It has become a common phenomenon for the elderly to take care of their children. When you meet young people who know how to be grateful, you will appreciate the difficulties faced by the elderly. When encountering some ungrateful young people, the elderly have to endure not only physical fatigue, but also psychological stress.
A few days ago, a mother-in-law complained about her mother-in-law in the group: I worked all day during the day, and when I got home, my mother-in-law asked me to watch the children. I think my mother-in-law did it on purpose. I asked her to take care of the child. If you don't want her to enjoy happiness, I really don't know what use she has?
Mom originally thought that her complaint would be comforted by other mothers in the group, but she didn't expect the mothers in the group to be furious and accuse her of ignorance!
The mother-in-law takes care of the baby all day, and she is tired enough. Taking care of her children is not that easy. Besides, the mother-in-law has been working all day during the day, and she has to communicate and contact with the baby more at night.
No wonder some mothers-in-law admit that they regret helping their sons and daughters-in-law take care of their children. They originally wanted to reduce the burden on their son, but they didn't expect that because of taking care of the children, they ended up becoming the most hated person by their daughter-in-law.
Let the elderly take care of the children, young people must understand these truths!
1.The child is your own.
Many daughters-in-law feel that it is unfair: the child is not raised by my mother-in-law, and the child is not mine. Aren't they also her son's children? It is the right of a mother-in-law to take care of the children, why should I be asked?
It is true that the child is not the woman's alone, but the couple's, but as a daughter-in-law, you should also show understanding and gratitude to the mother-in-law who takes care of the child.
And you have to clearly understand that the child is your own, and the elderly are just helping to take care of the child. As the mother of the child, even if the father is too busy to take care of the child, the mother still has to fulfill her responsibilities and obligations.
Nowadays, many young mothers use "the child is not my own" as an excuse. They said they wanted the child's father to take on more responsibility. In fact, they use this excuse to evade their responsibilities and always think that raising children is a burden. 。
Children are the fairest. Whoever is responsible for taking care of the children will be closer to the people they care for. If young people leave their children in the hands of the elderly and ignore them, go to work during the day and relax more at night, then don't blame the children for not following you in the future. Kissed.
2.Thanks to the elders.
This dish is a bit salty! ”
I like stews, why do I stir-fry them again? ”
I don't want to drink so much soup, I'm going to be fat! ”
When the mother-in-law comes to serve the confinement and take care of the child, many mothers will be picky and always feel that the mother-in-law can't do anything. They may even think to themselves: Mother-in-law probably didn't mean it, it's just that she doesn't want to pay attention to me!
Actually, there is nothing wrong with the elderly. It is important to know that the habits that a person develops are difficult to change, especially for older people who have the same eating habits throughout their lives. Older people are hard to change. Instead of nagging and blaming the old man, it is better to tell the old man directly:
Mom, take a break today, let's order takeout. You haven't eaten pizza yet, have you? I'll order one today and let's try it!
So, is it easier for older people to accept?
If there were no children, the elderly could have lived a stable and happy old age, planting flowers and walking every day. The elderly sacrifice their personal time to help the children. As young people, we should be understanding, grateful, and not treat the elderly as nannies.
3.Take on the responsibility of raising your child.
Why do I think I should quit my job and go home to take care of my children? ”
A friend shared that she originally trained her husband to let him do housework with him, washing underwear and socks. Later, she gave birth to a child, and after her mother-in-law came to take care of the child, her husband returned to his original self and sat on the sofa as soon as he came home. Ge You lay there doing nothing. After thinking about it, my friend decided to quit her job and concentrate on taking care of the children, at least so that her husband could be more diligent.
Just because an elderly person helps take care of the children does not mean that a young person can take over as a shopkeeper. You must know that there is a difference between children raised by the elderly and children raised by young people.
During the day, the elderly take care of the children, and when they come home from work at night, they should spend more time with their children. No matter how much money you make, no matter how good your children's living conditions are, it's best to spend time with them.
There is a saying that makes sense: when you should spend time with your children, if you choose to earn money and neglect to accompany and educate your children, then the money you earn may be spent in a few years. If we choose to spend time with our children, then in the next few years our children may be able to earn more than we can earn in a lifetime.
People develop all their lives, just like McDonald's founder Ray Clark, who founded McDonald's at the age of 52.
Everyone has their own time zone. We don't have to rush for success. When we should accompany our children, we should accompany them well and seriously. If you choose the elderly to take care of the children, you must make up for the time in the evening, spend more time with the children, let the children have a sense of security, and promote the relationship between parents and children.