The biggest illusion of loneliness is that it makes people alone. It's as if between heaven and earth, there is only oneself, and no one knows about it.
But it has the greatest tolerance, allowing people to see all things in heaven and earth, so how can man be alone?
What exactly is loneliness? It's hard to translate this feeling into a concrete face. Jiang Xun divided loneliness into six parts, so there was "Six Lectures on Loneliness".
In fact, this is the transcript of six speeches, and the topic of ** has touched on all aspects of people. Slice the loneliness, this is probably something that I never thought about.
The six kinds of loneliness are not something that everyone can taste, some people may have experienced ** loneliness, language loneliness, but may have never seen revolutionary loneliness, violent loneliness, and even thinking loneliness and ethical loneliness.
It's okay not to experience them, at least to see what they really are.
In the first lecture, Jiang Xun said that people are afraid of loneliness and think it is not good, so they will try their best to expel it. However, the more scared you are, the more you can't get rid of it.
Loneliness has nothing to do with whether you love or not, even if you have people who love you, your parents, relatives and friends, you will still be lonely. As the saying goes: There is so much loneliness when you get married, but you can't tolerate a trace of free air.
Confucian culture is a group culture, and individuality is repressed, so each individual is not allowed to face loneliness, neither allowing others to be lonely nor afraid of their own loneliness. In Confucian culture, loneliness is dangerous, but the fact that everyone must bear their own loneliness has become a common understanding in the Western world.
But in a group, there is no way to get rid of loneliness, and there is no way to know how to deal with loneliness.
In fact, we have to learn to fall in love with ourselves, and the first object of everyone's love is themselves. Talk to yourself, be quiet in your own space, listen to your breathing and heartbeat, give yourself peace, and then face your surroundings so that you will not panic and be afraid of loneliness.
When the dialogue with yourself slowly settles down, you will find that everyone can be the other half of you, because there is always a part of each person that is in tune with the other half of your life. At this time, you will no longer feel lonely, and your life will be richer and more fulfilling.
In fact, it is difficult to explain exactly how loneliness exists. As it is said in the loneliness of language, is language as a communication tool more accurate to achieve the effect?
It's a pity that there is no 100% accurate language, no matter how the meaning is conveyed, there is always a loss, and misunderstandings are like wildflowers on the roadside.
Not to mention vague language, once vague, you don't know what is being conveyed. Of course, ambiguity is also beautiful, and there are some words that should not be said too clearly, like: the moonlight is so beautiful tonight.
There is no best language in the world, no matter how accurate it is, it will become rigid, no matter how beautiful it is, it will become a dead hole of language.
However, language is conveying on the one hand, and it cannot be conveyed on the other, which is the most tangled, which makes people love and hate.
The best literature is to create the ambiguity of language in the precision of language. The ambiguity of language is that it can be interpreted this way or that way, which is both precise and misleading.
When people want to break out of loneliness or apathy, they fill the space with words and keep talking. People want to use language to get closer to each other but are afraid of blasphemy, so that in the end language becomes awkward.
When people are in a state of loneliness, the language of loneliness will emerge, which is another state of language, the state of communicating with oneself.
Thinking loneliness is the greatest loneliness. Its worst enemy is the conclusion, and once the conclusion comes, the process becomes unimportant. But the process of thinking is the most important.
Life is ridiculous, thinking about why it is ridiculous, this feeling comes from **, how to deal with this feeling, is the beginning of speculation.
The brain thinks in a way, and the senses are also a way of thinking, and thinking directly with the body, even with reason, there will be a ridiculous result. But once the tools of psychology are used to reverse the analysis, the reason given by people becomes a certain explanation, cover-up, excuse, which may or may be true. Just believe it yourself.
When reason is unable to contemplate the absurdity of life, the senses point directly to the absurdity. Even if reason doesn't admit it, the absurdity is there.
Loneliness is a kind of precipitation, and the thinking after precipitation is clear. The emptiness of matter is simple, and the emptiness of the mind is empty.
The person who can think independently in the public must be lonely, because his words may not be understood, or even rejected, so lonely, should he continue to think? Maverick maintenance is hard. This kind of holding is also a kind of loneliness.
Thinking is a personal matter, and when the result of thinking is different, should we keep it, or should we be consistent with the public, or should we continue to think?
When you are lonely, when you want to find the reason why you are not lonely, that is the loneliest.
Learn to live with loneliness, and you will be more mature, because loneliness is not loneliness.
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