broke up with her boyfriend who had been in love for 8 years, and when it came to the reason for the breakup, the woman seemed very aggrieved!
It is reported that the woman is 29 years old this year and has already reached the age of talking about marriage, but she is not in a hurry at all, because she has a boyfriend who has been in love for 8 years. She is from Ningbo, Zhejiang, and her boyfriend is from the north, and the reason why the two can meet and fall in love is because the two studied at the same university and stayed in a city to work hard after graduation. During their relationship, the two were very affectionate and rarely broke up, but now they are about to get married, and the two broke up.
The reason for the breakup is how much bride price the man should have, and the couple has different views on this issue.
The woman believes that the bride price when she gets married in her hometown is generally about 300,000, and now she only needs her boyfriend to pay 1880,000, and then another 100,000 on his own side to raise 2880,000, and his family will marry a car. And this total adds up to far more than 300,000 bride price, and after marriage, my parents don't want it, but give it all to the husband and wife.
The man believes that the bride price when he gets married in his hometown is generally less than 100,000, and now his girlfriend lets him pay 1880,000 can't accept it. In addition to customs, the reason is that one's family conditions are limited. It was already very difficult for the parents to pay for the down payment, decoration fees, three golds, and money for the wedding.
Looking at the whole incident, who is right and which is wrong?
First of all, at first glance, both sides have made big concessions, but both stick to their bottom line. The woman's bottom line is face, the custom in her hometown is 300,000, you can't get 100,000, can my parents hold their heads up in front of relatives and friends? The man's bottom line is his parents, and I can get married, but I can't squeeze out the parents who raised me. So in the end, the two broke up.
Of course, there is no problem for the woman to insist on her bottom line, in addition to the face of her parents, the bride price is directly related to the attitude of the other party's family towards herself, and she must see it clearly before marriage. And people said that this money is not for his parents, but for the small family after marriage. In this case, the other party is still unwilling to take the money, which is the other party's fault.
For the man, there is actually another solution. It is to take out the bride price first, and after marriage, I am trying to find a way to give feedback to my parents. I believe that if the man does this, the woman will not object.
So in general, in this matter, it was the man who did not do it right, which led to this 8-year relationship, which finally ended in unhappiness.
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