Recently, the husband of a female middle school teacher in Shanghai reported his wife's "cheating" and "having sex with minors" in his real name, which quickly spread on the Internet and aroused public discussion. The husband of the female teacher compiled more than 200 pages of chat logs as evidence, showing the raw desires between the female teacher and the male student on the Internet. 
Subsequently, the school involved issued a notice to suspend the female teacher and launch an investigation. 
The behavior of the female teacher is undoubtedly extremely wrong, so is it illegal?According to the lawyer's interpretation, the ** crime stipulated in China's Criminal Law is that the target of the violation is women and young girls, not men. The premise of constituting the crime of coercion is that the offender has carried out violence, coercion and other means against the victim, regardless of whether the victim is voluntary or not, as long as the victim is a child (i.e., under 14 years old), it constitutes the crime of **child. The female teacher in the incident did not meet the conditions for the punishment of the student. To put it simply, the behavior of female teachers is cheating but not illegal, but they will be punished by the education administrative department and the school. After the incident, many netizens felt that the two of them "you love me" is very good, and even commented that it is".A modern version of Yang Guo and Xiaolongnu”。But X-chan felt that Mr. Jin Yong was so angry that the coffin board was almost unable to hold it down. 
From the records of the female teacher's husband, it can be seen that the female teacher is a "habitual offender": in each class of students, she will calculate a goal, and she even said lightly that "there was no shortage of male students in the previous class that she liked". So is this a simple and innocent aunt Xiaolongnu?In this case, the female teacher obviously violated the professional ethics of the teacher, and the student was also forced to endure the emotional and moral pressure of premature maturity, which will inevitably affect his studies and life, and is the biggest victimToday, X-chan will take this topic to talk to you about "teacher-student love".
The teacher-student relationship in film and television works is often grayThere are many themes of "teacher-student love" in film and television works. The French movie "The Piano Teacher" is about a twisted love affair between a teacher and a student. The 40-year-old heroine is a respected piano teacher, because she has lived with her control freak mother for a long time, her life is depressed, and her emotions cannot be vented, she has become cold and withdrawn. Until one day she met a blonde energetic male student, and the other party was attracted by her strange and quiet temperament, and the heroine was completely caught in it. The heroine's long-term unreleased desire is presented in a way that mentally and physically abuses each other in this relationship, and the male student finally realizes this deformed love and leaves the other party. 
The movie "Piano Teacher" is no coincidence, and the British movie "Farewell Love in the Classroom" also describes a story of teacher-student love. A 15-year-old teenager in the budding period of adolescence fell in love with a beautiful biological female teacher and stepped into the ** world of adults. And the husband of the female teacher also mistook the boy for a student who came to the house to make up the lesson, and took him to enjoy it together. At the end of the film, the boy finally realizes that the emotional needs of the female teacher are just a manifestation of animal instinct, and he leaves the female teacher, accepts the emotions of the girl who once showed his love, and finds his true feelings. 
The topic of teacher-student love in the movie "Farewell Love in the Classroom" is often grayed in film and television works, and the results are often not good. We can see the emotional trajectories of adolescent boys and girls and the unique sensitivity of adolescent children, while as adult teachers, there is more or less a psychological crisis, either family disharmony, long-term depression, or psychological unhealth, and will behave against ethics and morals.
Why does teacher-student love arise? Art ** in life, in real life, the topic of teacher-student love often appears. So why does teacher-student love arise? (1) The phenomenon of teacher lover is a peculiar phenomenon of sexual psychological developmentAdolescence is a critical period for a person's psychosexual development. Foreign psychologists divide this period into three stages: the first stage, the period of sexual antipathy; the second stage, the period of fanaticism for the opposite sex; The third stage is the period of romantic love. During adolescence, the image of their parents becomes blurred in their minds, their sense of self becomes strong, and the desire to escape from their parents becomes strong, but because of their own inadequacy, there is a sense of powerlessness, and they crave understanding and recognition. Teachers who preach and solve doubts are more mature than their peers, and understand them better than their parents, and students are prone to develop a special hazy relationship between the opposite sex towards them. 
The movie "The Piano Teacher".(2) The phenomenon of loving teachers is another manifestation of the father-loving complexThe process of human socialization is completed by the family, society, and school, and if children have a strong psychological dependence on their parents, they cannot complete their self-growth well. Their subconscious love for their parents is easily transferred to the teachers who care for them, and they mistakenly mistake it for love. If it is said that the student has a love for the teacher because of the development of sexual psychology, and if the teacher has feelings for the student, it is more a reflection of unsound personality development and immature psychological development.
