Recently, I have been chasing the TV series "South to North". Although it doesn't make me forget to sleep and eat, but on the whole, I think it's good-looking, a bit of the flavor of old dramas, like watching "Parents' Love", and like watching the Northeast version of "Please Answer 1988", warm, but not sensational.
At present, I have chased 21 episodes, and I haven't seen the finale yet, but because all kinds of short ** are too popular, I have long been spoiled, so I know that the ending of this show, especially the ending of Yao Yuling, is more controversial. How to say it, arranging Niu to vigorously witness Yao Yuling's downfall is a bit disgusting to our female audience, but I don't think this drama is intentional, but the entire production team is trying to restore the original appearance of women's lives at that time - about women's dedication and dedication, but also about prejudice and injustice against women.
If it is really deliberately disgusting to female audiences, there is no need to give Yao Yuling such a long shot of picking up the fairy stick and smiling. That scene actually hides a certain kind of love for Yao Yuling in this drama.
I will definitely write a separate article about Yao Yuling when I go back, what I want to write today is Wang Sufang played by Hu Ke, if there is any control group for the character of Yao Yuling, it is not Ma Yan, it is precisely Yao Yuling.
If there is a benefit, he will go to the station, and he is not willing to treat himself harshly (Yao Yuling); One, who has never really been good to himself in his life, is willing to become a shadow (Wang Sufang).
Frankly speaking, if you look at the past with the thinking of women now, the role of Wang Sufang will be difficult to evaluate, although she will definitely be said to be a good woman by everyone in her era.
Wang Sufang has done a few things that particularly impressed me:
For example, she had lung cancer, but she kept it from her family until the last minute, because she didn't want her daughter and husband to pay too much for her, and she felt that it was unnecessary. She worked at home until the last day of her life.
For example, she insisted on leaving the baby boy that Ma Kui picked up on the train, and told her daughter Ma Yan that because she had lost a child, she felt that this child was rewarded by God, and said to her husband Ma Kui that she would definitely go ahead of him, afraid that he would not be taken care of in the future, saying that although Ma Yan has a solid personality, she is a girl in the end, and she can't bear it when she encounters a big event, and there is a boy and two people who can have a discussion.
Seeing Dr. Shen, who was smart, capable, single, good-looking, and took special care of their family, he secretly moved his mind, hoping that after he left, Dr. Shen could reorganize his family with Ma Kui and live together (but why, why was Dr. Shen sacrificed so much).
And, at the last moment of his life, what he said to Ma Kui was that he made thirty pairs of insoles for him, and made five sets of cotton clothes and pants for his son Ma Jian, which could be worn until he grew up, but he didn't leave anything for his daughter Ma Yan, not that she didn't love her daughter, but that she felt that the girl would do these things herself, but the man had to wait for the woman to do them for him.
As a woman in the new era, it is actually difficult to agree with Wang Sufang's behavior, and she will feel that "why is she so unself-conscious, not taking women seriously, and taking men so seriously".
I can't even find a full face in her stills) but, I understand her very well. I don't feel that "South to North" is full of daddy flavor because of these plots.
I understand that it is because this drama is filmed in the seventies and eighties, the male and female protagonists played by Jin Chen and Bai Jingting are about the same age as our parents' generation, and Wang Sufang played by Hu Ke is actually our grandmother's generation.
In the thinking of that generation, it was difficult for women to have a so-called "self", and women were the victims and devotees of the family.
Wang Sufang is not an isolated case, but the epitome of thousands of women. I used to write my own family story, when I wrote about my grandparents' chapter, saying that my grandma had never really lived for herself in her life, and a reader left me a message, talking about a detail in her grandmother's married life, saying that her grandmother was sick and in pain, and when she was dying, her grandfather also ran to the hospital to ask her grandmother, his **in**.
At that time, this reader's message was called the scariest story of the year by many readers.
"South to North" is actually borrowed from Wang Sufang played by Hu Ke, restoring the reality of women's married life at that time.
I have always felt that on the whole, women of my generation are more fortunate in the matter of marriage, first, our current values are pluralistic, and second, we have choices.
I used to have a question with my mother, about marriage, I asked her: "Mom, can you understand that some young people don't get married now?" ”
My mom said yes, because she knows that young people have more choices nowadays, but from our own life experience, we still want you to get married.
I asked, "Then you are urging marriage because you feel from the bottom of your heart that your married life is particularly happy?" ”
My mom said, "Not really." We didn't think about it that much at that time, we just thought that when we got married, we could have a home, a home of our own. It's very inexplicable, our girls at that time, as soon as they grew up, found that they suddenly had no home, especially if they had brothers in the family, as soon as the brothers got married, their daughters all became outsiders. ”
On that sunny spring afternoon, my mother told me a lot about that era, and after listening to it, I fully understood the desire of women for marriage at that timeIt's not a desire for happiness, it's just a desire for survival, and there has to be a place to stay.
Wang Sufang in "South to North" has actually been dedicating her life to this [place to stay]. Her tenacity, kindness, and bravery, are nowhere to be used, like a punch, and in the end can only fall on the soft cotton of the mess of marriage.
It will not be until a long, long time before we women can say - "can't settle down".
I still think that for most women (and of course there are exceptional women in every era who can transcend them), in fact, we are made by the times, no, more precisely, men. The whole human being is a product of the environment, and human values and ideas are the products of the times.
The way a person can change his destiny may be - don't lie in a certain era. Rather, those who come from the south and those who go north, look at them.
Whew, it's another day of random thinking.