Li Yuqin:years of marrying Pu Yi,Years of sexless marriage, the first ** before divorce
In 1956, Li Yuqin went to visit Pu Yi at the Fushun War Criminals Management Center. Pu Yi held the candy in his hand and walked all the way laughing. After eating the candy, he stuffed another one into his mouth, and chewed it for a long time before remembering Li Yuqin, who was sitting opposite.
He took out a candy and threw it on the other side, and said happily, "This is our share." His expression was as happy as a child receiving a snack. However, instead of answering, Li Yuqin placed her bag on the table, which was filled with snacks, sweets and daily necessities she had bought for Pu Yi.
Li Yuqin told Pu Yi that she borrowed money to buy these items, and the travel expenses were also borrowed. Hearing this, Pu Yi lowered his head and did not speak again.
Li Yuqin is dissatisfied in the management center, because the wronged person enjoys a superior life, while she is constantly targeted. Her brothers were also expelled from their jobs because of their relationship with Pu Yi.
Although she tries to seek comfort from Pu Yi, Pu Yi always ignores her. Eventually, Li Yuqin filed for divorce, although Pu Yi did not agree. She said they weren't suitable because they had never had closeness and children.
The news came as a surprise to everyone. Li Yuqin has been "keeping festivals" for Pu Yi for 12 years, but now she is going to divorce. It all stemmed from her experience of being coaxed into the palace.
Li Yuqin, a poor family, has 6 brothers and sisters, and lives a difficult life. When the Japanese proposed to let Li Yuqin enter the palace to study, she was moved, because her family was too poor, how free it was to study**.
However, she didn't realize that the Japanese were just using her as a tool against them and asked her to marry Pu Yi. When he entered the palace, Pu Yi's concubine Tan Yuling had just died, and Yoshioka Yasunao, a staff officer of the Japanese Kwantung Army, had been urging him to remarry.
In order to put eyes and ears around him, Pu Yi was forced to choose a 15-year-old junior high school girl, Li Yuqin, and named her "Fu Guiren". However, Li Yuqin's life has not changed because of this, and she is still only a tool in the hands of the Japanese, being used against China.
Li Yuqin's fate is controlled by others, and she is an innocent victim.
As soon as Li Yuqin entered the palace, she was misunderstood and discriminated against by Pu Yi, who regarded her as a "spy" and commanded her as the "Son of Heaven". Pu Yi also instilled feudal ethics in Li Yuqin, making her believe in "Three Obedience and Four Virtues" and "Legend of Martyrs" to ensure her loyalty.
In order to ensure Li Yuqin's loyalty, Pu Yi also formulated a set of extremely strict 21 rules, including that he must abide by the ancestral system of the Qing Dynasty, obey unconditionally, do not change his mind, do not seek employment for his family, and do not save money privately.
Despite her young and ignorant age, Li Yuqin knew that these regulations were unreasonable and refused to enforce them. Pu Yi was furious about this and accused Li Yuqin of being disloyal, Li Yuqin had no choice but to kowtow and admit his mistake, and copied and recited the 21 articles, swearing to abide by them.
Although Pu Yi has a profound control over Li Yuqin mentally, his strategy of winning hearts and minds is also very good. Although Pu Yi and Li Yuqin did not see each other much, he often gave her clothes, food, gold, silver and jewelry to express his affection.
When Li Yuqin is homesick, he will invite her parents into the palace; When her family was in difficulty, he would send people to bring rice, white flour and cash. These actions made the young Li Yuqin feel deeply grateful and moved.
Pu Yi said, these are nothing, because what I have is what you have. Then, he also gave Li Yuqin the Tongde Palace, where only the queen could live. While enjoying the luxurious life brought by Pu Yi, Li Yuqin also has a higher evaluation of his image, and her trust in Pu Yi is also deepening.
However, the good times didn't last long.
When Japan surrendered in 1945, Pu Yi and his cronies tried to flee to Japan, abandoning Li Yuqin in Da Lizigou. He promised Li Yuqin that they would meet in Japan in a few days, but the next day at the Shenyang airport, the Soviets captured him and took him to the Soviet Union.
After Pu Yi left, the Eighth Route Army took over Li Yuqin. They thought that Li Yuqin was young and cultured, and tried to get her to draw a line with Pu Yi and join the army. But Li Yuqin resolutely refused, because she believed that Pu Yi was a good person and that all bad things were done by the Japanese.
