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How many "parent groups" have you joined?
Since the child entered school, I have found that the social interaction has expanded a lot, the group has entered more, the group chat has become active, and the problems I talk about every day are basically related to the "child".
There are too many topics derived from a child.
Some people may not have a very clear concept of this, the chicken baby group is different from the ordinary mother group, the ordinary mother group, you can talk about children, you can talk about family conflicts, you can talk about anything you want to talk about, the parents of the chicken baby group are not so "gentle", only if you are like playing chicken blood, you can "chicken" move your child.
"Chicken Baby" group, obviously, the group is set up for "chicken baby", and it can also make yourself not lonely on the road of chicken baby.
The top of the food chain of the chicken flock is the "Haidian mother group", and the chicken baby flock in other regions has a variety of manifestations.
In the mother group I joined, each group will talk about babies, but there is only one group that talks about children's learning, further education, and courses the most, and it can be regarded as the most superficial "chicken baby group".
But at most, we are talking about the child's personality, the child's personality development, habit formation, classroom performance, extracurricular training, and did not take the initiative to chicken the baby, at least I didn't, the principle that I raised the baby is "the child is within a certain framework, physically and mentally healthy and free", followed by being able to keep up, just master the basic knowledge.
Reaching this level is particularly easy, with little to no worries, peace of mind and effort.
Parents and children like us are not qualified to enter the strict "chicken baby group".
The Haidian chicken baby group only exists in legends, because no one around us has the opportunity to enter such a group, and several friends and classmates in Beijing have never entered such a parent group.
There is only the shadow of this group on the Internet, but no one around me has really entered such a group, it is easy to understand, the parents who can enter such a group basically have Ivy League school experience, they are all social elites, and their children are also excellent (at least in childhood).
A parent who has ** experience on the Internet, as well as ** unsuccessful parents, wrote a detailed sharing, which made people stunned.
1. The threshold is very high.
A netizen revealed that the child was 4 years old, raz read c, Heineman g1, oxford tree 3, and thought he was already very good, but ** was still rejected on the grounds that the child's learning progress was not enough, and ** could not keep up.
The parents were not convinced, and said, "Are you recruiting a doctor?" Did you graduate from Tsinghua University or Peking University? ”
The response given by the group owner was: "I am really, I am really above the Qingbei score line in the college entrance examination, graduated from Antai College of Economics and Management of Shanghai Jiao Tong University, and my teammates graduated from Tsinghua University." The Ivy League school background and parents in our group are not as big as this person who can't enter the group. ”
In fact, it is very clear that this group is the elite of the current elites, and it just so happens that these elites are good at chicken babies, which is not something that ordinary people can integrate into at all, and in the end it is still a different class.
So, just look at the excitement, I can't enter, I don't want to enter, even if I really let go and go in, I really can't keep up with their progress, because our personal ability and pattern are here, and the "chicken" does not move.
2. Group regulations.
*Is that the end there? Can you dive to watch the big bulls coil the baby, and then work hard silently?
Wrong, there are strict rules in the group:
If you want to dive, secretly watch people Panwa, it's impossible, and there is also a "rotation" in the group, which changes every Monday, and takes turns to be the administrator, and you must output valuable information, otherwise the result after entering is also "kicked".
Parents in the group shared, it usually seems that it is a "fairy fight", to be honest, just look at the excitement, if you really put **, you really can't keep up, and you don't have the ability to keep up.
Is the chicken baby necessarily good or bad?
Nothing is absolute, of course, educating children is also, with the right method, the "chicken" is the right way, even if the child's qualifications are average, I believe that the stupid bird flies first, there are still many benefits.
I'm afraid that some parents "chicken" red eyes, only according to their own planning, completely ignoring the child's age and talent, on the one hand, chicken baby, on the other hand, in order to achieve the purpose of chicken baby, the child is suppressed, the result of this kind of chicken baby is that the child will not only not become the person they imagined, but even go to some extreme.
Haidian chicken baby group, let's just take a look on the Internet, this group itself is in the clouds, very far away from ordinary people, these children are under the influence of their parents, they are originally winning at the starting line, as long as there is no mistake, they can go far with their eyes closed.
The once popular tiger mother, Cai Meier, is very popular in Beijing and even the whole country, and her set of "chicken baby" concept is deeply respected by parents.
But when the child grows up, the problem arises, and more and more people realize the problem of this parenting style.
Children and parents are not machines, not written into the program to run in strict accordance with the program, especially children, in the process of growing up, the mind gradually matures, the character gradually forms, excessive repression, coercion, lack of warmth and love feelings, will have a big problem in the parent-child relationship, and this is bound to affect them for a lifetime.
Including Liu Yiting, a Harvard girl who was once all the rage in China, her growth experience has also attracted a lot of attention, and now she has become the most ordinary middle class in the United States.
Some people say that this is already very good, yes, it is very good, the children who were "chickens" by their parents, the children who have attracted much attention in China, and on the other side of the ocean, they are just the most ordinary middle class.
Some of the children who were raised by their parents were better than their parents, and some had various problems and even chose "zisha".
We can't say that the "chicken baby" is good or bad, the key point is the child's feelings, if the child does not feel depressed, does not feel that he is "chicken", that is good, if the child feels great pressure, then it should be another way.