I have written a lot of emotional articles, a lot about "marriage", and some about the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but I don't seem to talk much about this issue from a man's perspective.
To be honest, marriage itself is a complicated matter
All kinds of trivial things in life are not small challenges for the couple.
If you add the role of a mother-in-law, then the trouble will only get more and more.
Therefore, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has plagued many families since ancient times.
Actually,The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, and sometimes it is really not a human problem, but a role problem.
I believe that most mothers-in-law are reasonable.
I also believe that most daughters-in-law want to get along with their mothers-in-law.
It's a pity that the two of them got together, and they couldn't live well.
So, for a man caught between the two, learning to reconcile is key.
So, when the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, what should a man do?
To be a good son and a good husband, learning these 4 points is the key.
1.Don't run away, face the problem.
After getting married, as long as the parents are alive, how to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a problem that cannot be bypassed.
Unless it's really completely out of contact, otherwise, even if you don't live together, there will definitely be all kinds of bad things.
Unfortunately, some men will always choose to escape when they encounter conflicts between their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, or in the middle and mud.
In fact, such an approach will not solve the problem at all, and will also exacerbate the contradictions.
Therefore, men must first set their own mentality, and when there is a conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, they must take the initiative to stand up and actively solve the problem.
2.Rational analysis, help not help relatives.
My wife and mother are the closest people to me, so when there is a conflict between them, the man's position is very important.
Since it's not good to stand on anyone's side, try to do a good job of helping and not helping relatives.
When dealing with the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, a man should remain calm, deeply understand the root cause of the conflict, analyze the views and demands of both parties, and find out the crux of the problem.
In this process, men should be just and fair and not take sides.
Only in this way can the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law be convinced and fundamentally resolve the contradictions.
3.Solve problems with a friendly attitude.
Sometimes, there is no absolute right or wrong in the big and small problems in the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
At this time, men should use their brains and think about how they can solve the problem.
If it really can't be solved, find a compromise solution and try to make it acceptable to both parties.
In the process of solving problems, a man's attitude is crucial.
Be patient, be kind, and the key is not to lose your temper with either party.
Only in this way can they both feel your sincerity and then cooperate with your solution.
4.With more love, life is more harmonious.
On weekdays, whether it is for their mothers or their wives, men should be more concerned and considerate of them.
Women need to be coaxed, no matter how old they are.
You can talk more sweetly, or you can buy some gifts to make them happy.
Some small gestures can actually make them feel your love and care, so as to reduce the resentment in their hearts.
In addition, you can also say more good things to let the mother-in-law understand the difficulties of the daughter-in-law, and let the daughter-in-law respect the mother-in-law's worries.
Actually,Most women are kinder, and some mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law are not in harmony, which is really just a matter of roles.
If both parties can be rational, then life will be much more harmonious.
For men, with a good cushion, there will be a lot fewer problems.
Finally, I want to say that,Some questions are too difficult, and if you really can't do them, try to leave them blank ......