Many girls only care about whether the two parties love each other, but ignore whether the other party is good or bad.
You always feel that as long as a person loves you, he is a good person, and he is worthy of trust.
But in fact, bad guys also fall in love.
It's just that passion will always fade, and it is only a matter of time before the essence is revealed, and the quality of his character really determines whether you can be happy by his side.
So don't use your perspective to feel how romantic and unforgettable the "love" he brings youBecause the ambiguous period and the love period are the upper limit of a person, they are confusing and have no reference value.
You have to focus on judging his personality from the perspective of a third party, who is not in love with him, does not have blindness, but can see more clearly and objectively.
A person who is good at considering problems from the perspective of others and has strong empathy ability will also be good at considering problems from your point of view, and will truly understand and substitute your feelings, which will directly improve the communication efficiency of both parties in the future.
But people who can't empathize with others, or even sneer and lack reverence, no matter how good they are to you on the surface, are indifferent in nature.
You are forever separated from him by a thick barrier, and he is not only unable to empathize with your pain, but even good at suppressing and provoking you.
Love is equal and respectful.
You can take care of you, you can spoil you, but only if he treats you as an equal individual, not his own possessions.
Backward compatible love often brings you a good experience of inclusiveness, leading you to think that this is true love, but he just enjoys your sense of accomplishment as a weakling.
But he didn't dare to make you strong, didn't dare to treat you equally, didn't dare to admit your excellence.
It's not love, it's his selfishness.
On weekdays, you can test his views on family status and role assignment, including observing the way he gets along with his family of origin.
How he views his partner, how he views married life, and how he views the relationship between the sexes on a large level directly determines your future life status with him.
As long as you are clearly aware of his lack of respect for women, lack of recognition, and his mind is completely shackled by the feudal perception that "women are inferior to men", don't think that you can get away with it.
In the end, his contempt for women will eventually fall on you.
I am a profound, national second-level psychological counselor, translator of the book "Nonviolent Communication ยท Translator of "Gender Chapter", member of Dalian Psychological Association, 34 years old, married with children, willing to share my attitude