Recently, there is a word called "breakup", which refers to two people who are still in love one day, but suddenly break up the next day, and the temperature of the relationship drops like a cliff, without any progress. Any buffers.
In fact, the so-called "emotional cliff" is nothing more than the fact that the person in it is not aware of the changes in his emotions.
It takes a day to freeze, and a relationship can go from loving each other tenderly to breaking up, but that doesn't happen without warning. It's just that you were too careless to notice the hearts of the people around you at all.
If you want to win a man's heart, you don't have to contact him every day and ask for help. All you need is:
01: Reduce the requirements for men.
Every woman dreams of her partner becoming a hero, riding on the clouds and saving her in her time of need.
But reality turns out that most of the people we meet are ordinary, ordinary people, and our partners are also ordinary, ordinary, and all have some kind of shortcomings.
Some women have already begun the process of "changing" men. They always make all kinds of demands on men and are picky about men's every move.
Their ideas are good, and they want their partner to be better. But their flawed approach is fundamentally wrong and will only push men further and further.
When making demands on men, it's best to reflect on yourself. If you're just the most inconspicuous of all creatures, why ask your partner to perform well?
The truth is that in many cases, it is not the man's fault, but the woman's critical gaze that does not focus on the man's strengths.
Lower the demands on men and discover more of their benefits. If you do this, it will naturally become easier for two people to get along, and the man's heart will be closer to you.
02: Make men vulnerable.
There is a common impression that men should be strong, solid, and like a mountain, to provide women with shelter from the wind and rain.
But men are also human and sometimes vulnerable. If a woman can tolerate a man's weaknesses and is able to tolerate, he will definitely fall in love with you.
There is a sentence in "Thirty Only": "Everyone wants a safe harbor, who will make the harbor!" ”
In fact, the relationship between a man and a woman is to act as a port for each other. Women are not the only ones who can rely on men, and men sometimes need the support of women.
Some women remember that when it comes to profit, equality between men and women, and responsibility, men are responsible. It's unfair to yourself and to men.
A wise woman will accept a man's weaknesses and be on an equal footing with him. Be a comrade-in-arms by his side, not a vase behind him.
Only equal relationships can last, and only partners who trust each other can be more affectionate.
03: Give men space.
There is a saying on the web that resonates with many people: "You can't leave your boyfriend's phone with a smile".
Once, the test of love was whether the boyfriend could check his girlfriend's mobile phone. But in reality, this criterion is meaningless.
Love cannot be managed, nor can it be maintained by defending. Giving men freedom and leeway is the most ingenious way to win men's hearts.
You don't have to control the people who love you, but you can't control the people who don't. It is better to love freely than to be exhausted by paranoia.
It's not skill that wins a man's heart, it's your relationship with him.
I hope that every woman can learn how to get along well in a relaxed relationship with her partner and have a comfortable relationship.