holidays.
And a few moreFamily trivialities, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships, and turning over old accountsand so on, and often become the focus of quarrels during the Spring Festival. Conflicts and dissatisfaction between family members often erupt at this time. For example, the garbage at home is not disposed of in a timely manner, or the choice of TV programs can become a topic of debate. It is not uncommon for parents to quarrel again because of some old things.
Financial problems are also one of the important reasons for family quarrels during the Spring Festival. Worries about expenses, the number of red envelopes, and even extreme events, such as asking children to kowtow to their stepmothers before giving red envelopes, and being treated violently if they don't comply, are all examples that occasionally appear in the social news. These extreme events, while not the norm, reflect one aspect of the financial pressures on families during the holiday season.
Moreover, for young people, "Urging marriage"Undoubtedly another sensitive topic. Both parents and relatives seem to be paying special attention to the marital status of young people. In their view, the notion that unmarried or late marriage is tantamount to unfilial piety exacerbates the pressure on young people. Therefore, the Spring Festival is not only a time for family reunions, but also a peak period for young people to face the pressure of marital problems.
It is no accident that these problems and contradictions erupted in a concentrated manner during the Spring Festival. It is a reflection of the emotional accumulation and stress of each of us over the past year. In this traditional festival, we look forward to relaxation and relief, however, there is often a gap between reality and expectation. This accumulation of emotions, combined with various triggers during the holidays, eventually led to frequent family fights during the Chinese New Year.
Nevertheless, the Chinese New Year, as a sign of the start of the new year, is also a time for us to understand and tolerate each other. In the face of conflicts and grievances in the family, perhaps we can try to understand each other's positions and feelings from different perspectives and work together to find solutions to problems. On this special occasion, let's try to celebrate this traditional and important festival with a more open and tolerant mind.
In a festival as traditional as the Spring Festival, everyone returns home with a look back on the past year and anticipation for the year ahead. However, when these emotions encounter unresolved problems between family members, a small spark can ignite a long-accumulated emotional prairie.
Family gatherings during the Spring Festival often become a concentrated outbreak of various conflicts and dissatisfactions. The expectations of the elders for the younger generation, the pursuit of self-worth of the younger generation, and the understanding and expectations of family members about each other's roles can all be factors that trigger quarrels. Especially in this period, all kinds of grievances and regrets of the past year can be provoked in an unintentional discourse.
During the Chinese New Year, household expenses increase significantly, with everything from the purchase of Chinese New Year goods to the distribution of red envelopes, which can become a point of contention among family members. The amount of red envelopes is often seen as a manifestation of the depth of affection between family members, and this materialistic love sometimes leads to unnecessary misunderstandings and conflicts.
In this context, communication between family members is particularly important. However, effective communication is not always easy to achieve. Differences between generations, conflicts of values, and differences in life experiences can all be barriers to communication. For example, younger generations may be more likely to communicate through electronic devices, while older generations may prefer face-to-face conversations. Such differences can sometimes lead to misunderstandings and estrangement.
In addition, family gatherings during the Spring Festival can also bring conflicts in living habits. For example,Young people may be accustomed to going to bed late and waking up late, while older people are accustomed to going to bed early and waking up early. Eating habits, personal space needs, etc., can also be a source of conflict between family members. These seemingly insignificant details of life inadvertently touch the sensitive lines of emotions between family members.
However, while family quarrels during the Chinese New Year may seem inevitable, it is also an opportunity for family members to deepen their emotional exchange and understanding. Through these arguments and conflicts, family members can gain a deeper understanding of each other's needs and expectations, and in turn, find a more mature and stable way of getting along. In this process, each member of the family needs to learn to listen and express, try to consider the problem from the other's point of view, and resolve the conflict with understanding and tolerance.
The Spring Festival, as a time of family reunion, is not only a review of the past and expectations for the future, but also an opportunity for emotional communication and deepening of understanding between family members. On this particular holiday, we can see that although family quarrels seem inevitable, they also provide an important opportunity –Let's re-examine family relationships and learn to communicate and get along better.
By experiencing this festival of challenges and opportunities together, we can make family relationships stronger and more harmonious. In the bell of the Spring Festival, let us welcome the arrival of the new year together with an understanding and tolerant attitude.