Why is teacher-student love not allowed? Although the story of teacher-student love in artwork looks poignant and moving, in real life, teacher-student love is often not allowed. For teacher-student love, many people believe that love should transcend the restrictions of age and class, and reflect the free will of the parties as much as possible. But isn't that too idealistic and naïve? Objectively think about it, teachers are generally well versed in the world and the city is quite profound, while students are young and simple, and the emotional world is blank, and it is difficult to have a truly equal free love between the two. If it is an ignorant student, the unrequited love teacher is still excusable, and once the teacher responds to it, or the teacher takes the initiative to show favor to the student, there will be a suspicion of dereliction of duty and abuse of authority. 
The movie "Don't Love in the Classroom" regardless of whether the students are minors or not, whether the two exist or not, because of the asymmetry of power, it is easy to be considered "sexual harassment". What is sexual harassment? Generally speaking, it is "the undesirable coercive desire in a relationship of unequal power", which includes many forms of offensive behavior and can be divided into 4 categories:One is sexually related verbal provocations, such as telling pornographic jokes; second, non-verbal initiatives related to sexuality, such as the display of pornographic books; the third is to put forward sexual requirements; Fourth, physical contact, such as touching the victim's sensitive parts. Under the relationship of asymmetry of power, it is impossible to achieve "you love me" in the workplace in the true sense, even if both teachers and students are adults, they will face various problems, such as the following. Problem 1: There is an asymmetry of power between teachers and studentsBecause there is an asymmetry of power between teachers and students, the "voluntary consent" of the student side is questionable. In addition, the policies of many colleges and universities in the United States mention that in the case of power asymmetry, teacher-student relationships risk turning into "sexual harassment". Problem 2: Conflict of interest among studentsTeachers and students in romantic relationships, especially those in mentoring relationships, have conflicts of interest. About half of U.S. colleges and universities have policies on student-faculty relationships that address conflicts of interest, nepotism, favoritism, and unethical behavior. If teachers and students are allowed to fall in love, and it is difficult for teachers to evaluate students involved in romances objectively, then it is unfair to other students, and there is a situation of favoritism. Question 3:Negative impact on the learning environmentWhen the boundaries between teachers and students are broken, the educational atmosphere will be compromised and thus become unconducive to learning; Teacher-student relationships can have a negative impact on the person involved, on other students and teachers, and even on the campus atmosphere as a whole. Various other issues:Of course, the teacher-student relationship will lead to the decline of students' grades, the waste of their studies, and the damage to the interests of other students, as well as a series of ethical and moral problems such as the damage to the reputation of the school and the destruction of the complete family. 
The movie "Don't Love in the Classroom".These are facts that no amount of noble excuses can conceal, and therefore teacher-student love is not allowed. Article 24 of the Provisions on the Protection of Minors in Schools, which came into effect in September 2021, clearly prohibits teachers and staff from having romantic or sexual relations with students. The "Teacher Code of Ethics" in the United States stipulates that any teacher who has sexual harassment, teacher-student love and other similar behaviors will be immediately fired and never hired. Feminist Wagner is a firm advocate that, given the power difference between teachers and students, "there can be no acquiescence to teacher-student romantic relationships, regardless of the age of the pupil or whether the pupil enters into it voluntarily." ”
How to avoid teacher-student love? "Teacher-student love" is by no means only a moral issue, nor is it a simple psychological or ethical issue, and its development can easily break through the cage of morality and go to the opposite side of public order and good customs. There are often news in the social news that male teachers sexually harass female students, female teachers sexually seduce male students, and so on, so we must be vigilant. At this time, it is necessary to have a wide range of constraints on the social system, a positive education system, propaganda and guidance, supervision from all walks of life, and the effective implementation of rules and regulations ......So, how can teachers and students avoid teacher-student love? Deliberately maintain physical distancing
Keeping a distance can put teachers and students in a state of respect and respect. Pay attention to issues of principle
Recognize your role and be clear about the code of conduct you should follow. Get the right sense of proportion
Teachers should bring students to respect and love, and students should respect and love teachers, speak and behave in a civilized manner, and should not have too close romance and behavior with each other. According to incomplete statistical surveys, in marriage and love relationships, the proportion of unilateral cheating is as high as 40%-76%, of which the proportion of men is significantly higher than that of women, so how loyal are you to the relationship? There is a fun test below, enter the [Solution X] applet app to find this test to detect your cheating tendency self-assessment, come and see [Free].
Write at the endThere are countless stories of teachers and students circulating in society, and the relationship between teachers and students is also beautiful and touching because of the sincere and pure relationship. Teachers and students alike should cherish this precious friendship and not tarnish it with undifferentiated desires and misdeeds. references：———1]title: rose hidden in a schoolbag: exclusive reader for boys and girls aged 12-18, author: mu zhi, publishing house: lixin accounting publishing house, publishing time: 2011-05-01Author: kkTypesetting: kk