Walked 5 relatives in the morning, uncle's grandfather's house, aunt's house, aunt's house, father's brother's house, and a cousin's house, set off at seven o'clock in the morning, rushed back at twelve o'clock at noon, did not drink a glass of water, did not eat a meal, this is my experience of going to relatives, very bluntly speaking, now the rural New Year relatives are basically going through the motions!
Coming out of my cousin's house, I was still a little indignant in my heart, although I said that I would not eat in his house, but in my heart I still hoped that he could keep me warmly, I even thought, as long as he held my hand and did not let go, I would not leave immediately, after all, it was 12 o'clock, and I was tired and hungry after running all morning. But my cousin was very calm about my departure, after I said I was leaving, he smiled and said: slow down on the road, he didn't even say a word to stay, my cousin's calm attitude made me chill, after coming out of his house, I secretly said in my heart: What kind of relative is this!
When I got home, I was unhappy and my mother asked me what was wrong. I angrily said the process of going to relatives this morning, and especially mentioned that my cousin was very unenthusiastic about my arrival, which made me very angry, listening to my words, my mother immediately laughed, and the old man laughed and said: You are really too childish, you are such a big person, how do you think like a child, our family and your cousin belong to the old relatives, this kind of kinship is dispensable to move around during the New Year, people do not keep you to eat normally, there is nothing to say, you have to understand that there is a difference between relatives and relatives, There is a difference between near and far.
Listening to my mother's words, I was indignant in my heart, since there is a difference in intimacy, since this kind of kinship is no longer important, then why do you have to move around, although I don't agree with what my mother said, but after thinking about it, I still feel very reasonable, because when other relatives come to my house as guests, they also put down things and leave, I will also pretend to keep them hypocritically, everyone knows each other, maybe this is the tacit understanding between adults, hey! Now these people who go to relatives are really becoming more and more hypocritical!
The status quo of relatives in the countryside, 100 yuan and 4 boxes of gifts, throw away things and leave without even drinking water
Objectively speaking, it is not interesting to visit relatives in the countryside at present, and in my opinion, except for those close relatives, there is no need for the rest of the relatives to move around at all. In our rural areas in southwest Lu, we attach great importance to visiting relatives and friends, so when it comes to the New Year, there are relatives who can't finish walking, such as seven aunts and eight aunts, and many relatives who never come and go on weekdays, and they have to visit each other during the New Year, watching them compliment each other, the scene is really embarrassing, from my personal opinion, this kind of relatives don't go.
Take myself as an example, the general relationship between relatives, compared with close relatives, the difference between relatives and gifts is very big, the gift of ordinary relatives is the kind of 100 yuan four boxes of gift boxes bought in the supermarket, a box of drinks, a box of fruits, a box of eight treasure porridge, a box of wine, four boxes of gift boxes of 100 yuan, an average of 25 yuan per box, although it looks like the packaging is very good, but ** put it here, everyone knows whether the gift is good or not. And go to those close relatives' homes to relatives, although they also take four boxes of gifts, but ** is a lot more expensive, and four boxes of gifts cost at least two or three hundred yuan.
Therefore, just from the matter of taking gifts from relatives, you can see what relatives are important, what relatives are not important, and whose gifts are expensive, it means that this relative is heavy, and who is sending 100 yuan to four boxes of gifts, it means that the New Year's greetings in this relative's house are going through the motions, although the big guy doesn't say it, but they are very clear to each other.
Why are there fewer and fewer people in the countryside who are keen to visit relatives now? The human touch is getting weaker?
It is not shy to say that with the post-80s, post-90s and even post-00s began to take on the heavy responsibility of visiting relatives, the complicated festival of visiting relatives and friends during the Chinese New Year has been completely changed by them, and this group of young people will use their own way to greet relatives and friends, in their words: do not do to others what you do not want, do not trouble others if you can do it for the New Year, how good a family is together, we don't want to make trouble for relatives, they not only say so, but also do so.
First of all, young people nowadays don't like to go to relatives, and they hate to go to unfamiliar homes as guests, they lack the awe of relatives, and they are more or less indifferent to the feelings between relatives, they think that the meaning of the New Year makes their lives more relaxed and comfortable, rather than wasting energy and time on visiting relatives, especially those relatives who usually don't come to each other at all.
Of course, this is not their fault, now the pace of life is so fast, everyone is under a lot of pressure, everyone has worked hard for a year, all want to be able to relax during the New Year's holiday, finally have a holiday, no one wants to spend time on relatives.
Secondly, today's young people are very light on kinship, they don't like this kind of social relationship from the heart, they are very disgusted with this kind of hypocritical New Year's greetings, but because of their parents' words, they have to make a choice against their will, so in a state of forced obedience, they directly changed the way they used to go to relatives.
Now the process of young people going to relatives is basically this: after taking the gift to the relative's house, a few words of greeting directly find a reason to leave, they do not drink water, do not eat, do not kowtow, and are not even too lazy to sit for a while, for these young people, how to go all the relatives more quickly, is what they think, let them stay to eat is simply impossible.
Finally, as a post-80s rural person, I am also very disgusted by this way of visiting relatives for the New Year in a hurry, everyone takes cheap gifts, visits relatives and friends with each other, says insincere words, praises each other and belittles each other, the scene is embarrassing and ridiculous.
I feel that in another thirty or fifty years, there will be fewer and fewer relatives in the countryside for the New Year, and those relatives who are not very close will basically face the situation of breaking off relatives.
How many relatives have you left for the Chinese New Year this year? What do you think about visiting relatives and friends during the Chinese New Year? Your comments are welcome.
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