For many women, marriage is the place of love, the restraint of emotion, but also the place where responsibility happens.
Such "responsibility" forces them to put themselves in the position of devotees.
It can be as small as "going to the restaurant to eat together and only ordering the dishes that my husband likes to eat", to "everything in the family decides to listen to the ...... of the children and the husband."”
We used to think it was an expression of love, but in fact others think it's an endless demand.
It's like I like apples, but you give me a box of pears. You ask me if I'm moved, but I can't answer.
You keep crying to everyone: "I gave everything, and they are so indifferent." ”
In fact, "I thought" love is the most terrible.
In the past, we thought that in a marriage, as long as there is no violence, no betrayal, and no other bad habits, it is about the same as not touching the bottom line, and no matter what happens, it should continue.
In fact, the blunt knife cutting the flesh was the most painful, and the long-lost emotional value and the constant "guilt" that was forced to instill it caused the family to fall apart.
Over-giving is the deepest hidden poison in marriage.
When the other person does not respond accordingly, we cannot be at peace, and we may complain or even hate him.
Because we feel that this kind of "non-response" is a waste and a disappointment.
In fact, "life is not a boss speech, not 'don't you think, I want me to feel', let go of this obsession to pay, life may be a little better." Marriage