There is a very classic story in the Analects called "Passing the Court Training".
One day, Confucius was standing in the courtyard, and when his son Kong Li, saw it, he wanted to sneak away.
Confucius stopped him and asked, "Have you learned etiquette today?" ”
Kong Lili replied: "No." ”
Confucius taught his son, "If you don't learn etiquette, you can't stand in society." ”
China is a country of etiquette, and in the process of 5,000 years of cultural inheritance, many rules have been left behind.
During the Spring Festival, people come and go, and the children's words and deeds reveal politeness and upbringing.
Today, I have compiled some rules that should be paid attention to during the Chinese New Year, and I hope that parents can learn from them.
Don't talk nonsense
The older generation often said: everything has rules.
The state has national laws, there are rules for conduct, and there are naturally rules for speaking.
Especially during the Chinese New Year, everyone will inevitably visit relatives and friends, and there will be many guests at home to visit the New Year.
If the child does not know the etiquette of speaking, it is inevitable that he will say something embarrassing to his parents.
Not only does it make people feel that children are uneducated, but it even affects the perception of adults.
Therefore, on such a happy day as the Spring Festival, parents must tell their children what not to say:
At the dinner table
I believe that every year during the Spring Festival, everyone will meet such a child at the dinner table:
Occupy your favorite dishes and don't let others eat them;
wantonly pulling tablecloths, pushing tables, throwing food, spilling and crying;
After a few bites, he ran around and squeezed past the guests into the table ......
Parents of children are not surprised and accustomed to it.
As a bystander, the usual first reaction is that this child is not educated.
Some people say that a person's background can be seen from the way he holds chopsticks, and his cultivation and connotation can be seen best by a person's casual behavior when eating.
Just the time of a meal, you can see the tutor behind the child.
Before the Spring Festival dinner, parents must tell their children in advance about several things that should be paid attention to at the dinner table
When there are guests
Chang Liju Ju Yao" said:and the door first, open and close for customers; The entrance must be a guest ......
When guests come, they must talk about etiquette and abide by the rules.
As a member of the family, children naturally have an obligation to help their parents entertain guests.
In the process of ushering in the send-off, children can also understand more etiquette rules and exercise their ability to deal with others.
So as to gradually grow into a person who is decent in words and deeds, sensible and considerate.
Go to someone else's house
Zhihu has a hot topic about bear children.
There are more than 3,000 replies, almost all of which are related to relatives visiting the house during the Spring Festival.
One of the netizens said:
Think about the parents of these bear children are so pitiful, they can give birth to them, but they can't raise them, thinking that they love him but are harming him. The big treasure that he regards as a treasure, dotes, and wants to provide for himself is a disgusting annoying spirit in the eyes of others. ”
The comments of netizens are certainly a bit sharp.
But as a parent, if you don't educate your child well, it is inevitable that he will not be disliked in the future.
Parents who really understand education will take the opportunity of the Spring Festival to teach their children the rules of being guests:
China has been a country of traditional etiquette since ancient times, and the rules handed down by our ancestors are the inheritance of Chinese civilization, which often contains profound ways of life and ways of doing things.
The Spring Festival period is also a good time to teach children to be human beings, and the upbringing engraved in the bones is the most valuable asset that parents leave to their children.
ClickThumbs up, leave a ruler in the child's heart, so that he knows how to measure, know etiquette, abide by the rules, and grow up healthily.