Since the death of her father-in-law, her mother-in-law has been living alone at home and seems very lonely.
My eldest brother, after taking care of my father's funeral, left his hometown, leaving my mother alone in the old house.
My mother-in-law and father-in-law were once an affectionate rural couple, and they lived an ordinary but dependent life.
The couple have never quarreled in their lives, have consistently supported each other, and have worked hard to raise their two children until **.
When my father-in-law died suddenly of a stroke at the age of 65, he did not leave a word, and since then my mother-in-law has often sat on the steps in front of her house, immersed in mourning and crying silently.
The mother-in-law has a son and a daughter, and is deeply influenced by the traditional concepts of the countryside, and has high hopes for her son.
Since he was a child, his eldest brother has been invested in the best educational resources, and with his ingenuity, he was successfully admitted to the university, and after graduation, he found a job in a state-owned enterprise in the provincial capital, and married a city girl.
Although my wife was also deeply loved by her parents, due to the lack of wealth, she had to give up her studies early to work and earn a living at that time. From falling in love to getting married, our parents-in-law have never been prejudiced against us.
It is especially worth mentioning that since the eldest brother has been working and going home less often, the mentality of the parents-in-law towards their children has changed subtly.
They cherish every opportunity to get together even more, and they also give more understanding and support to my daughter and me in the life they work hard outside.
Of course, they may also consider their future pension problems, but in any case, for our marriage, the parents-in-law did not set up any obstacles, and the bride price was not mentioned at all, and their only expectation was that our young couple could live happily.
After we got married, my husband and I continued to work in Guangdong. In those years, my father-in-law and mother-in-law were in good health and did not need us to take care of them too much. On the contrary, they often come to our accommodation to help with household chores and tidy up the house.
When I was working in Guangdong, we would send some living expenses to our parents every month, although the amount was not large at first, but we treated the elderly on both sides equally. My wife and parents-in-law agreed and were relieved to see this.
In rural areas, usually in families without sons, daughters naturally have to take on the responsibility of supporting the elderly; In families with sons, the son is usually responsible for providing for the elderly, and the daughter is more filial piety. It is indeed rare for a daughter like us to provide living expenses for her mother's family on a regular basis.
Later, my father-in-law unfortunately passed away, considering the inconvenience of my mother-in-law's living alone, after taking care of my father-in-law's funeral, I discussed with my eldest brother:Should I take my mother-in-law to live with her, so as to avoid her lonely life and give her more comfort to her soul.
But the eldest brother refused without much hesitation, saying that his family's house was not spacious, and if his mother-in-law went to the city, they might have to rent another room.
And, crucially, his wife categorically disagreed with living under the same roof with her mother-in-law.
In the face of the issue of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the eldest brother chose to stand firmly on his wife's side - this is undoubtedly a painful choice, even if it were me, I dare not guarantee that I can make the best of both worlds.
Perhaps it was a mistake to make such a suggestion, or perhaps the eldest brother had other grievances in his heart, and he never returned to his hometown after taking care of his father-in-law's funeral.
My husband and wife tried to persuade my mother-in-law to come to Guangdong to live with us, so that at least we could take care of each other. However, her mother-in-law excused herself on the grounds that she didn't know Mandarin and couldn't stay idle, and she only said that she would think about it when she couldn't move.
However, the year after her father-in-law's death, her mother-in-law unfortunately suffered a stroke. Although the neighbor found it in time and called an ambulance, although his life was saved after the rescue, he was left with the sequelae of paralysis in the lower half of his body, and he could only rely on a wheelchair to move, and his speech became slurred.
At first, her mind was even a little blurry, and sometimes she couldn't even recognize her daughter.
Faced with this situation, I asked my wife to discuss with her brother what to do. From the time my mother-in-law was sick to the time she was discharged from the hospital, my eldest brother only showed up to pay the medical bills once at the beginning, and then never participated again and disappeared without a trace.
When I received **, my uncle complained on the other end of **:"She's not my mother alone, so why can't she live with you? ”The wife became angry when she heard it, but she was angry, and she couldn't really leave her paralyzed mother at home.
Faced with the urging of the company and the pressure of reality, my wife and I had to make a choice:My wife quit her job to focus on returning home to take care of my mother, while I returned to work to make ends meet. After all, we also have our own families to support.
Frankly, when I made this decision, I did have a hint of selfishness in my heart - my mother-in-law's physical condition may not last a year or two, and when she dies, my wife will be able to devote herself to our small family again.
Unexpectedly, under the meticulous care of his wife, his mother-in-law's physical condition improved.
Her consciousness gradually became clearer, her appetite also improved, except for the lower half of her body, which was still unconscious, she was almost the same as a healthy person in all other aspects, and her face even revealed a healthy ruddy.