She and Pu Yi are family, and she vows to be loyal to him. Persuasion failed, so the staff had to find her family and bring her home.
If Li Yuqin had followed the advice to join the army, then she might have taken another bright path in her life instead of experiencing the hardships of the next seven years. However, Li Yuqin's loyalty to Pu Yi just proves Pu Yi's careful training of her.
Pu Yi chose Li Yuqin because she was young and easy to tame. He first made Li Yuqin fearful with **; then listed 21 regulations, which tightly bound Li Yuqin's thoughts; In the end, giving her a life of fine clothes and food, giving favors to the Li family, coupled with the glory of the royal family, made Puyi's image high in Li Yuqin's heart.
So much so that Pu Yi's blatant control, Li Yuqin turned a blind eye. She only saw Pu Yi's merits, and thought in her heart that she would be loyal to Pu Yi and be his good wife. With this mentality, Li Yuqin firmly chose the arduous road of keeping festivals for Puyi.
Li Yuqin, who was a girl, once changed from a royal mother to a slave and was almost starved to death. Soon after returning home, Pu Yi's family came to her and reminded her not to forget the emperor's kindness and never betray the emperor.
In order to show his loyalty to the emperor, Li Yuqin went to Tianjin with them, lived in the house of Puyi's brother Pu Xiu, and observed festivals for Puyi. Pu Xiu is an idle person, and he has been living on Pu Yi's reward.
After Pu Yi left, Pu Xiu's family's life plummeted, and they even survived by selling their property. In this case, Pu Xiu's selfishness made Li Yuqin's life in the house very difficult.
She only had two meals a day, eating the leftovers of Pu Xiu's family, and often only a little soup left, and if there was no extra food left, she could only starve.
Li Yuqin fell ill in the cold wax moon because she had no cotton clothes and a stove, and had a high fever of more than 40 degrees, talking nonsense. She was desperate for Pu Yi to come back and make her better, but it was only her wish.
Li Yuqin did not receive any news from Pu Yi, but only learned something from Pu Yi's nephew Ma Jinglan. Ma Jinglan's husband accompanied Pu Yi to the Soviet Union, while she lived with her children in Pu Xiu's house.
Like Li Yuqin, she has no background and is called as a servant.
1.From Pu Xiu's few words, Ma Jinglan felt the helplessness and helplessness of his predicament. Two young children cry with hunger all day long, and life is plunged into endless bitterness.
Ma Jinglan, who lost hope, fell ill, but Pu Xiu ignored her plea and even took her to the hospital before she died, but it was too late. Ma Jinglan's death caused Pu Xiu to drive her children to Li Yuqin's room and then rent out her house.
Li Yuqin has become a person who takes care of the children and cooks, and their family likes to eat porridge, and a pot of porridge needs to be boiled in a big pot. Once, Li Yuqin accidentally knocked over the porridge pot, and a large pot of porridge was spilled on the surface of her feet, causing the skin and flesh to rot, and even needed to continue cooking with a limp.
The Pu Xiu family was indifferent to this, and Li Yuqin's injuries were even more serious. 2.Ma Jinglan felt his distress and helplessness from Pu Xiu's few words. Two young children cry with hunger all day long, and life is in endless trouble.
Ma Jinglan lost hope in life and fell ill, but Pu Xiu ignored it and even sent her to the hospital before she died. Ma Jinglan's death caused Pu Xiu to drive her children to Li Yuqin's room and then rent out her house.
Li Yuqin has become a person who takes care of the children and cooks, and their family likes to eat porridge, and a pot of porridge needs to be boiled in a big pot. Once, Li Yuqin accidentally knocked over the porridge pot, and a large pot of porridge was spilled on the surface of her feet, causing the skin and flesh to rot, and even needed to continue cooking with a limp.
The Pu Xiu family was indifferent to this, and Li Yuqin's injuries were even more serious. 3.Ma Jinglan felt his helplessness and bitterness from Pu Xiu's few words. Two young children cry with hunger all day long, and life is in endless trouble.
Ma Jinglan lost hope in life and fell ill, but Pu Xiu was indifferent to it and even sent her to the hospital before she died. Ma Jinglan's death caused Pu Xiu to drive her children to Li Yuqin's room and then rent out her house.
