This year, we didn't go back to our hometown for the Chinese New Year. Because the house burned down, we had nowhere to go.
Our whole family stayed in Ningbo for the New Year.
To be honest, those two wooden houses are the work of my in-laws all their lives. They are honest farmers who have spent their lives in the fields begging for a living, and raising their husbands with their hardworking hands.
My mother-in-law is very thrifty, and my father-in-law is also very diligent. My father-in-law, who is now in his 70s and has had two surgeries, is very emotional when he talks about it.
The main perpetrator this time was the next-door neighbor, who was cooking sweet potatoes in the house, but in order to see the mahjong field, the person walked away.
As soon as the people left, the fire went up to the sky, and there were five rooms in a row, and we had two and a half rooms, and it was all gone up in a few dozen minutes.
After the house burned down, the attitude of their family made people feel disgusting. The in-laws rushed to their hometown without a word of greeting. They looked at the ruins in their eyes, and their hearts were bleeding.
After the accident was identified, of course, it was the responsibility of the neighbors, the leaders of the village and the town, organized several families, and mediated, but the other party had a very bad attitude and did not admit that he burned it.
Later, several families began to appeal to the local court. After a mediation by the court, it was still ineffective.
Now, the case has been submitted to the Dongyang Municipal People's Court, and the ** notice has not yet been received.
During last year, my husband went back and forth between Ningbo and Jinhua five or six times, which made people anxious.
We don't know when the case will be decided, and we don't know if we will be able to get compensation in the end.
But what's the solution? The other party is dragging and dragging to death.
Usually, at home, as soon as we talk about it, my father-in-law is very emotional, so we try to avoid mentioning it.
At the Chinese New Year's Eve dinner, I said: I can't go back to my hometown this year, but our whole family is together, and everything will be fine.
I know, my comfort is pale, but this kind of thing, sometimes really can't do anything. The other party is desperate not to lose money, let you appeal again and again, and constantly consume your energy, can you come to the door and burn down their house?
This year, after discussing with my husband, I decided to save a little more money and try to build a new house next year.
Although there is very little time to go back to my hometown every year, there is always a place to stay.
As soon as the two of us graduated, we worked hard in this strange city, with no resources, no noble people to help us, and no family background. With his own wisdom and hands, he was given a place to live.
Now, I have to plan my hometown's house again, and there is no pressure, which is fake. After all, building a house is real gold**.
In rural areas, the cost of a simple two- or three-story house is also very high. It takes many years for our whole family to not eat or drink.
Sometimes, I joke with my boss: I have been married to you for so many years, we are all tossing the house, and if I had married that demolition household, I would not have so many troubles.
Indeed, we have been tossing the house for ten years since we married our husband. At the beginning of our marriage, we bought a house of more than 70 square meters, and then our in-laws came to Ningbo, and then the second child was born, and we tossed another house.
The mortgage on one house is paid off, and the mortgage on the other house is renewed. I thought I could stop for a few years, but I didn't expect this to happen.
People never know what awaits us next.
But I always believe that no matter what difficulties are encountered, if the husband and wife are united and the family is harmonious, then it can be solved slowly.
The house burned down, but the home remained. We can't change the facts in front of us, so we can only take a detour and think about how to face it.
I saw such a passage on the Internet:
When I was a child, I thought it was a big deal to break a bowl; Forgetting to bring homework to elementary school is a big deal; When I was in junior high school, the high school entrance examination was a big deal; After high school, going to college became a big deal; When I was in college, it became a big deal to pursue the person I liked; Finding a job after graduating from college is a big deal; After work, it is a big deal to find a partner to marry; After having a partner, buying a house becomes a big deal; After getting married, having children is a big deal; After having a child, it is a big deal for the child to get sick; What school a child attends in elementary and junior high school has become a big deal; When people reach middle age, the health of their parents becomes a great matter; It has become a big ......deal for children to take the high school entrance examination, college entrance examination, find a job, and get married
At each stage, we encounter different things; Everyone needs to face different problems. Some things, at the moment, thought it was a big thing, but when I looked back, the light boat had passed over the Ten Thousand Mountains.
Now you and I, old and young, are not qualified to retreat or lie flat. Difficulties are temporary, but struggle is eternal.
Facing everything calmly, those things that we thought we couldn't get by, sooner or later, we can share them openly.
Falling out of love, unemployed, losing loved ones, destroying our homes, those who can't kill us, let us try to survive.