Zhang Hanzhi, a well-known Chinese female diplomat, once said that her life has always been pressed by the three mountains of "Zhang Shizhao's daughter", "teacher" and "Qiao Guanhua's wife".
The ups and downs of her life, especially the love story, made people sigh, but before she died, she left her last words: "After I die, don't bury me with Qiao Guanhua, bury me next to my father.......""What stories did Zhang Hanzhi experience?
What does her daughter Hong Huang think of her mother's wisdom?
Zhang Hanzhi: The original illegitimate daughter, her father Zhang Shizhao is a former Duan Qirui ** Chief Justice and Chief of Education. As her parents fought over custody of her, she was eventually adopted by a lawyer, who was Zhang Shizhao.
Zhang Shizhao's talent and learning are first-class, and Hu Shi once commented that he has both Zhang Binglin's rigor and refinement, as well as Liang Qichao's organization and depth.
** cared about Zhang Hanzhi's father many times, but Zhang Hanzhi was very "rebellious", and simply replied "It's okay". When asked what she thought of her father, she said solemnly: "My father was an old bureaucrat who belonged to the exploiting class and did not belong to the same class as the Communists, and we need to draw a clear line." ”
Hearing this, ** smiled and quipped, "Who did he exploit?" You say it lightly, you don't have any boundaries to draw, your father has done a lot of things in the past......”
It turned out that Zhang Hanzhi had never been able to comprehend ***'s kindness to his father. In her memory, her father was Duan Qirui's Minister of Education, had a dispute with Mr. Lu Xun, and was an out-and-out "villain".
The father and daughter had an estrangement for a long time, and it was not until after the trials and tribulations of life that Zhang Hanzhi gradually understood his father, and their relationship improved. In 1972, Zhang Shizhao was seriously ill and hospitalized, and Zhang Hanzhi was in charge of receiving Nixon at that time, and came to visit him immediately after the mission.
At that time, the door had just opened, and Zhang Hanzhi almost cried, because she saw her old father lying on the bed, half-sitting and half-lying, looking very lonely. At this time, Zhang Shizhao, who was over ninety years old, only had deep love for his daughter left in his heart.
So far, I haven't done anything for you, and I feel sorry for you. "You can achieve such an achievement at such an age, and your family is proud of you.
I hope that your children will be able to move around more and take care of each other ...... in the futureFeeling his father's deep affection, Zhang Hanzhi burst into tears. When she was a child, she was most reluctant to bear the title of "Zhang Shizhao's daughter", but as she grew up, she realized that this father-daughter relationship could not be parted.
The teacher-student relationship with *** Zhang Hanzhi's acquaintance with *** began in 1950, when she was still a fifteen-year-old teenager and could only listen boringly to the conversations of adults.
** once quipped: "It's boring to be with us, right?" You can go outside and play and come back when it's time to eat. However, the second encounter was in 1963, ** invited Zhang Shizhao and other 4 Hunan villagers to dinner, and specially invited Zhang Hanzhi to participate.
Knowing that the former little girl had become an English teacher, ** felt both emotional and happy, and invited Zhang Hanzhi to teach him English. Everyone thought that *** was joking, but a week later, **'s secretary called** and asked when Zhang Hanzhi would be free to start class.
During his tenure as a teacher for more than half a year, Zhang Hanzhi's teaching experience was generally smooth. However, the two had disagreements on the choice of topics for English textbooks.
Zhang Hanzhi advocated that the teaching materials should be mainly literary, supplemented by news and political content, while *** believed that political themes should be dominant, and literary content should account for up to one-third.
Although the two sides did not reach an agreement, *** still took the initiative to give in, and said with emotion: "This Teacher Zhang is really strong, both strategic and will not compromise easily, I really can't convince her to ......."Although Zhang Hanzhi seems "tough" in teaching, he seems a little "weak" in life.
In the 60s of the last century, Zhang Hanzhi's husband had an affair, and the couple separated for several years. However, Zhang Hanzhi adheres to the traditional concept and is afraid of being discussed by the outside world, so he has never divorced her husband.
In 1972, after receiving Japanese Prime Minister Kakuei Tanaka, ** suddenly mentioned this matter to Zhang Hanzhi. "Teacher Zhang, I want to criticize you for one thing today.
Your husband has already reconciled with someone else, why haven't you divorced yet? *'s words were loud, but Zhang Hanzhi felt unacceptable, and cried in front of everyone, choking up while crying: "Chairman, don't mention this topic today, okay......."”
** sighed lightly, and the words revealed warmth and understanding. "I just hope you can let go of your restraints, face it bravely, and don't let yourself continue to suffer. Zhang Hanzhi's words deeply touched her, she wiped her tears, and responded firmly: "Chairman, you are right, I have decided to solve this problem, this trouble should also be over, and I will free myself." ”
**The relationship with Zhang Hanzhi is not simply a teacher and student, but more like a friend and a good teacher. The interaction between them is sometimes more like a guide on the road of Zhang Hanzhi's life, helping her to keep moving forward.
Even, ** had planned to make Zhang Hanzhi the "first female ambassador of New China", however, Zhang Hanzhi politely declined this proposal because of her feelings for Qiao Guanhua.
3. Fate with Qiao Guanhua In 1967, when Zhang Hanzhi was teaching at Beijing Foreign Chinese College, he met Qiao Guanhua for the first time, and he was heroic and impressive, which left a deep impression on her.
Later, when Zhang Hanzhi was teaching *** English, his performance was recognized, and he was recommended to *** Qiao Guanhua was already the deputy minister of *** at that time.
