After my mother began to live in turns in the spring, she fell into a strange circle: when she first came out, she felt that her brother and sister-in-law were ungrateful, always did not give her a good face, and did not want her to live in their house; Two months after I came out, I began to think about all the good things at home, and I thought about the good things about my brother and sister-in-law, and then I wanted to go home to live.
In my opinion: when people are old, being able to live in their children's homes and their children are filial is already the greatest blessing for the elderly.
If a person is old, and still insists on counting on a child to support the elderly, and insists on living in a certain child's house, after a long time, this child is likely to be unhappy, and will resolutely demand again: the old man must live in turns.
However, I also understand my mother very well. Because from the day my brother was born, the mother decided: she counted on this son in this life, and gave this son the greatest preference.
In this world, as long as a person has the idea of who to count on in the future, he will not only pay a lot to this person, but also have great expectations for this person.
The reality is that the more one looks to someone, the more he will be angry with him. Because the more you give to a person, the greater your expectations will be, and you will take it for granted that you should trouble the other party, and the other party will definitely know about Entu. Once the other party's approach does not meet their own requirements, they will be disappointed and resentful in their hearts. At this time, the relationship with each other will deteriorate, and even start to blame each other.
In fact, in this world, no one can always be your backer. Always pinning your hopes on others, the final result is either crying or losing.
Therefore, even if you are as close as parents and children, even if you are good to your children, you should not completely entrust your life to a certain child. Because everyone walks in this society, they have their own hardships and difficulties, and they can't completely carry the soul of another person, let alone be completely responsible for the life of another person.
The most important thing for parents to raise their children is to enjoy the happy time with their children, and to educate their children how to behave while providing them with food, clothing, housing, transportation and educational environment.
But you must not put all the burden of your pension on a certain child. Because whether children are filial in the future depends entirely on the conscience of the children, and it is not something that parents can control at all.
When the children do not do well, they must not be resentful. This is not only because each of us is the first time to come to this society, and we are all students of this society for the first time, and we all make mistakes, but also because resentment will poison our minds and hurt our bodies.
Parents should be moderate to their children, no matter how much they care for them, especially those who can't love themselves. After we help our children complete the big things of buying a house, getting married and having children, we have to shift our focus to ourselves.
After middle and old age, the starting point of doing everything is to take care of yourself first, live every day happily, give the future pension in advance, make sufficient financial preparations, and be sure to have your own nest.
In this world, there is no one who is the backer, and it is best for parents not to rely on their children for everything
In this world, everyone has their own difficulties, and we really have to hope for it, and we can't count on it too much or too deeply. Because the more you hope, the more you will be disappointed, and when there are many disappointments, there will be resentment, hatred will arise, and the day will be sad.