Li Yuqin has become a person who takes care of the children and cooks, and their family likes to eat porridge, and a pot of porridge needs to be boiled in a big pot. Once, Li Yuqin accidentally knocked over the porridge pot, and a large pot of porridge was spilled on the surface of her feet, causing the skin and flesh to rot, and even needed to continue cooking with a limp.
The Pu Xiu family was indifferent to this, and Li Yuqin's injuries were even more serious.
Li Yuqin's life in the noble family was not satisfactory, and her injury and death made Li Yuqin see the hypocrisy and indifference of the aristocratic family. In order to survive, Li Yuqin began to knit sweaters for pocket money, and the work was taken from tenants.
Pu Xiu's family accused her of being unruly, but she replied: "Death by starvation is a small matter, but loss of discipline is a big matter." However, when Li Yuqin was able to make money, they were happy. Whenever Li Yuqin got paid, they shouted that "there is no money to eat".
Li Yuqin only left a little money to buy toilet paper and needlework, and handed over the rest. Even if Li Yuqin can make money, she is still starving. At each meal, they took it away one by one, and the last thing left was Li Yuqin and the two children.
Every time they buy grain, they deliberately buy one less portion, so Li Yuqin will never be full.
Li Yuqin had no rice in the pot for two consecutive days in her life, and she felt light and fluttering in bed, and her heart was so flustered that she couldn't stop beating. If it weren't for Pu Yi's cousin who quietly sent two baked cakes, she didn't know if she would have been able to get up the next day.
This life lasted for 7 years. In 1950, Li Yuqin moved to Beijing with Pu Xiu's family. After arriving in Beijing, the cadres of the neighborhood committee often came to her to do ideological work, encouraging her to go out and see the lives of young people today, and not to be delayed by taking care of children and doing housework every day.
Driven by the cadres of the neighborhood committee, Li Yuqin began to participate in street activities, knitting sweaters for teachers and staff at Fu Jen University, and becoming a literacy teacher in the night school at Huangchenggen Primary School.
Because of her good teaching, Li Yuqin's salary is the highest in the literacy class. However, Li Yuqin's actions made Pu Xiu dissatisfied. He mocked her that "a noble man is simply 'rebellious' when he shows his head", and he does not leave food at night or open the door for her.
These things made Li Yuqin deeply feel the happiness and hope brought to her by the new life, and also realized the decay of the feudal family. So, when she was 25 years old, she decided to leave Pu Xiu's home and go to a different way of living.
Why was Li Yuqin able to endure 7 years of starvation and abuse? The reason is that she firmly believes that the future and Pu Yi will change the status quo. Pu Yi has repeatedly said that he will wait until the disaster passes, and his life will be better, but Li Yuqin is convinced and regards Pu Yi as his lifeline.
However, Ma Jinglan's death and Pu Xiu's meanness made her see the ruthlessness of the royal family, coupled with the experience of participating in social activities, she began to pursue freedom and happiness, and her illusions about Pu Yi gradually disintegrated in the face of reality.
After a 12-year absence, Li Yuqin received Pu Yi's first letter, which contained only his repentance and recognition of his sins. Li Yuqin was puzzled by this, because she had always believed that Pu Yi was the noble emperor in her heart, and even if others had bad evaluations of him, she always believed that he was a good person who was just used by the Japanese.
Li Yuqin's heart began to beat when she heard the news that Yoshioka Yasuo was going to see Pu Yi, but when she actually saw Pu Yi, she felt a chill. At that time, although he was only in his early 50s, he had become an old man with gray hair, and his former chic and romantic style had long disappeared, leaving only the appearance of a prisoner.
In the conversation after the meeting, Pu Yi kept telling about his experience in the Soviet Union and what happened after returning to China, when the people who accompanied him to the Soviet Union wanted to return to China as soon as possible, but he was afraid of being punished, so he always wanted to stay in the Soviet Union.
This made Li Yuqin feel sad for a while, she had been starving and freezing in Pu Xiu's house, just hoping to reunite with him. However, she didn't expect that he didn't want to come back at all, and she never thought about what kind of life she would live all these years.
After coming out of the management office, she suddenly realized that the gap between her and Pu Yi was getting bigger and bigger, he was enjoying a good life in it and didn't have to work, while her life and work had become a mess because of her relationship with him.
