When a man has an extramarital affair, the most obvious thing is that no matter how he looks at you, he feels unpleasant.
Especially when I was just with my lover, I was most disgusted, and I didn't want to see my partner, when I saw it, I was angry everywhere, and I lost my temper with you for no reason.
He will also blame you for all the reasons for your questioning and asking for explanations, blaming you for not caring and understanding him enough.
In addition to that, he will treat you in these ways.
1. Compromise you financially
For a woman who is dependent on a man, has no job, no income, and is at home full-time, the other party is her only one, her backer.
If she files for divorce because of an extramarital affair, she won't get anything, and she won't even be able to support herself.
He knows this, so as long as you mess with him, he will cut off your finances, or reduce your financial investment in the family, and force you to compromise.
For example, if you don't give you living expenses, or only give a little living expenses, and when you beg him in a low voice, he will negotiate terms with you, or take back your salary card, modify secrets, and so on.
If you have to get a divorce, in terms of property distribution, he will try his best to prevent you from getting a cent.
I saw a case today, the husband cheated, the wife went out of the house, only because when she got married, after receiving the certificate, the woman received the bride price, and the girl used the bride price to buy a house.
This became the joint property after marriage, and the two repaid the loan together after marriage, and when the divorce came, the man took out the "IOU" signed by the family in private, which was the 200,000 yuan of the bride price, and asked to repay the money.
In the end, the girl got nothing, no child custody, and no money.
2. Put pressure on you
It's obvious that he did something wrong, but he blames you for the reason, because you don't understand him, don't care about him, ignore him, and are too strong, so he will go to someone else.
Under your loud noise, I don't feel guilty at all, but I feel like a shrew, the more I look at it, the more unpleasant it becomes, the more irritable I become, I don't want to say more, and I don't want to see you.
The Cold War, disconnection, and constant suppression and belittling of you, make you fall into self-doubt and emotional breakdown, and self-reflection on whether you are not good enough.
Those who do wrong things are at large, and those who are hurt suffer from gains and losses, and their lives are dark.
All his actions are forcing you to give in or abdicate.
Although he did not think of separating from you at the moment, to each of them;
But during that period of time, I was angry when I saw you, it was real, probably trying to wander between two people.
3. You have to make a change
A woman asks: If your husband cheats, will you choose to continue or divorce?
A woman replied like this: "When I found out, I was quite devastated, but I still pressed it down rationally, and began to take pictures to collect evidence, and find a lawyer to simulate the property commitment agreement and child custody compensation;
Do everything well, I take my salary into my own hands, apply for higher education, learn a driver's license, and cash out all the money in my family;
I started to dress up, ignore him when I was in a good mood, deal with two sentences when I was bad, not tear my face, and pave the way for my future departure."
When encountering betrayal, many people want to leave, but there are too many ties and no courage.
But after experiencing this, you must grow yourself and know what is the most reliable.
In this life, no matter how much you trust a person, don't bet your life on this person.
Yourself, you must maintain the value of an output that can bring you compensation.
Don't be entangled in love or not, but how much ability you have, how much savings, and whether you have the ability to live well if you leave someone.
If not, then start now, change yourself, improve yourself, and pave a new path for yourself.