Parents ask for help: school is about to start in a blink of an eye, adults have to adjust their status when they resume work, and children who are in a relaxed state during the holidays will not be suitable for returning to a tense and orderly study life, how to adjust?
Nanjing Xia Guangqing Moral Education Famous Teacher Studio Q&A: After a long vacation, some children will become lazy, procrastinating, irregular life, undisciplined, and even sleepy the more they sleep, and they are prone to suffer from "holiday syndrome" after school, and they cannot enter the learning state for a long time, so it is necessary to collect their hearts in time.
Mind it, parents should avoid the following "minefields". One is to recite mantras. Parents say morning and night: "It's time to take care of yourself!" "I haven't finished my homework, what kind of idle books to read!" "It's no wonder that you don't lag behind when you watch TV! "Although the truth is good, the child just can't hear it. The second is sudden braking. During the holidays, children are too relaxed, and parents take away what their children like "one size fits all" before the start of school, which not only leads to distraction, but also leads to resistance among children, and the parent-child relationship deteriorates. The third is impatience. In the face of their children's "slow heat", some parents are impatient, scolding their children for being lazy, and even punching and kicking each other, who knows that they can't eat hot tofu in a hurry.
Helping children adjust their state is a process from disorder to order, from casual to self-control, from relaxation to relaxation. We might as well do that.
Break away and start with a regular routine. The first important part of the heart is to cut off the TV, give up the mobile phone, and leave the bed, so that the regular work and rest time can become the "opening song" to welcome the new semester. Some children can't stop electronic products for a while, so first make an appointment to watch TV and play with mobile phones, and then ask their parents to effectively supervise, and at the same time do more quiet activities such as reading, painting, and doing housework. The regular routine of going to bed early and waking up early can help restore children's energy and improve concentration, which is the "right way to open" before school starts.
Find the state and gradually increase the study time. In addition to resting, holidays are also used to check and fill in gaps. Children with weak self-control doze off when they read a book, and they can't sit still when they play with their mobile phones day and night. Therefore, before the start of school, it is necessary to reduce the time for entertainment and visiting relatives and friends, increase the time for reading and practicing calligraphy, and gradually adapt to the rhythm and intensity of learning. Check whether your child's holiday homework has been completed, insist on reading for more than 30 minutes in the morning every day, especially make a plan for the new semester, don't underestimate the "plan", it can eliminate the sense of blindness after the holiday.
Get moving, and increase your pleasure. If you have food and drink during the winter vacation, and stay at home for a long time, your child's physical and mental quality will decline. Exercising for 1 hour a day not only helps to exercise the body, but also helps to calm the mind. For example, jogging, skipping rope, playing badminton, tai chi, etc., when the body and mind "move", the secretion of endorphins and serotonin will increase, thereby activating a positive psychological state. "Movement" here includes doing housework, especially cleaning up one's own belongings, and cultivating children's self-care ability and sense of responsibility. In the new semester, parents should also set a goal for themselves: no longer send water cups and homework to children in middle and upper grades.
Good communication, focusing on the reshaping of good habits. Parents may wish to review with their children what they have seen and heard during the holidays, affirm their children's growth and gains, and at the same time, talk about school happiness, understand their thoughts and feelings, and let their children set a small goal for themselves, so that they have more control over their learning. For children who are in poor mood, you may wish to try the "SWTC Emotion Regulation Method" to learn to be friends with your emotions.
stop - stop the spread of negative thinking. Sit quietly with your eyes closed and breathe abdominally. Take a deep breath for 4 seconds, hold it for 2 seconds, and finally exhale it evenly for 8 seconds, relax through breathing, activate the parasympathetic nervous system, and help relieve anxiety; Or take 1 minute to recall a good event and stop thinking negatively so you can focus on the present moment.
Write – the courage to express negative emotions. Take out a piece of paper, write down your negative emotions such as uneasiness, fear, worry, anger, etc., and write down the unsolvable problems that bother you the most at the moment, and cross out the solutions when you think of them.
Think – Start the positive thinking mode. Think about recalling a time when you have successfully solved a problem, and activate your inner strength by recalling the confident feeling of success.
change - change the way of thinking and take positive action. Think differently, rethink your approach to solving problems with a positive, confident mindset, and life will be simpler.
Yangtze Evening News Purple Cow News reporter Wang Ying.
Proofread by Li Haihui.