A few months later, Li Yuqin visited Puyi again. She recounted her troubles, and when she was looking for a job recently, some people were ashamed to say that she was still immersed in the fantasies of the past, and longed to become a puppet Manchurian mother again.
Li Yuqin's tears welled up uncontrollably. However, Pu Yi was silent for a long time, and only said two words lightly: "Is it?" Li Yuqin eagerly asked him when he would be free, but Pu Yi replied that he couldn't predict it.
Then, Li Yuqin confided in him about the hardships and hardships of her life in Tianjin and Beijing, but her family and siblings did not care about her. Li Yuqin thought that Pu Yi would comfort her a few words, but he only said: "These people only knew how to ask for it in the past. ”
Pu Yi's indifference made Li Yuqin's words stuck in her throat and unable to speak. It wasn't until the fourth meeting that Li Yuqin's depression finally broke out.
On that trip to Fushun, Li Yuqin still needed to borrow money from Puyi's personal doctor, and this borrowing experience was too frequent, so much so that she was sneered at by the doctor's wife.
The reason why Li Yuqin disregarded her face and borrowed money again and again to see Pu Yi was because the life she was in was really difficult. As a "puppet Manchu imperial concubine", she herself was discriminated against, and even her relatives in her family were implicated.
Because the two uncles were "relatives of the emperor", their original good jobs were replaced, and they were also sent to Inner Mongolia, and the two brothers also lost their jobs. Li Yuqin went to visit Pu Yi in the hope of getting some spiritual comfort from him.
However, when she arrives at the management center, she is confronted with the opening scene. Pu Yi ate the candy by himself, he didn't think about sharing the sugar with Li Yuqin, and he didn't understand why he wanted to borrow money, because he had all these things in the management office.
He was still enjoying the food while complaining about his days there, that so-and-so was too confused, and so-and-so seemed ridiculous. Li Yuqin felt more and more chilled after hearing this, she and Pu Yi did not belong to the same world at all.
Pu Yi showed indifference to the predicament of her life; Pu Yi was indifferent to the emotional support she craved. Li Yuqin, who couldn't bear it, finally said: "Divorce!
We don't fit! This surprised Pu Yi. Li Yuqin also said before that she wanted to build a new life with him, why did she turn her face and deny people in a blink of an eye? Seeing that he began to be silent again, Li Yuqin said: "You have never been close to me, you can't have children, and you are much older than me, after thinking about it again, I think divorce is the best choice." ”
In order to save Li Yuqin, Pu Yi specially arranged an in-depth conversation in the management office. For this meeting, the leaders of the management office also made an exception to let Li Yuqin stay overnight in the management center.
This is the first time that Li Yuqin and Pu Yi have spent a room together in 14 years of marriage, and this night also convinced Li Yuqin of one thing: Pu Yi has physical problems. The next day, Pu Yi said, "I won't necessarily be pregnant this time, if you have any other requirements, just let me know." ”
However, Li Yuqin remained silent, and this night strengthened her determination to divorce. Many people think that Li Yuqin's divorce is because of Pu Yi's physiological problems, but in fact, her real reason is: "People who have been vegetarians for a long time will be disgusted with meat, and people who have not been exposed to men for a long time will also get used to it."
The reason I got divorced was because it was too stressful. Finally in 1957, Li Yuqin and Pu Yi officially divorced.
Stressed? Maybe it's just an excuse. Why did Li Yuqin insist on divorce? In the final analysis, it stems from her dedication and loss in the relationship. She gets nothing in return from Pu Yi, who is leisurely and blind to her problems.
In "The First Half of My Life", Pu Yi once said: "I have never understood friendship and love, only masters and slaves and monarchs. After waiting for 12 years, Li Yuqin finally saw Pu Yi's indifference and ruthlessness.
The once beautiful illusion was shattered in reality, and Li Yuqin, who had come to her senses, decided to leave the past behind and welcome a new life.
Li Yuqin experienced a failed marriage and took children after the divorce, but she did not give up and actively sought happiness. In the end, she found love again, had a son with her new husband, and had a harmonious family and a successful career.
This story teaches us that love is not only maintained by strong control, but more importantly by understanding and respect. I hope you can also find the person who understands you and respects you on the way to finding love, and walks towards the other side of happiness together.