In our country, sacrifice is a special custom, whether it is an important festival, or a special sacrifice festival, such as Qingming Festival, Zhongyuan Festival, etc., it is a respect and nostalgia for ancestors.
The sacrificial activities reflect the traditional virtues of respecting the elderly, loving the young, and being filial to the elders since ancient times. Even after a loved one has passed away, we pay our respects to them on important occasions as a reminder to future generations of the hard work of their ancestors.
February** Dynamic Incentive Plan Qingming Festival is an important day to sweep the graves of deceased relatives, but there is a saying in our country called "three people do not go to the grave, but three generations of tomb sweeping". So, which three people do these "three people not go to the grave" refer to?
Let's find out! What are the three people who "three people do not go to the grave"? Going to the grave, also known as tomb sweeping, is a traditional custom of sacrificing deceased loved ones. In China, many festivals have the custom of going to the grave, such as the Spring Festival, Qingming Festival, the fifteenth day of the seventh lunar month, as well as the Chinese New Year's Eve and death day.
Going to the grave is an important ritual in Chinese culture, representing a deep remembrance of the ancestors. However, going to the grave is not a casual exercise, and there are many particularities and requirements. Generally speaking, the younger generation should prepare sacrificial supplies, such as rice wine, firecrackers, paper money, fruits, and dishes, etc., and then bring them to the grave of the ancestors to pay respects.
However, not everyone can go to the grave, according to the rules of the ancients, sons-in-law, infants, pregnant women, and the elderly. Among them, the saying that sons-in-law cannot go to the grave has been circulated among the people for a long time, and there is a saying that "the son-in-law does not go to the grave, but insults the ancestors", this is because the ancients attached great importance to the succession, and the grave is usually presided over by the male of the family.
Still, this doesn't mean that sons-in-law can't express their admiration and longing for their ancestors, and they can express their emotions in other ways.
When there are only daughters and no sons in the family, the son-in-law goes to the grave. This is because in traditional culture, a married daughter is considered a member of someone else's family, so a son-in-law is considered an outsider.
Moreover, women have a lower status and are no longer members of their own family after they get married. Infants and young children are not suitable for graves, mainly because cemeteries are usually located in the wilderness, which is inconvenient for babies to walk in, and the atmosphere of the cemetery is gloomy, which makes it easy for them to be afraid.
In addition, there is a rumor that children can see things that adults cannot see, so it is not recommended to take children to the grave. However, I am more inclined to think that babies and young children are not suitable to go to the grave because they are young and open-mouthed, and it is disrespectful to point fingers at the cemetery.
For pregnant women and the elderly, it is not recommended that they go to the grave, because pregnant women need to take good care of their bodies at home, and strenuous exercise may cause harm to the fetus; Going to the grave of the elderly may affect their health due to heavy emotions and long distances.
When the body is old and cannot withstand the toss, the elderly and sick people over the age of seventy or eighty should not go to the grave again. There is also a saying that "there are only three generations of tomb sweeping", and relatives outside the three generations no longer need to go to the tomb in person.
In ancient times, people regarded blood relations as extremely important, and the intimacy between relatives was also closely related to blood relations. As we all know, the first generation of relatives is the closest, the second generation is slightly sparse, and the third generation is even farther away, and the ancients even used "one generation of relatives, two representatives, three generations and four generations can not recognize" to describe the distance of relatives.
As brutal as it sounds, the reality is just that.
For those of us in life, relatives of more than three generations have rarely moved, and activities such as tomb sweeping are rarely participated. After all, the process of climbing mountains and wading through rivers is cumbersome and laborious, and it seems to have little practical meaning.
However, the second half of this proverb reveals an interesting phenomenon, "It is not yet time to go to the grave". In ancient times, the day was divided into 12 hours, and the time is now 1-3 p.m.
Therefore, the meaning of this phrase is that it is best to complete the tomb sweeping before three o'clock in the afternoon, because the cemetery always gives an eerie feel and too late can be frightening.
Until then, sunny weather can greatly reduce people's fears. In general, some of the sayings of the ancients still make sense, even if some are not reasonable, and they are closely related to local customs and habits.
Therefore, we cannot treat these sayings in a completely feudal superstitious way, otherwise it may annoy some old people.
The customs vary from place to place and cannot be generalized. Take the author as an example, when sweeping the tomb on the Qingming Festival, you need to follow the rules of "the first three and the last four, the left five and the right six", do you understand the meaning?