In this way, as long as the mother-in-law is alive, the wife has to stay by her side around the clock to take care of her. Naturally, I am embarrassed to urge my wife to put down the old man and do other things, wouldn't that be too unfilial?
In this way, the mother-in-law spent a whole decade in a wheelchair. In the past ten years, my eldest brother has never returned home to take care of his mother for even a day.
The only time he appears is when he comes back alone on his mother-in-law's birthday every year, and avoids him most of the rest of the time.
Even the surrounding villagers couldn't stand it, and they talked a lot, saying that the mother-in-law had raised a son who was as indifferent as a yellow-eyed dog, far less filial and considerate than her daughter and son-in-law.
At the end of last year, my mother-in-law's village ushered in a happy eventDue to its proximity to the outskirts of the town, several acres of land were expropriated and the family received 1.9 million yuan in compensation.
In the countryside, this amount of money is astronomical, and even though I have worked in Guangdong for many years and have seen a lot of knowledge, I have never seen so much money with my own eyes.
I haven't had time to think about what to do with this huge amount of money. One day, the village chief came to the door with documents and asked the family to sign for confirmation.
At this time, my mother-in-law didn't even look at the documents, and directly asked my wife to sign them, and said in front of the village chief:"I'm old, I can't understand these complicated procedures, and I don't need any more money, so I'll give the 1.9 million to my daughter and son-in-law. ”
If it was only 10,000 or 20,000 yuan, my wife might have made a decision directly, but in the face of her mother's huge sum of millions, she couldn't make up her mind for a while, so she quickly dialed ** and let me decide.
When I heard this, I was also surprised, I didn't expect my mother-in-law to give us all 1.9 million yuan so happily, although I was grateful, I always felt unsure, so I asked my wife, mother-in-law, and the village chief to discuss together.
My mother-in-law didn't know a few big words, and what she repeatedly emphasized was those few big truths:"I'm old, and I can't spend much money no matter how much money I have, and my daughter's own, just give it to her. ”
But the wife mentioned to the village chief that according to the rules of our countryside, it is usually the son who takes over the family's property, so I am afraid it is not appropriate to do so.
As soon as these words came out, the mother-in-law was immediately unhappy, and she said in front of the village chiefAlthough his son is here, he is the same as not, and he can't help in life. In the past ten years, thanks to the sensible daughter and son-in-law to take care of her, otherwise her paralyzed old lady would have been hungry a long time ago. I don't have any inheritance for them, so I rely on national policies to save this money. I see it as a reward for my daughter and son-in-law who have taken good care of me for the past ten years.
After hearing his mother-in-law's words, the village chief nodded in deep agreement, and said bluntly: "If it weren't for my title as village chief, I would definitely raise my hands to support your point of view." We are all old acquaintances in the village, and you have been paralyzed and bedridden for ten years, and you have really relied on your daughter and son-in-law to take care of you, and the two of them have lived a life no different from being separated in order to take care of you. His own daughter is reasonable, it is really rare for a son-in-law to be able to do this, even if he has more property to his son-in-law, it is what he deserves. ”
But the village chief also said frankly that after all, he was a village cadre, and he was not very proficient in the legal provisions and could not give you wrong advice, so he could not give a definite answer. He suggested that you should consult a professional lawyer and listen to the legal arguments.
The news of the compensation for the demolition and relocation in the village quickly spread to the eldest brother in the provincial capital like a wing. After only two or three days, the eldest brother drove his own car and returned to his hometown in the countryside with his wife and children, saying that he had come back to visit his old mother and offered to take the old man to the city to enjoy Qingfu.
However, the villagers are like mirrors in their hearts, this eldest brother has not stepped into this house for more than ten years, and now he heard that the family has money to share, and their family of three immediately appeared.
The old mother-in-law's face was gloomy, and she was cold to her son, who came back suddenly, but showed rare enthusiasm for her granddaughter, whom she had barely seen a few times.
Seeing this, the wife left the house without expressing any opinion, believing that her mother had the right to deal with the demolition money herself.
As for me, I didn't rush home, so I discussed it with my wife:The money was not ours, and if my mother-in-law was really willing to give it to us, we would not refuse; Even if it is given to the eldest brother, as long as he sincerely takes the old mother to the city to take care of it, we will fully accept it.
However, although the old mother-in-law was intimate with her granddaughter, she was reluctant to take care of her son and daughter-in-law, after all, this biological son who had not returned for ten years broke her heart. If it weren't for the demolition money, who knows if he would have taken the initiative to come back to visit today?
Strangely, the mother-in-law did not mention the distribution of the demolition money later, let alone agreed to follow her son to the city for the elderly. Soon after her son left, she called ** to ask her daughter-in-law to come back quickly, saying that she was a little hungry and wanted to drink a bowl of soup ......