Eating Chinese New Year's Eve for the New Year reunion is a traditional custom of the Chinese nation. The family sat together, eating, chatting about family life, and talking about family affection, and they were happy. However, if you are not careful, it may lead to conflicts and spoil the atmosphere.
As the so-called".Good words are warm in three winters, and bad words are hurtful and cold in June"We have to remember".Be cautious in your words and deeds, and don't let your words hurt your feelingsDon't let everyone's mood be affected by habitual words, or even cause quarrels and ruin the atmosphere of the New Year's party.
In a word, it can warm people's hearts, or it can hurt countless people, the following 3 topics, I would rather stay in my heart than say it to my brothers and sisters.
1.income, don't show off
Everyone has their own income situation, ranging from high to low. It's not worth showing off, but at the party, it's inevitable that the topic of income will be discussed, and we just need to be careful not to show offDon't talk directly about your specific income figures. It can be vaguely described, such as "income has increased this year", "work is fairly stable", etc.
so as not to invite envy and disgust. Also, don't brag about how much money you have. Remember that wealth is something outside of your body, and don't use it to show off.
If you are an elder, ask the junior directly how much he earns? May cause unnecessary stress. Because during the New Year's party, everyone relaxes and enjoys the reunion. If you talk about income at this time, it may make juniors feel stressed, and even anxious and uneasy.
The best course of action is to avoid talking about incomeWe can talk more about light-hearted and pleasant topics, such as work, life, hobbies, etc.
In front of your siblings, don't flaunt your high income, which will attract jealousy and disgust.
In front of friends, don't talk about your income to avoid causing comparison. If you brag about your high income to your friends, it will appear that you are a person with low emotional intelligence and no understanding of human feelings.
In front of your elders, you should be humble and cautious, don't show off your achievements, talk more about family life with your elders, etc.
2.Filial piety, do not compare
"Filial piety" is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation, and it is also the obligation of the sons and daughters of China. Children have the obligation of filial piety to their parents, but there are various ways of filial piety, and the degree of filial piety is also different. In front of brothers and sisters, do not compare the degree of filial piety, so as not to cause conflicts.
Children have different ways of filial piety to their parents, and they cannot be generalized. One of the siblings may have a good economic situation and can provide a better material life for their parents;
Some have plenty of time to spend more time with their parents;
There are also some who have limited abilities, but they can also do their best to be filial to their parents.
Therefore, at the New Year's party, it is necessary to avoid mentioning the topic of who has been serving their parents, etc., so as to compare the degree of filial piety, which will not only cause conflicts and dilute the family relationship between siblings, but also make parents feel stressed and disappointed.
Filial piety to one's parents comes from the heart, not for comparison. If you are just trying to show yourself in front of others, then your filial piety will lose its meaning and you will not be able to make your parents feel your filial pietyFilial piety to parents is a lifelong thing. We should use practical actions to express filial piety, rather than using comparisons to win attention.
3.Juniors, don't criticize
The Chinese New Year party is a happy time for family and friends to gather together, reminisce about family affection and chat about family life. But some elders inevitably don't talk about their children's academic performance, and then criticize the juniors at this time, which can easily make children feel embarrassed and lost, and it will also affect each other's feelings.
If it is criticized in public, it is easy to cause rebellion. It can make the child feel disrespected and not understood, and thus reluctant to accept criticism. It can also affect a child's self-esteem.
When children are growing up, their self-esteem and self-confidence are fragile, and if they are criticized in public, it may hit their self-confidence and even make them feel inferior.
Our elders should encourage and affirm the younger generationsThe younger generation needs the encouragement and affirmation of the elders so that they have more confidence.
If you find that the juniors are not doing well, you can communicate and guide them privately.
This will prevent your child from feeling embarrassed and lost, and it will also make them more receptive to criticism. Post a collection of dragon cards to share millions of cash Communicate more with your children to understand their thoughts. This will allow you to get to know each other better. When your child gets a good grade, you can praise your child in front of relatives and give them encouragement. Be sure to talk to your children more often, learn about their studies, work and life, and care about their growth. Criticism is not an end, but a means. Guide your child in the right way to help her grow better.
Chinese New Year is the most beautiful time because the family members who work outside the home come back to get together, but it may also be that only the time for the family to get together is the time of the New Year. When chatting, we should be cautious in our words and deeds, pay attention to our words and deeds, and avoid saying things that hurt our feelings and doing things that spoil the atmosphere. Say more words of blessing and encouragement!
Finally, I wish you all a happy and prosperous New Year!