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Hello, I'm the moon.
In 2024, I will be 24 years old when I was born in 00. Even if I don't want to admit it all the time, I resist it in my heart, but I can't hide this bloody reality.
Of course, I, a single and unmarried girl, have also become the object of everyone's nagging and urging during the Chinese New Year.
Most of my friends around me have changed their avatars to their little cute babies, and the background of the circle of friends has changed to a photo of themselves and their husbands, or wedding photos, and my circle of friends has always shown me to drink tea, eat, and work**.
My mother also urged me to find a partner from time to time, for example, I said I was going to go out to play, my mother: find a boyfriend wow, you guys go out and play by yourself.
I said I wanted to eat Chongqing's hemp claws, my mother: find a boyfriend, Chongqing's best, let him send it to you.
Even the little cousin of the family went back to her parents' house for the New Year, and when she saw the child who was just a few months old, my mother said: Hurry up and learn to hold the child, otherwise you won't know how to hold the child if you are single.
But when it comes to falling in love, I'm in a hurry, let alone getting married, I can't just pull a single and unmarried boy on the street and go to the Civil Affairs Bureau with me to get married!
I have two families, one for my father and one for my mother, even if I am in love, will the man go back to my father's house or my mother's house with me, and which family should I do when I get married?
This is a big problem, and as a girl who grew up with her grandparents and her parents are divorced, I really have a sense of powerlessness and domineering possessiveness of feelings.
I want to meet someone who can accept my domineering possessiveness, so I will consider falling in love and getting married.
My little cousin is younger than me, and her second child has been born, I don't envy her, but I bless her.
Not envious, I don't know if she will be happy in such a life. But I know that this kind of life is not what I want at the moment, and my heart is resistant.
In my family, an elder brother and sister-in-law often quarreled after marriage, and I was only a teenager at the time, which made a bad impression on me, so for a long time I felt that married life was only endless quarrels, even if they were happy now.
A friend who is about the same age as mine, she and her husband are in the same bed and have different dreams, and often leave their two-year-old children to go out to play with other boys.
I often advised her to spend more time with her children, but she felt that I was blocking her from pursuing a happy life, and then broke off her friendship with me. Actually, I just feel sorry for that child.
That's why I've always told my girlfriends that you can live in a two-person world after you get married, and when the time comes, you can have another child.
I also told my sisters who are in love and not yet married, don't get pregnant before marriage, don't get pregnant before marriage.
Maybe my thoughts are a little extreme, but as a single and unmarried girl, I really want to say: marriage is both heaven and grave.
Here are 6 tips I would like to share with single and unmarried girls, hoping that girls can marry happily:
Two years ago, when I first became a tea teacher, I met a boy who was a programmer, and I was also a programmer, so we had a conversation.
After two or three months of acquaintance, he confessed to me, I said I would consider it, and he said okay, wait for my answer. Later, one day he got drunk at a party, and his brother asked me to go to the hotel to take care of him, and I went.
I asked him if he could show me his phone, and he said yes, I just looked at it, I didn't know if I didn't look at it, and I was shocked when I saw it. Good fellow, I'm actually a fish in his pond.
He has a girlfriend in his hometown, and his husband and wife call him every day. There were other ambiguous objects, and I was confused for a moment, and then I knew that this boy was not worthy of my relationship. I blocked him and took a taxi home alone.
Saying this is not for the girls to check each other's mobile phones, but to say: If a person is willing to show you privacy, it means that you are still in the other person's heart.
But he may not be the only one in his heart, and you have to observe this carefully.
I'm small, 2 years younger than me, I treat her as my own sister, and she fell in love when I was still studying. She got married before I even graduated from college.
I called her ** to find out that she was pregnant before marriage, and her in-laws didn't hold a wedding for her, and she didn't even want to give a bride price. Later, the small family was a little stronger, and the in-laws reluctantly gave a little dowry.
Now she is not having a good time, because of the high cost of raising children, she has not bought anything for herself for a long time.
A few times before the small gathering, she said:
I really envy you two sisters, you can choose the life you want to live, I have to think about it for a long time to even buy a **.
Over the years, I have seen hundreds of couples, not thousands, but hundreds, of which the chances of pregnancy and childbirth after marriage are much greater than that of having children before marriage.
Before marriage, you can ask for a car or a house, or even a high bride price, because you can't hold the things that come from a prostitute, and even make your in-laws look down on you.
My grandfather told me that there is a dowry before there is a bride price, if you don't have much dowry, don't ask for too much dowry, just a good number of auspicious figures, and you can take back and return it to the man.
I didn't understand these before, but now I understand, people are emotional animals, and most of the expenses of falling in love between you and the two are borne by the man, so if you want a high bride price, you can't say it.
If you really think about the future, save more dowry for yourself, you have a high dowry to have a high dowry.
Have you ever seen a boy who owes tens of thousands of dollars in debt to play games? I've seen it, it's my classmate.
At that time, he borrowed a lot of people's money in order to play games, but he couldn't pay it back, so he borrowed a w loan, and finally his parents came forward to pay it back.
Once people are obsessed with games, it is really difficult to quit, if you are an ordinary child from an ordinary family, please stay away from boys who are obsessed with playing games, if you have gold and silver mountains at home, when I didn't say it.
Do you still remember Chen Shimei in Bao Qingtian? He studied hard for more than ten years, and his wife accompanied him for many years, and finally he was admitted to the champion and did not welcome his wife into Beijing, but married a princess.
When the original wife was found, he also tried his best to kill the original wife. Who of you would dare to approach such a ruthless and ungrateful man?
Maybe not in real life, but there are still people who are not grateful, so let's stay away for the sake of happiness in the future.
When you are in love, two people will be very happy if you eat a beef patty, but you can't get married. It costs a lot of money to set up a banquet with a wedding bag and red envelopes, and I have participated in helping my brother in the family to get married.
Those gift flowers, red envelopes, even if it is only one yuan or two yuan, are nearly 100,000.
There is also a wedding car, a new house, not to mention the banquet in the hotel, my brother and sister-in-law got married, and they took me to calculate it, and it really cost a lot of money. There are also child raising fees in the back, and interest class tutoring fees when they are older, which is all money! So, let's make the money first!
The divorce rate is getting higher and higher, and many of the new friends I meet are divorced.
Recently, my family is urging me to fall in love and get married, and I can't help but wonder why there are so many divorced people?
The reason I came up with now is probably that I don't want to get married, but because everyone around me is getting married, and my parents are getting older and urging me to get married.
For the sake of the happiness and peace of mind of his parents, he got married. But when I was in my thirties and forties, I found that the person I really wanted to marry appeared, or I found that I didn't want to maintain a superficial happiness, so various problems led to divorce.
I don't know if it's fortunate or unfortunate, I just know: I really can't listen to the people around you to let you get married.
Most people don't live to understand in their lives, and if you listen to someone who doesn't live to understand, then why bother.
Marriage should be considered only when you meet the right person, rather than being obedient and rushing to get married.
Moon hopes that every single and unmarried girl can marry happiness, and then be a happy girl. 100 Helping Programs
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