However, this meeting made Zhang Hanzhi's impression of Qiao Guanhua change a lot, he looked both energetic and vicissitudes. It turned out that in the past few years, Qiao Guanhua suffered from a serious illness and his wife passed away.
This made her feel deep sympathy for Qiao Guanhua's experience. Since then, they have spent more time together, Zhang Hanzhi regards Qiao Guanhua as a respectable senior, and Qiao Guanhua also appreciates her beauty and talent.
Despite this, Qiao Guanhua's requirements for Zhang Hanzhi are still very strict at work.
When Qiao Guanhua led the team to the United States, Zhang Hanzhi served as a translator and was responsible for translating part of the conversation. Because the content of the conversation involved obscure parts, Zhang Hanzhi's translation was not fluent.
Qiao Guanhua suggested that she strengthen her study in this area, so Zhang Hanzhi was replaced, which made her feel very aggrieved. Similar things have happened many times, and Zhang Hanzhi thought that Qiao Guanhua hated her.
It wasn't until 1972 that ** criticized Zhang Hanzhi that the situation changed. After that, Qiao Guanhua asked Zhang Hanzhi: "Is what you said true?" Zhang Hanzhi was silent for a while, then nodded, looking depressed.
Qiao Guanhua didn't speak at the time, but after that, the communication with Zhang Hanzhi gradually increased. When Zhang Hanzhi filed for divorce, Qiao Guanhua directly expressed his feelings to her: "I like you, are you willing to marry me?" ”
Hearing this, Zhang Hanzhi was stunned for a moment, then his eyes turned red, and he said, "Thank you for liking, but it's impossible for us." ”
After Qiao Guanhua's death, Zhang Hanzhi experienced a painful love. In order to better accompany Qiao Guanhua, she gave up the opportunity to become the first female ambassador of New China.
This sincere affection allows her to withstand the doubts of the society and the opposition of her children. Although the two have many difficulties in life, they always stay together sweetly.
In the end, Qiao Guanhua died due to the spread of cancer cells, and Zhang Hanzhi fell into deep grief. Regarding her death, at first she planned to be buried with her husband, but then she changed her mind and decided to be buried with her father.
Why is that?
In 2007, Zhang Hanzhi was interviewed by a reporter and also went to Fushouyuan to visit the graves of her father and husband. The graves of her father, Zhang Shizhao, and husband, Qiao Guanhua, are located on both sides of a small river.
First, Zhang Hanzhi went to her father's grave and bowed deeply to show her respect for him, and only then went to her husband's grave. There, she offered a basket of champagne-colored roses and went around the back of the bronze statue of her husband, leaning gently against it.
The staff took a group photo of them. In fact, Zhang Hanzhi comes here every year to take a **. In this interview, she even went out of her way to explain to reporters: "There is a step behind the bronze statue of my husband, and I can stand on it just enough to catch him, and I feel very comfortable."
And that's my exclusive place. The core idea of the new copy: Zhang Hanzhi will go to Fushouyuan every year to sweep the graves of her father and husband, and take pictures there.
She particularly liked the position behind the bronze statue of her husband, where she would take pictures and share her feelings with reporters.
Reminiscing about the old days and sharing stories of the past with reporters, we can see the love between her and her husband. Her actions over the years show that she wants to be buried with her husband.
However, before she died, she changed her mind and specifically told ** to let her daughter know that after she died, she should not be buried with Qiao Guanhua, but should be buried with her father Zhang Shizhao.
As for the reason, Zhang Hanzhi had already revealed before his death: "I have done a lot of things for my husband, but I haven't done anything for my father, and I always feel guilty about him." ”
Perhaps it was this guilt that made her decide to "stay with her father for a long time". For Zhang Hanzhi's decision, her family is also very supportive, and even her daughter Hong Huang said: "Mother's decision is full of wisdom, she is such a smart and empathetic person." ”
In fact, Zhang Hanzhi's "smart and empathetic" is not only reflected here, but also in her ability to look at her own life independently and not be influenced by others.
In his later years, Zhang Hanzhi wrote a lot of books, among which "The Years Drifting with the Wind" and "Crossing the Thick Red Door" are the most representative. These books record her with her father Zhang Shizhao, her husband Qiao Guanhua, and even her personal experience during Nixon's visit to China.
However, for Zhang Hanzhi, these are not her real pursuits, because she once said: "There are three mountains above my head, which are Zhang Shizhao's daughter, **'s teacher and Qiao Guanhua's wife." ”
These three titles are both an affirmation and a pressure on her. She would prefer to shine her own light, even if it is faint, even if it is not noticeable. For this reason, she decided to write an autobiography in English, but she was not in good health and died of lung complications in Beijing before she could finish it.
In February 2008, Zhang Hanzhi's funeral was successfully held in Babaoshan, and her last wish was fulfilled and she was laid to rest with her father. Although Zhang Hanzhi's life has ended, her spiritual torch of spreading light and heat has not been extinguished, but passed on to future generations.
Her daughter took over the baton, and the verification of historical materials, the revision of manuscripts, and the publication of the manuscript were all carried out in an orderly manner. Looking back on Zhang Hanzhi's life, we not only feel that her life is unexpected and colorful.
Although she has been through many twists and turns and tribulations, overall, her life has been fulfilled enough. Zhang Shizhao's care, appreciation and Qiao Guanhua's love have made her life more precious.
We should also learn from Zhang Hanzhi in life, learn to know ourselves clearly, be a smart person, don't be confused by fame and fortune, don't be driven by desire, we should look at life correctly and make our own choices.