In the first episode of "The Legend of Zhen Huan", each family sent their daughters to the palace for the draft.
An Lingrong, who was timid because of his low self-esteem about his background and family background, accidentally bumped into Xia Dongchun's teacup when he panicked, causing the water in the cup to wet Xia Dongchun's clothes.
Xia, Dong and Chun aggressively asked An Lingrong to kneel down and beg to be let go, but An Lingrong didn't dare to say anything more.
Why? On the one hand, An Lingrong is a timid person.
She has lived in a poor environment since she was a child, lacks self-confidence and courage, and feels inferior because of her humble background, and cannot be compared with other palace ladies from famous families. This also led to her often being in a passive position in her interactions with other court maids, lacking initiative and assertiveness.
The second is because of the cautious side of her character. She just wants to be selected into the harem smoothly, and she doesn't dare to have too many conflicts that will lead to the emperor's ears and lose the opportunity.
The weaker the person, the more afraid of conflictI'm so touched, I'm talking about myself, I'm afraid of conflict.
My father, who has lived in fear of anger since I was a child, has a blank brain at the thought of arguing with others, and seems to have imagined the image of the other party yelling at me.
I've been trying to change and seems to have changed a little.
Later, I saw a good hint from a netizen: Can you comfort you if there is an idea, the anger indicates that a person is emotionally out of control and has poor emotional management skills, just like a child, it is not you who is "wrong", it is the other party.
The weaker the person, the more fragile the heart, and they are afraid to face difficulties and challenges because they lack self-confidence and courage.
When faced with conflict, they often choose to avoid or compromise because they fear that they are not strong enough to deal with it. However, it is this fear of conflict that makes them even more weak. Only by facing conflicts bravely can you truly improve your strength and confidence.
I still am, as long as there are signs of an argument between others, or if two people talk too loudly and in a bit of a fierce tone, I can't tell if they are angry and quarreling, I will start to be afraid, my heart is racing, I want to escape from this environment, I am afraid that the conflict will sometimes harm my own interests to avoid conflict.
I'm always in a state of anxiety and fear, so I'm always like a frightened bird, and I hate it, but it seems to have become part of my survival instinct, avoiding arguments and conflicts, avoiding danger.
I only had to fight for it, but in fact, I was still very uneasy and scared, maybe I was too scared and scared.
Then, every time I quarrel with others, my mouth is not good, and after the quarrel, I feel that I have not played well at all, and I think in my heart how I should say it to ......
It's too hard to change from this established survival pattern.
It's like I've gotten used to lowering my head to avoid predators, but now I'm told that if you don't look up, you're not going to be able to live, and the predators are gone, and it's hard for me to get rid of the habit of bowing my head right away.
Conceptual illustration of employee growth in the workplace.
To change the fear of conflict, it is first necessary to recognize that conflict is inevitable and that it is the norm in human relationships.
1. When facing conflict, staying calm and rational is key, rather than being swayed by fear.
2. Boosting self-confidence can also help reduce the fear of conflict, as confident people are usually better equipped to deal with conflict.
3. It is also very important to learn effective communication skills, good communication helps to avoid misunderstandings and contradictions, thereby reducing the occurrence of conflicts.